I am back with my ex- husband after 7 years and I just wonder if it's meant to be or will i get hurt again ?
2007-09-18 08:49:24 · 7 answers · asked by firecracker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Retrouvaille is a good place to start. it's a weekend retreat and six follow up meetings. Go to their site and read about it. although it is supported by the Catholic church it is not religious, open to all and pay what you can. It's at least worth some web time and a phone call. There is nothing to lose, everything to gain.
Theyv'e seen it all and guided the healing. You are back with your husband because you love him, you just don't see it yet.
2007-09-18 09:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by cmrwash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is one of those emotions that carries the same force as a physical sensation like pain--you know it when you feel it.
Since you are getting back with an ex, asking about potential hurt is normal. However, if you are having to ask then you are not completely convinced that getting back together is a good idea.
Keep asking yourself if you are in love with him every day. If you are not completely conviced after a month, then break it off and move on.
2007-09-18 15:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know I love my husband when through it all I want him to hold me at night. I know that I still love him when our problems get to be so tough to get through I find myself in pure pain of just the thought of divorcing him, but in that moment I feel that there is no other answer. I know I still love him, when as angry as I am no matter how long I am angry for he can still wrap his arms around me and as hurt as I could be I find comfort in it. I know I still care despite the days wehre I wish him the worst possible fate in the end I want my life to be with him. I want to reach our golden anniversary having earned it. What kind of marriage is one that everything is easy??? Nothing easy is worth having. People don't get to their 50th anniversary just with laughter. I ALWAYS say what defines a relationship, isn't the good times, becuase you see EVERYONE has those...its the BAD times and how you get through them that count. If you and your ex husband are back together, than sweety I have to give you the biggest praise of all because through it all your marriage is STILL there, through the tears the anguish the horror...you are back in his arms. Despite what others will tell you, its not the familiarity its the love thats still in your heart thats got you where you are today.
2007-09-18 16:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by jmalin04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can say for sure whether you love the person or not. Hopefully you trust your decision, hopefully he is a good person, who is committed to you, and committed to making your marraige work. The same goes for you. Keep your expectations of him, and your marraige realistic. Marraige is not equal to constant happiness. So enjoy the "best of times" and be prepared to work through the "worst of times" because as time passes both will become the fabric of a strong & lasting marraige.
2007-09-18 16:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by blujello 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell. If you both really love each other and learned something from the mistakes you made the first time, there's no reason why it won't work out this time.
2007-09-18 15:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Agreed. The two of you have to decide you want to make it work this time. And if you're both serious about it, you should have no problems.
2007-09-18 15:56:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think its a great thing! Everyone should have someone in their life's even if it is a former lover.
2007-09-18 16:06:37 · answer #7 · answered by Bryan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋