Are you now or would you ever stay in a miserable marriage? Why stay?

Question

Are you now or would you ever stay in a miserable marriage? Why stay?
I know that back in the good old stays many people stayed in unhappy marriages for many reasons. I am just learning that even today, there are those that feel compelled to stay.

Have you chosen to stay in a miserable relationship? Do you know anyone who has? Why do/did you or the person you know stay?

Answer 1

I don't believe the only resolution to being miserable is to leave.

Marriages can be fixed and put back on track.

I strongly believe in marital counseling.

Answer 2

There are no perfect people in this world. Basically its what trait that you can tolerate in a person. This is my second marriage and i do promise there will never be another. My 2nd husband and I get along most of the time. But hes got some issues that drive me crazy. He has a drinking problem and doesn't want to work. Ive had cancer and he lost his job and hasn't worked in a year an a half. I thought that he would take care of me but its the other way around. You just get accustom to the situation or you feel as if whats the point now. Sometimes i guess its just convenient. Who knows !

Answer 3

It's hard when you love your kids and know that if you would trade one misery (being with your spouse) for another (being without your kids).

It's tough to feel so lonely and know that there is no interest by your partner to work things out. But sometimes it's easier to just let yourself be miserable a little every day than to take that step off the cliff and go through the pain of separation, custody battles, divorce, and the prospect of losing everything you've worked for and your future income in support payments to your ex and your kids.

Answer 4

Marriages might be fixed for as long as both parties are willing to change who they are at the time of marital trouble. Is that going to happen? Most likely not. That's why it is better to put the dysfunctional relationship to rest. The kids will thank you later. It is much better to live in a happy single parent household than to grow up in looking at how miserable your parents are. Not a good environment.

Answer 5

i wouldnt say miserable in the aspect that he beats me, or cheats on me...its nothing like that. its more of he does what he wants regardless of how it makes me feel, and when i tell him that he hurts me all i have to hear from him " is what else is new?"
Weve only been married for 2 yrs too.... he has alot of problems that need to be worked on that i wasnt aware of until after we got married/

for right now,. im staying b./c we have a 1 yr old son and the last thing i want is for him to grow
up w/ a broken family

its tough..... its really hard. but everything i do now is for him only anyways/ so he comes 1st.

Answer 6

I stayed in one of about 15 years because I felt there was nothing else out there and nobody would want me with 2 kids. He was paying the bills so I felt a little secure in that aspect.

Answer 7

I know someone who stayed in a miserable marriage for years for the sake of the children, yet when he finally got out, the adult children still blamed him for their problems and for leaving the mom.

Answer 8

My mom stayed with my dad until the day he died he beat my mother horribly many many times and she put up with it only
because she loved and hated him and she had 7 kids by him.This happened in the good old days as you put it and back then husbands and wives stuck it out . I can't think of one friend of mine where their parents didn't fight. I'm talking back in the 40's 50's 60's now that was the good old days.

Answer 9

people stay for many reasons. money, children, loneliness are the mean reasons. I would not, it's a wast of life to live miserable.

Answer 10

I stay but only for my children. However I will soon be leaving my unhappy marrage. I very special person in my life told me life is short I should not spend it being unhappy.