when you are married? nothing physical, just to get the emotional crap women need and their hubby's won't give it out! i have been talking to this guy and he does not know i am married, i know it is wrong. what are your thoughts?
it is only online we do not even live the same state!
2007-09-18 16:33:56 · 21 answers · asked by kadence 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband does know i talk to him, he just does not know how much and what about!
2007-09-18 16:50:07 · update #1
i do know him, i have known him a long time just not seen each other in years.
2007-09-18 18:31:53 · update #2
I think emotional affairs can be more damaging to a realationship then just a phisical one. (IMHO) If it is a one night stand and they never shared anything more then phisally having sex it is over and done with. But getting emotional suport from someone else is just wrong on so many levels and it keeps builting the more you talk to this person. If you feel you need to talk to someone else about things with your marrage then your husband then maybe you might want to look closer at your realationship with him and sit down and talk to your husband and see why you and him have this distance in your relationship. I know of a few marriages that have been broken up by things just like this. I am not judging you by any means just trying to give you a little friendly advice. Do what you in your heart feel is right. Because in the end no matter what people give you for advice it is what you can live with.
2007-09-18 16:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by lovesongangel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you would not mind sharing the details of your online discussions with your husband. If the thought of him reading what you are writing to this chap makes you feel anxious, then you are indeed having an emotional affair. I personally see nothing wrong in talking to a friend of the opposite sex, but when the emotional interdependence grows there is an issue. Distance may be a factor, but one day he might make it to your country, and what do you do then?
Once you are emotionally hooked, the physical follows most of the time. Set boundaries with your friend online, hopefully he's a respectful bloak and will abide by them.
2007-09-18 16:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by n5dav 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be talking to your spouse about these things and not confining in someone you don't even know!!! or why not a g/f ? I 'm married and I woldn't do that ! I have my spouse to talk to or others not someone online i don't even know and they don't know me !! Some Guy online is going to tell you Just what he thinks you want to here and most likely Not the Truth !!! I don't think it is a good thing your doing and you could be asking for trouble in the long run !!!
2007-09-18 17:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that is where emotional cheating comes into play. So yeah I think its wrong. Plus look at what you just said, you are looking to another man for something your husband is not giving you...cheating!
Sweetie, have a heart to heart talk with your hubby, don't look elsewhere. And stop talking to that other man before it gets you into trouble.
2007-09-18 16:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as the things you tell this guy would be the same stuff you would tell him if your husband were next to you. No dirty talk or relationship talk. Just be careful because my opinion is that the opposite sex can never be just friends. Almost ALWAYS one or both people become attached. I hope you plan on telling the other guy that you are HAPPILY married!!! Atleast I HOPE you're happily married....
2007-09-18 16:54:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The truth is like it or not you are having an emotional affair, just because he lives in another state does not change the fact that you are sharing things with him you should be sharing with your hubby.
2007-09-18 16:50:21 · answer #6 · answered by blackpearl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of boys are like that, its a male ego thing. It offends their ego if you talk to another boy (even though you're not flirting, they're paranoid you're going to). Whereas it boosts his ego when other girls flirt with him. Perhaps if, whenever he talks to a girl, you imitate him, complaining the same way he does, and using his exact words, maybe he'll stop doing it.
2016-05-18 02:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem I see in this relationship is that you haven't been honest with him. Wouldn't you want for him to be honest with you? He might be thinking that there is a future between you two. Do you think is fair for him not to know that you are married? He is going to end up getting hurt. Why don't you tell him? And what is it that you want out of this relationship? The way I see it, you have two choices, one is to tell him the truth. And the second one is to tell him that is over, to end it.
2007-09-18 16:46:59 · answer #8 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that it will be ok if you're husband talked to another women online? I don't say this cause I disagree with you,but too make you think and probably you'll find out the answer you'reself.Really,tell your husband about this and lets see his perspective point of view.
Thanks,
bye.
2007-09-18 16:43:10 · answer #9 · answered by David 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just talking about normal day to day things with another guy isn't necessarily wrong....but you apparently are having an emotional affair with him and that is wrong! It matters not where he lives...he could live in Siberia....it is still wrong and you are being dishonest with him about you being married...you are lying to him by omission.
2007-09-18 16:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋