Marriage & Divorce - 18 September 2007

I've been with my partner for almost 8 years now, married for a few. Shortly after we married I met and became best friends with another man. My husband knows he's my best friend and likes him even, but he has always been jealous of him, we spend a lot of time together.

All too quickly we fell in love, this was during a stressful time in my life when he was always there for me. He is married as well. Both of us understand that our relationship is 'wrong'. We've never gotten physical (no kissing or anything) and agree that it shouldn't go further than it has, which is simply saying how we feel.

So my questions... are we cheating on our spouses? and can we stay friends?

2007-09-18 17:18:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

you are all right. I've given him the best years of my life. And yes I am staying for the children. Even though I don't love him, I do care about him. And no way would he get counseling.
Yes I've just started to save money for the first time ever.
We did seperate for 1 yr due to job move but I was still very dependent on him for everything and when he moved back I thought things would get better after being apart but I was wrong. I'm not ready to live on my own as that one year was very difficult by my self. My children are teenagers. Thank you all.

2007-09-18 17:10:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

For some reason I think my husband is cheating on me, he works during the day and sometimes he has to leave to work at night, he is a truck driver locally. The other night he left at 11pm and came home at 12pm the next day just to leave again. I have no proof that he is working, its just him telling me he is. I need proof to be able to leave him, although he has been acting weird with me. We have 2 girls and been 2gether for 4 years. I dont want to leave them without a father but I dont want to live the rest of my life feeling sick to my stomach, what should I do?

2007-09-18 17:03:42 · 19 answers · asked by linda mari 1

What keeps your marriage tick?

2007-09-18 17:00:13 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

i need help writting my husband a letter we have been having some problems, things from his past that i did know have been slowly comming up and i just want to let him know that i love him but i need help writting a really sweet letter to him on how much i love him i suck at this !!!

2007-09-18 16:59:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have made very significant changes in my life for the better over the last 4 yrs to make myself a better person and have made many good steps. But my wife has (in my perception) become less satisfied and even more demanding to a point of making my life very difficult. All I want is for our lives to be better on all levels but she has no desire to please me in anyway and has made it clear she never will. I will continue to improve myself no matter what she does because its for myself and our children but I am haveing resentments for her lack of effort in even the smallest matters. any thoughts

2007-09-18 16:56:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

i havent seen any child support from my kids dad in over a years he is in the army. i want to screw him over royally and fast. how do i do it

2007-09-18 16:47:07 · 18 answers · asked by Marie 2

I've been miserabley married for 19 years and have three children. I've never loved my husband. I got married when I was only 18.He and I don't agree on anything.He is very educated and he's actually a Dr.I've stayed home to raise the children.He treats me very badly and always yells and puts me down.I have no confidence and very low self esteem.He always tells me that I'm stupid and could never do anything.2 years ago I became very depressed and anxious.He suddenly became very nice and supportive.But when I started getting better he went right back to his old self.I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.He is a really great provider (nice home and cars) and is good to the kids most of the time.But I just can't take living like this anymore. He's always making insulting comments and can never show me any affection.My children adore me and I live for them.1 year ago I got a prt time job.(feel better).Can't have a simple conversation with him without him getting angry.

2007-09-18 16:41:08 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

when you are married? nothing physical, just to get the emotional crap women need and their hubby's won't give it out! i have been talking to this guy and he does not know i am married, i know it is wrong. what are your thoughts?

it is only online we do not even live the same state!

2007-09-18 16:33:56 · 21 answers · asked by kadence 1

About 2 years ago, my husband was ran over by an asphalt roller up to his pelvis. He was in ICU for 10 days and rehab for 2 weeks. He was in a wheeler chair for several months. You would have thought that would have brought us so much closer but instead has drove us farther apart. Has anyone heard of this before or any suggestions. I feel like I have to do all the work around the house. He does not make his kids help because they are only here every other week. I am tired and worn out. Then he decided to start a business. Now he picks and choices what he wants to do for that business and will leave me with the rest.
He tells me he is no longer in love with me after I have done for him and stood by his side through the accident. We try to talk and all we do is fight. He will not see a marriage counceler because we been there once. When we were done with the session each night, it would not be a pleasant ride home. He would yell at me for discussing my feelings. Help!

2007-09-18 16:19:40 · 15 answers · asked by MELISSA G 1

Is it normal to have anxiety when your the one who broke up with your boyfriend/girlfriend? Selling the house, car... where do you go... I broke up with my boyfriend because I don't think there is anything left for us, the love is gone. He doesn't feel the same way, but couldn't live with the arguing anymore. Everything he did irritated me. Now I'm getting crazy anxiety because I don't know what I'm going to do or where I'm going to go... advice?

2007-09-18 16:00:47 · 12 answers · asked by Amirra 5

i know i do!

2007-09-18 16:00:35 · 11 answers · asked by like, totally! 1

But that's what everyone thinks now! We live in a small town and now everyone thinks I'm some skank who cheats on her husband as a matter of fact they say I'm having an affair with one of my co workers but I'm not. We went to dinner a couple of weeks ago and the other day we kissed but there is no affair going on and these rumors aren't helping my marriage since my husband is already mad at me and has moved into another bedroom. It was different when he just wasn't talking to me but now it's like the whole town has nothing to discuss but me! Please help!

2007-09-18 15:29:07 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my fiance have been together going on together for two years and 9 months. This girl means the world to me but lately my feelings for her have changed and i dont know why.
I have never cheated and actually have been faithful. I just woke up one morning and everything was different in my mind.
I love this girl to death and she is my everything. I dont want to hurt her. And it brings tears to my ears to know that what i am going to do will tear her apart. *its not her, its me*. My whole family loves her and everything. I dont know what to do. Im scarred of what she is going to do. Someone please help me.
thank you

2007-09-18 15:24:21 · 4 answers · asked by Xavier B 1

I've been divorced for 9 years now and have always said I would never marry again--that is, until I met my current b/f. I've been so fiercly independent and so adamant about not getting married, I believe he has come to accept that and I'm afraid he'll never ask. We're both in our 40's and have been together for a year and a half. We're planning to build a house and move in together, but I'd really like to be married.

2007-09-18 15:13:58 · 27 answers · asked by tangocharlie3663 2

In his will, it said that the money will go to her, and the house go to his children. However, this will was done 12 years ago before they were divorced. We are in the process of trying to fix his house up for sale. We were just wondering what legal issues will come up with this problem.

2007-09-18 15:08:24 · 16 answers · asked by queenie_5132 1

At these times how come there are many divorces seperations in married couples everywhere ? I mean whats up with that?

2007-09-18 15:01:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

again feeling random tonight....and a bit curious. why did you break it off?

2007-09-18 14:59:08 · 22 answers · asked by horizon 4

Are you now or would you ever stay in a miserable marriage? Why stay?
I know that back in the good old stays many people stayed in unhappy marriages for many reasons. I am just learning that even today, there are those that feel compelled to stay.

Have you chosen to stay in a miserable relationship? Do you know anyone who has? Why do/did you or the person you know stay?

2007-09-18 14:58:14 · 15 answers · asked by 2Cute2B4Got 7

There is no mention of stipulations in the divorce decree. We have joint legal custody but I am the primary with physical custody and final "decision maker."

2007-09-18 14:57:34 · 16 answers · asked by Rebecca L 2

I have been married for a little over 3 years. we are in our early 40's . My husband has made the comment several times that "we have lost the passion" and he doesn't feel that our relationship can continue....I feel we have settled and we still make love at least 3 times a week......
So what is he really telling me?

2007-09-18 14:44:50 · 19 answers · asked by R T 1

what is a good way to increase my sex drive?
I am in my first trimester of pregnancy and I want to get intimate with my husbamd but then i just don't feel well. What can I do?

2007-09-18 14:42:35 · 3 answers · asked by Selena H 1

2007-09-18 14:33:31 · 22 answers · asked by scsspace 3

I work full time, school part time, 2 children under 7, married for 6 years together for 11... Our sexual relations have decreased over the years, but I still find it to be within a normal level - once or twice a week. My husband feels that I don't want him anymore, he gets moody if it goes too long - gives me the cold shoulder, snappy at the kids... I have tried to explain that I am not 18 anymore and things change as relationships mature, but he thinks I should be the same as I was 10 years ago... we have other issues too, he has become very possessive of my time - I recently took a new job, and I have business lunches regularly, and work away from my desk alot.. he comments that I have a "cake" job since I "never seem to be at my desk". If I am up late doing an assignment for school and talk to my mom for a few minutes on the phone - he comments that I am "wasting time" - It is my time isn't it?? He makes me feel like a failure - it wasn't always this way... any suggestions??

2007-09-18 14:22:03 · 25 answers · asked by chrissy 3

feeling random tonight. so, where did u meet ur spouse? (highschool, college, job?) and how old were you when you met?

2007-09-18 14:20:02 · 29 answers · asked by horizon 4

So I just turned 20 and my boyfriend and I have been together for 2years now, he's ready to get married. But I think 2 peopel should go through a really bad time (together) and make it throught that bad time together before they should get married. So if we dont have something that bad happen to us then how old should we be before we get married. We are in college right now

2007-09-18 14:12:51 · 10 answers · asked by lil_reddevil15 1

2007-09-18 13:56:39 · 6 answers · asked by kkarsten20 1

I am a single mom,my ex-husband don't pay me child support.Where should I apply for help,in Illinois Child Support Enforcement or in my local court,or maybe both?

2007-09-18 13:51:38 · 9 answers · asked by kasia_1207 2

Hey ladies, other than a womens intuition, what are some things that your man might do to let you know he might be cheating.

2007-09-18 13:43:47 · 12 answers · asked by tamara b 2

on there spouse which also is against thier culture...Dosen't make any sense? Why is this double standard allowed?

2007-09-18 13:40:44 · 25 answers · asked by AlphaFeGreatWhite 3