Marriage & Divorce - 18 September 2007

I've been married just short of two years, and my spouse has stopped doing romantic things. This makes me not enjoy the intimacy we have as well. I think I would really enjoy sponge baths, massages, candles and music to set the mood, etc. every now and then (maybe once a month), but he is so busy and tired from work - it doesn't even cross his mind to be romantic. What can I do?

2007-09-18 08:59:18 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been having some issues for quite some time, he seems to think that they're all of a sudden. He went to my best friend to talk to her about me. Trying to find out some things, things that he thinks I'm not telling him. He asked her not to say anything to me because he feels it would cause more problems between us (you think?) The ironic thing is he says he's never lied to me or kept any thing from me. I'm not sure what he calls this. Any way my friend told me that he came over and that he asked her not to say anything to me. Should I confront him? I hate that he thinks I'm keeping things from him, and he's acting all innocent, but obiously he's not.

2007-09-18 08:59:02 · 16 answers · asked by Crzybtch 2

We have been broken up for 7 months now and I don't know if I should tell her. I think it would be a selfish tjing to do. I know she suspected it. The next day I ended our relationship because I was too ashamed & too weak obviously to commit to her, truly. I believe in being honest, but when it comes to a thing like this... This is about as horrible a thing I could picture myself doing and I did it. Will telling her help at all? I do not want this to happen again. I am afraid that not saying a word is still lying about it in shame. Not owning up to it. What do I do?

2007-09-18 08:57:28 · 75 answers · asked by Anonymous

The mother has fought for two years to ensure she had her time with her youngest child, in a 50/50 shared custody divorce. Now, she says that she is moving and the child can determine where she wants to live. The move will take the mother 1200 miles from where she now lives. She is all the sudden okay if she only sees her daughter during the summer and rotated holidays etc... Now I find out, that she plans to move out there with this guy that is 41 years older than she is and she is 42, he is buying the house, paying for the move and she is going to be his so called live in care taker. I have seen the guy, and he is old, but does not seem to have any problem getting around. She claims there is nothing romantic at all. He obviously has money and she has blown me away by not asking for anything and how willing she is to basically give up her rights to our youngest daughter. Can this be for real that this guy just wants someone around for his last few years and she is just ...cont

2007-09-18 08:55:54 · 10 answers · asked by Suthern R 5

I am presently facing an extremely unfair occurrence at my workplace. Several colleagues, including myself, have been asking for a raise for the last year with no result, except for one guy. Not only is he making more money than others with more experience, proven track record etc, he just got a promotion and a new office. To make matters worst, a few weeks back I came across his wife in the corridor. She was with the boss and he was kissing her against the wall. Now I thought may be my colleague was not aware of this, but at another time I saw the boss holding her waist while the three of them were talking together. I also remember how the boss was dancing with her at the office party last year. Now I think the reason this guy is getting all the favors is because his wife who is very attractive is sleeping with the boss. I want to if this is a common occurrence at the workplace? Is so what am I supposed to do against this?

2007-09-18 08:53:46 · 14 answers · asked by Rohit 1

I have been dating this great 41 year old woman for about 5 months now. She has a very nice and pretty 17 year old daughter. For about the last few weeks I have been receiving cell phone text messages that are very provocative and to-the-point sexual innuendos. She tells me that she wants to be with me and then tells me what she would do with me; I actually blush when I read these messages. I have no ideal what to do. Should I tell her mother or should I confront the daughter? Please help.

2007-09-18 08:52:48 · 18 answers · asked by balls2herchin 1

I am back with my ex- husband after 7 years and I just wonder if it's meant to be or will i get hurt again ?

2007-09-18 08:49:24 · 7 answers · asked by firecracker 1

I fell in love with a man that was adopted and not only that, his adoptive mother was very abusive to him. I am the type of person that loves really deep and I feel his need for love and is so responsive to it. I love to give love and he does too and it is a perfect combination. We have been going together for 3 years, soon to be married. I have never been happier.

2007-09-18 08:45:39 · 27 answers · asked by escapee 1

I broke up with my love of three years. We separted last years because I moved to other states. Recently, he realized that we will not able to be together so he wanted to move on.

I respected his decision; therefore, we decided to set each others free---no contact and no friendship until we both can move on with our life. We both are moving on. Although I always think of him and the wonderful memory we have shared. Last year while we separated he used to tell me that he thinks of me night and day. I am just wondering whether he is still thinking of me sometimes.

I do not want him back, I just want to know if he still think or care about me.

Thank you so much for your kindness.

2007-09-18 08:36:12 · 33 answers · asked by Hope 4

she was born when he & I started dating. he never told me about her.he knew that the girl was pregnant but denied her & had nothing to do with her. he was 30yrs old(divorced w/ 2 kids) & she was only 19! that bothers me alot! he was the adult in this situation & he was so irresponsible & thought he could get away with it! she lives an hour from us now. i found out when he was served papers for support. he knew about her all along & went in for a paternity test when she was 1 1/2yrs. and didn't tell me! nobody knows about this child except him & I. As a mother this breaks my heart. I am having a hard time with it. the child never asked to be here. I don't understand how anyone could turn their back on a child. it is one of our biggest fights. not to mention he owes $30K in arrears. i thought he was paying & found out he wasn't. D.A is taking it now. I work F/T & take care of my responsiblities & most of his & my 3 kids from my first marriage. I don't know what to do. kids & i suffer!

2007-09-18 08:35:58 · 20 answers · asked by exhausted 1

or collect autographs? without hurting him?

2007-09-18 08:21:39 · 18 answers · asked by Bullmastiff_Boxer_lover 6

2007-09-18 08:16:59 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

long story cut short...
man has been coming in where i work we would exchange alot of deep eye contact long stares and smiles he then finally started a conversation bit of jokes thought he was interested the usaual signs men would show (was obvious i was interested)but next week brought his child in and said it was his eldest.i was shocked

i found out he was actually married and he hasnt come in to where i work for 4 weeks scince he brought his child in and he would come in every week the last conversation we had after it had ended we where just looking in eachothers eyes...

do you think he fallen for me and thats the reason he wont return as he has important responsibilitys as he thought it may have gone further?i would not have taken any further as he was married

2007-09-18 08:16:56 · 12 answers · asked by .... 2

If a married man strays with the same woman, does it mean he is not in love with his wife?
It is an arranged marriage(by parents), and their behaviour together seems more like distant friends, not a couple or even buddies. He keeps coming back so easily, it makes me wonder if he's even in love with his wife, or its just a habit of being married or staying in a non-threatening relationship.
He says he's emotionally blank towards me, but I feel those are just words. I think he's scared of falling in love with me, he's said he doesn't want to fall in love with me.
Any comments?
And moralists, you aren't living my life, so please don't preach.

2007-09-18 08:14:48 · 24 answers · asked by Raashmi 2

My (soon to be) ex husband of 8 yrs. cheated on me and left me 2 months ago for some rich woman he met online for sex. I was a good, loyal, loving, caring wife to him. I am trying so hard to take care of myself and move on with my life even though I do not seem the bit interested in getting in a rebound relationship. I want to heal myself 1st. He has a webpage that he has already posted pics of him and her on and his new boat (which he named after her-how stupid is that?). I don't go visit his page and alot of my friends say that he seems to be doing all this to get some kind of reaction /rise out of me. I haven't attempted to contact him once since he has been gone. I hope it's crushing his man ego! He is a liar and a cheat. Why does it seem that he is sooo happy and I'm stuck in this rut of picking up pieces of my shattered heart? Will things ever get better for me? I really hate feeling like this. I know I'm better off without his sorry @ss though. Will Karma strike him and her?

2007-09-18 08:05:50 · 17 answers · asked by texas_redlips 1

This is mainly a question for the guys but girls you are more then welcome to answer :) My husband and I have been going through a hard time but things are getting better with us. What I wanna do is surprise him with something when he comes home from work but I have no idea what I should do?!? So guys if your girl could surprise you some way what would you like her to do? And yes I am up for anything but keep in mind we do have a 3 month old son so we can't do a whole lot.....

2007-09-18 07:56:21 · 9 answers · asked by tracytlctc 2

It's been 13+ years and I can't wait till he comes home.
I still think he is as fine as when we first met.
I can't wait to lay by him at night for our quiet time.
I love to kiss those dimples over and over.
I love to shave his face from time to time and see his loving look.
I love to cook his favorite dishes.
I love to love his children and watch them grow everyday.
To have him take care of me and the house through surgery.
To still love me even though a few wrinkles have set in.
To love and be loved is what I think life should be.
Marriage is a oneness only few can comprehend.

2007-09-18 07:55:09 · 7 answers · asked by kate 3

Here's the scenario.

I took a position that had me away from home for two months. The trip was a huge success from a business perspective (so it seemed). My wife is 5 months pregnant, ended up having to move due to unsafe conditions while I was away, had trouble having consistent baby sitting for her daughter, and was working full time all while I was away. I get back and payday rolls around, but no paycheque. Company makes excuses and promises next payday it will all be caught up. Payday came last Friday and no paycheque again. So the trip was a huge mistake. I gave up the summer with my new family and got screwed.

On the home front. My wife and I have not been intimate since I got home three weeks ago. Away for two months. Home almost a month and rubbing her belly is as intimate as it gets.

My best friend thinks she had an affair. Despite all that happened, how can you not be intimate after being away for 2 months?

Are these signs of a possible affair while away?

2007-09-18 07:51:12 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-18 07:39:51 · 38 answers · asked by donielle 7

My wife has no friends nor does she even want to try. I my self love to go out and meet new people and have lots of friends but she does not. She doesn't get along with other women because she says they are too much drama and she doens't want guy friends because she doesn't want them too hit on her so her friends are my friends and i kinda want her to make her own friends who she can go out and have a girls night out (which she has never had before) I have tried to tell her she needs friends and she just takes it as i don't want to spend time with her or she says she doesn't want any.. I am her bestfriend but some things should be left for a female friend to help out on.. i know it sounds like i am complaining i just don't know what to do please help

2007-09-18 07:34:31 · 7 answers · asked by steller 1

Last night i heard noises from my parents bedroom so I went to investigate and I heard my dad telling my mom "im pulling out" and my mom said " NO, wait im coming too". I think they are leaving. what should I do???

2007-09-18 07:32:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

i cant wear any jewlery in my ears unless its white gold yellow gold or gold gold or platnium..and i want to get my bellybutton pierced does the same thing apply or can i wear any kind or bar i want???
[ladies with experience wud help the best]

2007-09-18 07:26:28 · 5 answers · asked by Savannah C 1

My sister and I have not spoken in about two years. My husband and I had major problems, he was cheating, abusive, smoking marijuana, but had stopped all of those things. I used to talk to my sister for years as she was more that a sister, a good friend about my problems with him, and any other issues I had. My husband and I had separated then got back together and he had totally cleaned up his act. When we got back together and weren't having any problems, my sister then called the department of children and families and made up a 100% lie stating my husband threw a chair at me and was doing drugs. He took a drug test and passed, however we went through a 1-1/2 year battle with DCF including having to go to counseling, having our child taken away for two days (she was given back to us because the charges were false), it has just been a nightmare. We recently moved about 45 minutes away from her and I am wondering if I should call her. She still admits no wrong doing in this?

2007-09-18 07:23:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-18 07:16:17 · 25 answers · asked by christina 2

2007-09-18 07:15:12 · 35 answers · asked by gram 3

Not to say that you can't exist without them but your life is so much better with them in it. You can't imagine what your life would be like without them. Granted there are times in your life when you can't stand them but that's what makes the good times great. I hope I find that kind of love someday and find someone who feels that way about me.

2007-09-18 07:13:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-18 07:09:45 · 16 answers · asked by nice man 1

Both of us are married, to our respective spouses, of course. We find each other hot. He says there's nothing wrong in his marriage, except the sex which occurs once in 2 or 3 months, since the day he got married, 3 years ago. We sent very sexual messages to each other and did have sex. It was supposed to be one time only. It wasn't so great, but I can't seem to get him off my mind. Its like an addiction. No idea what he feels, though he did start feeling guilty after the act. Actually backed off 3 times during the making out stage, but it was so easy to lure him. We are not in love and for me it seems more like the thrill of it. For him, I know it was one of his best times. Will he come back to me or will guilt make him stay with his frigid wife?

2007-09-18 07:06:48 · 25 answers · asked by Raashmi 2

he is 46 years old and thinking of marriage.
ido not wish to give him divorce for playing with my life like this.i wish to stay in marriage n also win him back gradually.what steps should i take?is it just plain friendship with that female or sex also? it is so unbelievable to think that he can have sex with another woman when hside by side he was screwing me up so that i do not suspect him(woman instinct)

2007-09-18 07:00:43 · 50 answers · asked by christina 2

do you mind it?

2007-09-18 06:53:22 · 16 answers · asked by Signilda 7