But that's what everyone thinks now! We live in a small town and now everyone thinks I'm some skank who cheats on her husband as a matter of fact they say I'm having an affair with one of my co workers but I'm not. We went to dinner a couple of weeks ago and the other day we kissed but there is no affair going on and these rumors aren't helping my marriage since my husband is already mad at me and has moved into another bedroom. It was different when he just wasn't talking to me but now it's like the whole town has nothing to discuss but me! Please help!
2007-09-18 15:29:07 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hello Oh Juliana!
Affair is cheat.
You kissed somenone while you married your husband that's cheat.
You honor your vow to husband that you never cheat on him kiss or have sex with someone.
What about your husband???????????
You have to pay for cheat on your own husband,so you have to do is beg him for forgive you.
Then take your husband to marriage counselor. (^_^)
2007-09-19 01:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by zackie006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not be having an affair, but you have "cheated " on your husband with that kiss. He has every right to be mad at you! And it is your own fault, especially if you live in such a small town to be going out to dinner with someone else. It was like you were asking everyone to see you and start talking about it! Even though most people should mind there own business, what did you expect.
You need to talk to your husband about what happened. Does he know that you kissed? Did anyone else see you kiss or did this coworker tell anyone?
As far as everyone thinking you are a skank, even if you and your husband do work it out, you will be forever known as a skank in that small town. Small town folks don't forget anything! Trust me, I used to live in one. And it won't be long before other small town skanks start coming after your husband asking if he wants to get revenge on you! After all, it is a small town and what else is there to do?
You made your own bed by tongue wrestling with a coworker, so now it is time to face your consequences!
2007-09-18 22:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by starashley46123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Small towns! Gotta love 'em!
How do YOU feel about this guy? Bottom line: your feelings for the other man are more important than what you do in public with him.
My wife always said she'd prefer to find out I'd had meaningless sex than to find out I had a genuine love for someone I'd never touched and didn't even talk to.
If you're kissing and it means nothing, then at least understand why everyone's talking about it. You'd probably talk too, and maybe you have. Most of us are guilty of it when we're on the outside. If you're kissing and there's real spirit in that little exchange, then you've got a problem and you can only hope that either your husband gets over it and you can stop your own feelings, or that he lets you go without a fight, so you can be happy with yourself.
It's pretty unlikely either of those is going to happen. This is going to be a squall in your life and in your marriage, regardless of what has actually happened. Some people's reality is defined by their imaginations. It only takes a small fact to make a great big story that has no truth in it at all.
2007-09-19 00:56:06 · answer #3 · answered by The Babe is Armed! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I remmeber this from yesterday and you know what you caused this and there is nothing you can do about it and you may have not slept with this man but you did cheat you kissed another man when you are supposed to be only for your husband and the town now knows about how you are and anybody that cheats is in the wrong and you are wrong it is none of the towns business but everyone has their noses where it doesnt belong but you caused this and it is YOUR fault..if you hadnt cheated and were able to keep your lips to yourself this wouldnt be happening it looks to me as though you still dont think you did anything wrong you have no remorse exept the fact that you got caught and if you never got caught it would have led to sex..your husband should leave you for that alone..you dont care you hurt and maybe ruined your marriage and all you can think about is how people are talking bad about you?? Get over it and focus on what really matters, your husband and your marriage
2007-09-18 22:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...I am going to answer you...but I am not sure you have been on the up and up.....you put yourself in situations that make you look guilty as hell. You went to dinner with a co worker and you were seen dancing with him by your husband's sister....she then took it upon herself to tell your husband that you were having an affair. You went to dinner with this guy without discussing it first with your husband who was out of town. Your husband became very upset...and rightly so.....then you said a few days ago that you kissed this co worker...a kiss that was on the lips....a deep passionate kiss...you said that you couldn't help but return the kiss.....and wanted to know if it was cheating....your husband is still upset and sleeping in another room...again I don't blame him. You have done some things that make you look really guilty. If you really are sorry....Then you need to own up to your mistakes and tell your husband that you are sorry and that nothing is going on with this co worker. When you make your bed...well you know what they say.....you should avoid this co worker....you have to quit putting yourself in situations that make you look suspect....what do you expect people are going to think?
2007-09-18 22:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is your problem? You went to dinner with and kissed another man. Would it be OK if your husband did that? If you do not want to call it an affair why not just call it cheating which is exactly what it is? Or why not just call it a one night stand? You are far too immature to be married as clearly you do not know the first thing about trust and respect and moral conduct in a relationship. You are lucky he is sleeping in another room and not in another bed with someone else.
2007-09-18 22:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey, but if my husband went out to dinner with another girl and kissed her, I would move into another house! As far as the town goes, maybe you shouldn't be kissing co-workers who will run and tell. You should definitely tell your husband what happened and try to resolve it from there. As far as your co-worker goes, no more dinners, kisses, or even conversations. Be faithful. Completely in your heart, mind, and most importantly. Actions!
2007-09-18 22:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were seen KISSING this other guy!
When you went to dinner a couple of weeks ago, did you tell your husband - or did he find out from someone else?
I'm sure your "heart" is in the right place, but if you want to keep this marriage, then I suggest you DON'T go messing around.
2007-09-18 22:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by Cathy C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey if I was your mate I would be very upset too. You are going on a date with another man and kissing him. Come on how would you feel if the tables were turned? You are cheating and he is hurting. If you love your husband you need to cut all ties with that man and any other man and repent and save your marriage.....that is if you want too. Do you love your Husband? Love is not hurting the one you love. Don't be surprised if he starts cheating on you or leave you. Good Luck....Prayers
2007-09-18 22:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by brownsugar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the difference between going to dinner and kissing and having an affair? Oh wait, you are referring to actual intercourse? Honey, a married woman does not go to dinner with men who are not her husband and KISS them for crying out loud, might as well be having an affair.
2007-09-18 22:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me, but you're married and you're going to dinner with and kissing another man? Shame on you! Hello, that is cheating! Just because you're not sleeping together doesn't mean you're not being unfaithful. How would you like it if your husband was doing these things with another woman? I don't feel a bit sorry for you. You made your bed, now lay in it.
2007-09-18 22:40:31 · answer #11 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋