Me and my fiance have been together going on together for two years and 9 months. This girl means the world to me but lately my feelings for her have changed and i dont know why.
I have never cheated and actually have been faithful. I just woke up one morning and everything was different in my mind.
I love this girl to death and she is my everything. I dont want to hurt her. And it brings tears to my ears to know that what i am going to do will tear her apart. *its not her, its me*. My whole family loves her and everything. I dont know what to do. Im scarred of what she is going to do. Someone please help me.
thank you
2007-09-18 15:24:21 · 4 answers · asked by Xavier B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you are correct when you said its not her its you......
Are you scared of the fact that your relationship is maybe taking steps towards maybe marriage?
or that your scared of spending the rest of your life with this one women?
Are you scared of commitment?
Maybe your bored with the relationship?
Sounds like you need to sit down and rethink who you are...If she is that awesome and your family loves her she must be a great women....
why would you want to give her up if shes that great?
you could be making the biggest mistake of your life.
2007-09-18 15:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by bmdt07 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have said this many times before if you are not married within the first two years together then the odds are against you ever getting married. It makes sense because it takes about two years for the honeymoon stage to end then the second stage starts that's when you come down from cloud #9.and you see things you didn't see before in your friend. You say you don't want to hurt her and you love her to death well my friend sounds like you are still in love with her you just need a jump start a hot shot if you will. And what that is, is the million dollar question. You need to take a breather from her somewhere you can get your thoughts together and to see if you would miss her if you were not together. Absence makes the heart grow fonder if you haven't experienced that yet i would strongly suggest that you do.
2007-09-19 00:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How have your feelings changed? you say that you still lover her ... is that you arent attracted to her anymore? What exactly is different in your mind? I dont think that your feelings will change overnite.
Have you talked with her yet? Mayb its time you did. I wouldnt b scared of what she is going to do ... that shouldnt affect your decision. Our feelings are the truest, most honest things that we own in our lives - dont ignore them.
If you love her, even just as a friend, you have to at least talk this out with her. If you need time to think about your relationship, that is fair too. Marriage is a life long commitment - well at least it should b - so you dont want to make the wrong decision. She should understand that you need think time. Mayb just do a trial 'separation' but dont see other girls; use the time away from her to decide what it is you really want.
Sure it would b tough on her, but wouldnt it b tougher if you didnt say anything b4 it was too late?
2007-09-18 22:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound really confused. If she means the world to you why do you want to move on? Sort it out before you act on it.
2007-09-18 22:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋