Not to say that you can't exist without them but your life is so much better with them in it. You can't imagine what your life would be like without them. Granted there are times in your life when you can't stand them but that's what makes the good times great. I hope I find that kind of love someday and find someone who feels that way about me.
2007-09-18 07:13:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry I meant finding
2007-09-18 07:20:43 · update #1
I can't say I looked for someone I couldn't live without, I looked for someone I could "live with", someone I could spend the rest of my life with here on earth. I've always been picky in who I dated and would only date someone I would possibly consider marrying and I have no regrets for sticking to that.
I met a wonderful Christian man 6 years ago on a church single's site and knew within a month that he was the one. It took him longer, as he had things to work through and we did that together but watching him grow as we chatted (he was 1000 miles from me) made it all worthwhile. I really got to know him through our talks and email and grew to admire him more and more as time went on.
We did "break up" once but after a couple of months, decided to try it again, worked on some things and when he came to visit again, he proposed. We have been married for 4 years, have had no arguments and love sharing our lives together. God is #1 in both our lives and the foundation for our home which we both believe makes all the difference in a happy relationship since marriage is given to us by God.
It's very important that you both give 100% of yourselves to the other (not the 50-50 so many talk about). If you concentrate on things that will make him happy and not always be concerned about yourself (and he does the same), your love with grow by leaps and bounds as you grow old together.
I tell everyone life with my husband is my bit of "paradise on earth", to be with a man who treats me with love and respect. I was a bit older before I married and didn't rush into anything because once I took my vows, it was for life (that's why I would not compromise what I wanted in a husband so I could get the best of the crop for me :) I grew up in a rather volatile home and swore I'd never have a marriage like my parents, grandparents and some of my aunts/uncles. I stuck to my guns and have been blessed by God with the man of my dreams.
Get the book "His Needs, Her Needs" and both of you read it and discuss the issues that most people don't take the time to discuss and workout before they get married. Know how the other person believes about things so if you have strong differences, you can work them out before you take your vows. Learn to communicate but also learn to listen and learn. and remember the men and women think differently so don't try to change either, learn to "mold" your ways to work as one, the way God intended, so that you compliment each other rather than have strife all the time. That's what we did and things have been wonderful.
I found my Mr Right and I hope you do the same someday and know the joy and love, peace and happiness that my husband and I share :) God bless you
2007-09-18 07:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is more to do with realizing that you do not wish to be with anyone else. To me is was not that I could not live without her because you always may have to for a whole variety of reasons.
It was simply that through all the dating and the relationships
that this was the person whose company was the most enjoyable. From there the loves grows.
Marriage was more that this person is not getting away.
Sure there are disagreements and arguments. Two strong individuals do not blend that easily. Its that undersatnding that
we really get along very well when times are good that keeps us through the rough spots.
This does not sound all that romantic but it works for us.
More than 30 years as well.
2007-09-18 07:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is about having and sharing things in life together. No "my better half", NO "My complement". You have to be "you", you don't need anybody to complement you. You are happy by yourself and can be happy with somebody, Some people make the mistake to put false expectations hoping someone comes and "makes" you happy, that is wrong. Find who you are, what do you want, what makes you happy and then you will be able to share that with someone you love and brings the same peace to your life.
2007-09-18 07:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by Kent-B-True 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its more about finding someone you can live with. If you all can work as at team. And have some similar goals. Like where you see yourselves in the future. Then work together to get there. I think thats pretty much what marriage is about.
2007-09-18 07:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by Bri 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me it is. Everyone is different. Some women will say "there is no such thing.' "All men are pigs" "It will never last forever" This is personal experience talking for them. And just because their men may have turned out that way it doesn't mean it always happens.
Hard work, compromise, and faith are the things you need.
2007-09-18 07:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding someone who makes your life better - yes.
2007-09-18 07:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep- I've found my prince charming (though he's not anything like I thought he would be). We are perfect for each other, and I can't imagine my life without him!
2007-09-18 07:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by cincykt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're on the right track. Just make sure that you find someone who is on the same page. You'll be miserable if they're not.
2007-09-18 07:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by mt75689 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's like finding a part of you, you never know you were missing. It makes you fill whole.
2007-09-18 07:23:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck no!
Its about sharing and choosing every morning to stay together. Love and marriage is choosing to continue your path together.
2007-09-18 07:41:36 · answer #10 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋