For some reason I think my husband is cheating on me, he works during the day and sometimes he has to leave to work at night, he is a truck driver locally. The other night he left at 11pm and came home at 12pm the next day just to leave again. I have no proof that he is working, its just him telling me he is. I need proof to be able to leave him, although he has been acting weird with me. We have 2 girls and been 2gether for 4 years. I dont want to leave them without a father but I dont want to live the rest of my life feeling sick to my stomach, what should I do?
2007-09-18 17:03:42 · 19 answers · asked by linda mari 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if he working as much as he says he is, then the paycheck should reflect it.
woman's intuition, for what i have heard, is usually right. but what you need to find out, is it right in your case.
i would not start accusing him of cheating without solid proof because you may be wrong this time.
can your doubt be triggered by a previous affair he may have had? and are you recognizing patterns from past affairs?
only you know. good luck
2007-09-18 17:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by karMA_DAME 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hire a private detective to follow him and he will tell you if your husband has been cheating on you and will provide you with evidence such as pictures and so fourth. Do some research on private investigators in your county. If you can't afford one than ask one of your best friends to follow him after he leaves your house or something. If you don't have a best friend, then gather some money and do this. Now I don't know if you watch VH1 with Hogan knows best, but he wanted to keep an eye on his daughter and see where she was going at all times to see if they were telling the truth about where her and her date were doing on their dates for the night. He had a place that sells and intalled a tracking system in her car without her knowing about it. Then while she left with the car he would site on the computer and watch on a satellite live map where the car was and what cross streets it was at. She if you have your friend follow him, she can't exactly follow him unless she is there. Your husband will not admitt he is cheating even if he is unless he gets caught. I would either higher a private investigator or get that tracking device installed and you can personally have his car tracked 24/7.
A side note, I had a friend who was the CEO of his company and is now divorced 2 times. Well his last wife suspected he was cheating on her, because he would leave and go on business trips. she hired a privite investigator and she caught him cheating on her with another girl who he got pregnet. Oh course that ended the marriage. He has 3 small children with her and he sees them on the weekends.
Well, hope you you make the right descion!! Good Luck!!!!
2007-09-18 17:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you want to be honest just ask him and see what he says.If he doesnt give you a straight up answer I would get a babysitter for the kids and follow him to work.If you don't have a car get someone else to take you.Don't settle for being cheated on.Kids are not a reason to stay in a relationship where your man is cheating on you.You can do better.
2007-09-18 17:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by I got the answer 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just because he works all the time does not mean he's cheating. Have you been cheated on before? If so, that could be the reason you're feeling the way you are. The way I found my ex was cheating was cell phone records. That way I didn't have to have the confrontation with him if he wasn't doing anything wrong, but the strange #'s proved it in the end
2007-09-18 17:13:51 · answer #4 · answered by shes_marie77 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would find out from his job if they do work at night time. Just ask the company general questions. The other thing you can do is to do a GPS on him. You can install a GPS device on the vehicle and keep track of him online. Hire a PI and see what they find out. Ask him straight out and see what he says. If he looks away when you ask him the question then he has something to hide. Also if he doesn't want to talk about it or tries to change the subject then he is hiding something from you. You can try and find out from his friends about what's really going on. Maybe they can help.
2007-09-18 17:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by redhotchillidawg 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
What's his name..
I might be sleeping with him..
You know he is..You might not have proof..
B/C his job is always going to cover him..
Majority of guys that are late truck drivers..Cheaters
Be careful..I know plenty of people got (AIDS)
Get yourself check.. all the time.. And that can be one way..
If you have that feeling you know what's up..
No One knows your man but you..
I can tell you..
forget the proof..Leave his unfaithful..azz
Put him on child support and let him see his kids too.
Now you know where the money going..
You be happy, your kids will be happy..
you be better off not playing guess games..
long as you don't know.. he gone to continue..
What if your daughter ask you that same question..
What will you tell her. To stay with that guy knowing what he is doing is wrong. Not a great advise to give love one..
Just like you answer your child question c/ you know what he doing.. Answer your own and be a women about it..
He is being a selfish child..And by the way i'm serious about the Doctor Thing.. I'm dated a guy now in the same positions as you and I know about the other women..Now he a carrier of HPV.. sexually transmitted disease..I gave it to him..Sorry ladies..it c/ cervical cancer.. for the women. and harmless to the men.. it's no cure either.. Guys just have to learn to be faithful to the one they love..He didn't even give me nothing..I feel bad about it c/ he gave it to his girl..I don't think she knows..But it's nothing I can do. Get check..Sexy Girl that guys fall for...LOL
2007-09-18 17:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Usually, if somebody feels the other is cheating, it's probably true. You need to hire a private investigator to tail him. Or, you could check his phone records and call the numbers that you don't recognize. Don't identify yourself, just ask the person if she knows your husband. Another possible thing you can do: have you ever watched that Cheaters television show? Email or call them and ask them to put you on their show! =) They'll do everything for free if they choose your story.
2007-09-18 17:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by lordmisrule2004 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if you feel he is cheating then you can about bet that he is.i would look at check stubs first if they don't add up i would follow him to work.if he has a cell phone then i would check for #'s that you don't know or maybe even ones you do know but are called alot.if he is cheating he will act different toward you. i promise you will be able to tell.most guy's but not all are usually easy to read.in other words they just don't lie as good as girl's do.
2007-09-18 17:23:44 · answer #8 · answered by camolovingbitch 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
a wife feels when there is somthing going on. a had similar situation and that gut feeling something was off and sure eoungh it was and he was cheating. and no matter wat ppl tell never stay in a marriage for the kids cause you could resent and regret it all your life, your kids will grow up and understand why you did wat you did and be proud that you were stronge and independent. you dont need proof for this you got all you need. good luck from a wife that went thru the same.
2007-09-18 17:18:13 · answer #9 · answered by elizabeth c 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Women have intuition for a reason. You will notice other things if he is cheating....has he changed his style of dress? Changed his looks? Has behavioral changes? Has emotionally withdrawn from you?
2007-09-18 17:13:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋