Wife has no Friends?

Question

My wife has no friends nor does she even want to try. I my self love to go out and meet new people and have lots of friends but she does not. She doesn't get along with other women because she says they are too much drama and she doens't want guy friends because she doesn't want them too hit on her so her friends are my friends and i kinda want her to make her own friends who she can go out and have a girls night out (which she has never had before) I have tried to tell her she needs friends and she just takes it as i don't want to spend time with her or she says she doesn't want any.. I am her bestfriend but some things should be left for a female friend to help out on.. i know it sounds like i am complaining i just don't know what to do please help

I don't know if it matters but we are 21 and 22 and she acts like she is already 55!! i love her and i know the treasure that i have found but i want her to be happy when im not around (like when i go back packing for 5 days) delmia delmia thanks for everyone's help

Answer 1

She may not be finding the right kind of friends to hang out with in the long haul. Poor gal... I felt that way, now I have a circle of girlfriends and a few guy friends that I've know for about 10 years now. They don't hit on me, they know better, because if they do, I can no longer talk to them. My choice. Period. She just needs to get out more, maybe the 2 of you could go socialize and have a good time, see if she can meet people with you. She may end up meeting that one gal pal that she'll have for the rest of her life. If not, thats who she is. She may not be the social butterfly (as my husband calls me). Give it time, and plenty of it.

Answer 2

OK.. I actually have the same problem only, it's my husband who doesn't have the friends!

I have tried and tried to get him out in the world and meet up with other guys... Most; if not all of my friends are married ~ So I have even tried to get him to talk to their husbands and he just kinda sits there and doesn't say much of anything. It really kinda sucks..

So in other words, I hate to say this, But I don't think it will change. Try going out with the guys a few times by yourself and see how she reacts. If she gets mad, tell her she could be doing the same thing, with her friends if she would just try and make some friends....

Not sure... But Good luck to you and if you find something that worked, please let me know!

Answer 3

When you tell her to go out for the purpose of making friends, maybe it scares her if she's shy. Instead of letting her thinking you want to her go out to make friends, have her go out thinking she's going out for another reason.

For example, give her some money to get her hair done. (She's sure to meet ladies in the hair salon) Or tell her about a new yoga class. Say you've heard it helps flexibility, which helps in the bedroom. (She'd meet friends in yoga) If she likes music, go out to a coffee shop.. together. Maybe you can both make friends. Once this happens, perhaps she'll feel more free to go out on her own.

It just might work. It's worth a try!

Answer 4

My boyfriend has the same problem with me. I dont' really have many friends in our area and he wants me to make more. Unfortunately, nothing he's said has worked. He's suggested that I make friends with the wives and girlfriends of some of his friends and although we get along, we're not really clicking. I can only suggest that you find some things that you think she might like to do and suggest that she go to them by herself (pottery, cooking class, class at a local college, volunteering) and maybe she'll make friends there. She can also try http://www.suwn.org/networking.aspx

Answer 5

You ARE complaining. You have a treasure and you dont even realize it. Why is it so important that she have friends?
Please be careful what you wish for.

Answer 6

tell her to join a bunco group!

Answer 7

and you're complaining???? That is her personality-- leave her alone.