Is it normal...?

Question

Is it normal to have anxiety when your the one who broke up with your boyfriend/girlfriend? Selling the house, car... where do you go... I broke up with my boyfriend because I don't think there is anything left for us, the love is gone. He doesn't feel the same way, but couldn't live with the arguing anymore. Everything he did irritated me. Now I'm getting crazy anxiety because I don't know what I'm going to do or where I'm going to go... advice?

Answer 1

The advice is that you made the right decision. If you don't feel there is love anymore then you are a strong person for doing what you did. The anxiety comes from trying to make it on your own. And you can. You need to know that few people break up with someone when they know it's wrong.. they start cheating.. they lie.. etc. you did the right thing and you have courage. Don't get scared now. Move forward sister! You are a strong person..

Answer 2

Your anxiety is "normal" for the circumstances you described. To relieve it, you must assess and plan. First, do you have money, food, and a place to live? If you need inexpensive accommodations, check your local YWCA. There are other agencies that may be able to help, churches and homeless shelters, for example. Do you have a job? Find a place to stay and visit the local employment agencies--state and private. Soup kitchens and food pantries can provide you with a few meals until you get situated. Don't forget them when you're back on your feet. It's a little scary out there, but you can make it. I assumed you had nothing, but you may have more, so it may be easier than I said. Good luck, and learn from this, it could be the best thing that ever happened to you.

Answer 3

What you are going through is very normal.....
You can not end a relationship and not notice the absence of someone you have been close to.
It is not good fro you to go back and analyze all that happened at this time. Hindsight is 20/20(perfect).
You are attempting to justify a decision you made that changed your life.
You really don't need to. When something is not working you regroup and try something else, don't you? You don't owe anyone any kind of reason for making that choice. At the end of the day you only have to live with yourself. Life is kind of like a game of Blackjack(21)...
Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. You can actually tell your own brain not to feel anxiety.
Try it, it works........
Good luck and better love.

Answer 4

Hmm... Seems like you're having problems and sadness. You worry over things and now you want to get out from it. But I will say, perhaps because of the arguments, you broke up. Perhaps I would it is right choice but you are stress out.

Hmm.. My advice for you is that may be you should get something to do for example gardening or painting. Just like your hobbies.

If you find that you need something more, may be you go somewhere peaceful such as Cameron Highland. If not, the best choice of all is sign up for gym and know more friends. You will stay healthy and fit instead of getting high blood pressure just by worrying these stuffs.

But I wouldn't suggest you to run away from the problems, instead you must face it with full of challenges. These problems are just waves in your life that you must face it. Without these waves, it isn't life at all.

Anyway, if you need more infos, you may contact me. I will do my best part to help you.

Good luck and all the best! ;-)

Answer 5

Amirra, that's perfectly normal. You will go through a phase of anxiety for a while, but before too long, you'll get well and balance out between emotions. Breaking up certainly feels like sh*t, and can cause people like you to feel like sh*t, but believe me, if you just allow a month or two, you'll be able to look at it from a more mature perspective. It would look as nothing, and this will be even clear if you are lucky enough to find other love of your life. Take heart!

Answer 6

The anxiety is normal, it's about practical logistical things, and you just handle them one at a time. The emotional aspect you were brave and did the right thing, you should be good with yourself for taking that step. Recognizing that a relationship is not a good match is actually a smart thing, many people might simply stay because they didn't want to deal with all the logistics.

Answer 7

Change is scary...you've taken a big step, but you'll be fine. It wouldn't be unfair to you both to have stayed in a relationship where you weren't happy. Now you both are able to make your lives what you want them to be (single or with someone else).

Where will you go? I don't know where you live or what you do for a job, but hopefully you'll find a place to reside soon. Once you've got your own place, you can regain your independence (or perhaps get it for the first time).

What will you do? Life your life! Work, play, be happy! It's all up to you. ☺

Answer 8

Alright, first of all, you need to calm down. Being stressed out isn't going to solve anything. Then call some trusted friends, family, or mentors, and ask them for advice. You've done the right thing and not stuck in a relationship that will keep sucking the life out of you, it's time for you to be happy again.

Answer 9

If he was controlling at all Im sure your lost like I was/am still. When you are constantly battling someone to make any decisions and all of a sudden there's no one there to tell you what to do your lost. Just remember back to what you wanted to do when you were fighting and miserable. That helped me. Focus on the future....he will beg you to come back for a long time...do what you want to do to not what feels comfortable....

Answer 10

It's easiest to deal with a mistake you don't make, moving in when bf/gf is a tough road to handle...

Anxiety in your case would be perfectly natural due to the fact it isn't just a relationship you walked away from but total stability as well.