If a married man strays with the same woman, does it mean he is not in love with his wife?
It is an arranged marriage(by parents), and their behaviour together seems more like distant friends, not a couple or even buddies. He keeps coming back so easily, it makes me wonder if he's even in love with his wife, or its just a habit of being married or staying in a non-threatening relationship.
He says he's emotionally blank towards me, but I feel those are just words. I think he's scared of falling in love with me, he's said he doesn't want to fall in love with me.
Any comments?
And moralists, you aren't living my life, so please don't preach.
2007-09-18 08:14:48 · 24 answers · asked by Raashmi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
as long as the sex is good than go for it, but if his not hung or rubbish in bed don't bother!
2007-09-24 07:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My comment would be, that if I were his wife I would be so hurt right now. Just because they seem to be friends doesn't give somebody the right to use that as an excuse to commit adultry. Look at it like this if you had a daughter and her husband did this to her what would you think? And how would you feel? Would you think it was wrong of the "other" woman to enter into something that has nothing to do with her? Not preaching just asking you to think twice about things.
2007-09-18 08:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by dazednconfused 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As a general rule women cheat because they are lacking something emotional from their husbands. Men cheat because the thought of another woman wanting them other than their wife makes them feel good and makes them feel manly. When he tells you he is "emotionally blank" toward you he could be telling you the truth. In his eyes you may be just a physical relationship. And as far as him saying he "doesn't want to fall in love" with you he may be saying he doesn't want your relationship to become something that is emotional. If your looking for something more from this relationship I don't think your going to find it. And if you push him to be more committed to you emotionally then I think he is just going to find someone else to fill his needs physically.
2007-09-23 08:39:30 · answer #3 · answered by Angela C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure if he is, or is not in love with his wife. I think that his wife is not fulfilling his needs and you a are picking up the slack. The reason he keeps coming back, is because he knows you are available and won't refuse his needs. I don't think fear has anything to do with his relationship with you. I think you are not reading his feelings correctly. I don't believe he wants to fall in love with you and, has no intention to fall for you, it is a physical need and not an emotional need. That's just my opinion, based upon the information that you have provided. Good Luck.
2007-09-18 08:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by Butch. 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why would you sleep with a man that is emotionally blank? Develop some self respect and find someone you love and can love you back.
2007-09-25 16:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by Merrie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will not preach, however if he is with you and your wife.. chances are sooner or later he is going back to his wife... if didnt leave her yet and has no plans of having any "emotional" with you then maybe you shouldn'tbe with him. Think about how/when you met and if all the time you spent with him isn't enough for him to fall for you then ???? you be the judge..
2007-09-18 08:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by MrsGill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is out to destroy two lives. If you are the other woman, you are helping him destroy one. How can you know so much about his relationship when you are not in the house with them. He may treat his wife like a queen and just be lying to you. Find yourself a man with less drama. Preferably a single man. (Sorry)
2007-09-18 08:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by flirty30 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't confuse love with commitment. A commited wife or husband will never stray. Love dosen't play into it.
2007-09-18 08:27:18 · answer #8 · answered by cmrwash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the reason people have sex OUTSIDE of the marriage is because they are missing something INSIDE of the marriage. We all want Mr Perfect or Miss Perfect. We do NOT get that perfection that we want....everrrrrrrrrrr! So some people want their cake & eat it too...some people just can not be satisfied and get bored.
I believe that if they cheat, they are liars. If they lie to one, they will lie to all.
He HAS to care for her and love her enough to stay married to her.
2007-09-18 08:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by acksherly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, You are the woman the man is straying with,,,he is MARRIED, and remember, history is a great teacher,,,
he leaves his wife, marries you, it will always be in the back of your mind,,he cheated on his wife,,,
2007-09-18 08:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
some women know there hubbys are doing stuff but they will keep quiet cause they dno't want to leae and it doen'st matter we4ll i for one would not tolerate it and that is sad for someone to stand by and let someone do this to them if hes messing with soemone hes not in love with the wife its pretty positive.
2007-09-24 14:40:06 · answer #11 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋