2007-09-18 07:16:17 · 25 answers · asked by christina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Goodness me, why does love have to take away a person's self-esteem and pride? I dont understand it....why do people expect so little for themselves? Your spouse lacks commitment, he lacks respect...he doesnt care about your feelings. Dont be silly, of course you can live without him.....a partner doesnt determine who you are....I think you have forgotten that. Who were you before you fell in love? You CAN be that person again.....stop selling yourself short.
2007-09-18 07:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will not sit here and judge you for wanting to stay with a cheating spouse although I know I couldn't do that. I think the reason you would is because you feel that you have no options. It is obvious that you have very low self esteem and are probably very co-dependent on him. To tell you the truth what attracts men is a woman that has confidence in herself. Many times you will see a good looking man with a woman that may not be real attractive but she has attitude and confidence and those are very attractive qualities. If you worked on your issues and were more self confident and felt good about you as a person and stopped being co-dependent then I'm sure he would be much more attracted to you. No man wants a woman that acts like she is lost without him and he is the center of her universe. Clinging on to someone is a huge turn off. Believing in yourself is a big turn on. There is a downside to this however. If you were to be able to change your self image and started believing in yourself you probably would realize that you could do better and wouldn't want a man that cheated on you as you would know you deserved better than that.
2007-09-18 07:37:17 · answer #2 · answered by DavidV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying that someone is your life, and that you cannot live without them screams unhealthiness. That is why you are willing to attract your unfaithful husband. Go get some counseling. Spend some time working on just you, and learn to be ok with or without a man in your life.
2007-09-18 07:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by mt75689 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ways attract unfaithful spouse love life live
2016-02-02 02:10:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is unfaithful, he is not respectful of you and is not worth keeping. You can live without him. You lived before you married him and will do so again. And you will be a stronger person for it.
2007-09-18 07:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by Wow42 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must have no self esteem or self respect....why do you want to even attempt to attract your unfaithful spouse?
2007-09-18 07:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can not leave without him that is your weakness. What you will do by attracting him when he does not even deserve it. I would be wrong to give you advice on apparels and change of style when the foundation itself is wrong. As the saying goes Leave a bird free, if it comes back to you it is yours if not it was never yours. So what I would advise you at the moment is to pray for him so that his heart may melt and he may change for good with you. Then automatically rest of the things will fall in place.
2007-09-20 22:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by Raj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ACT AS IF YOU ARE HAVING AN ILLICIT RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER GUY ! YOUR SPOUSE WILL IMMEDIATELY FEEL JEALOUS AND HURRY BACK TO YOU.
Am advising you this,only bcoz you say,you can't do without him.On the personal front,I wud say,this spouse of yours doesn't deserve your love,hon.
Anyway,GOOD LUCK !!
2007-09-18 08:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by Sunflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lived without him before you met him. You can live without him now.At least you won't be in a fake marriage anymore.
Divorce him. Then pretend he's dead.
Find some way of supporting yourself first or at least find someone who'll take you in if necessary.
2007-09-18 07:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by pufferoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him.
He is obviously attracted to anyone that is not his wife.
I feel sorry for you, I really hope you get the self esteem needed to make a break and find self-love: the most precious love of all!
2007-09-18 07:23:56 · answer #10 · answered by kittykatsback 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋