he is 46 years old and thinking of marriage.
ido not wish to give him divorce for playing with my life like this.i wish to stay in marriage n also win him back gradually.what steps should i take?is it just plain friendship with that female or sex also? it is so unbelievable to think that he can have sex with another woman when hside by side he was screwing me up so that i do not suspect him(woman instinct)
2007-09-18 07:00:43 · 50 answers · asked by christina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is sleeping with her (sorry)
why else would he want to marry her
get rid of him and move on
2007-09-18 07:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by Mindy S 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
some people stay married for the wrong reasons to think they are paying that person back by not giving in to what they what but really in all reality ur just hurting urself in the long run. Its better to face the facts, be hurt, let go and move on rather than living a lie in an unhappy marriage. U cant win a man back that does not want u. U cant contol his life or what he does but u can control how u live ur life.
2007-09-18 07:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by louise23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Think I'm kinda confused by this question.
Your husband whats to marry another woman but is still married to you...? Well I say drop him like a sack of potatoes !! I know its going to be hard after 16 yrs but what he is doing to emotionally and physically is not a husband.
You are suffering now..but in the end it will be for the best..right now he has the best of two worlds..His wife and G-friend...Don't let him play you anymore..Be strong and show him you can move on in your life!!
You will need help family, friends and medically..But trying to win him back is not going to work..the damage is done !! so sorry..And if by chance if you did win him back..can you ever trust him again?? Your marriage will never be the same.
I'm sorry ,,,Its hard but you will make it through..
2007-09-18 07:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is your husband and is thinking of marrying some other woman then yes sex is probably involved. However, you deserve better. He is disrespecting you and the vow he made to you on your wedding day. Don't let him do this to you. Let him go. You don't need him anyway. I know you are taking your vows seriously and trying to make it work, but if he cheats now he will always cheat. No one deserves to be with a cheater. Please, leave now. Divorce him. It will be difficult at first but you will take time and your heart will heal. With each day you will feel better. Best of luck.
2007-09-18 07:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u r husband want to divorce u then divorce him but u have to get some big amount of allimany say around 40-50 lakhs RS ...he will surely not having this much of amount in his bank a/c ..or just pretand as if nothing has happen...... and if he is in love with some one else than go and meet that bi*** that she is breaking ur marriage ...and tell her that she should go away from his life bec of her all the relation r breaking if she has got some shame than she will leave ur husband him.
2007-09-18 17:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by monika m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not worry about him. Give him his divorce and tell him to get lost.
Find a man who loves you and you love back. Go out, have some fun and get yourself a makeover.
You are worth way more. Don't waste your time on someone who does not want to be married to you anymore. He is taking care of himself so you take care of YOU!!
Good luck, I do wish you the best
2007-09-18 07:19:11 · answer #6 · answered by Ann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the only way to have what you want is to let him go. Most likely whatever relationship he has with her will fizzle out and he'll come crawling back, but don't worry in the time he's gone get yourself together and maybe by the time he tries to come back you'll be strong enough not to want him anymore. Go see a counselor they can work wonders
2007-09-18 07:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your point, but TBH, why not just give him a divorce and get him out of your life.
If he wants to marry someone else, and more to the point, has been messing you around, why ever would you want to waste another 16 years with him.
I'm sorry, but you will be more unhappy.
You may not even win him back.
Let it go, treat and pamper yourself and I bet in time you will look back and wonder why you ever thought you might want to stay with him
Good luck with whatever decision you make!!!
2007-09-18 07:07:18 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Can a man of 46 have two women at a time?I mean have sex with both?I think it should be a bit difficult.If he is seriously thinking of marrying her,there is no need to try to avoid suspicion.Why should he try to keep you from suspecting?I think he still cares for you deep in his heart but is trying to satisfy his ego and convince himself that even when he is aging he is attracive to other women.
READ AGATHA CHRISTIES "PARKER PYNE INVESTIGATES---Case of the middle aged wife."
2007-09-20 09:08:51 · answer #9 · answered by saina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let go and really see why you want him to stay. really you might even have a better NEW life it not over at 40+ it's just another level of life to walk.
let him go and wittiness his own mistake it look good now but he might want you back when he not around to see what he miss.
but don't focus on why he want to leave but focus on more what to do with the new freedom you now have to do all the thing you wasn't able to
sometime what seem as a bad thing is really a blessing in discise
2007-09-18 07:09:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel for you, I was with my ex for 12 yrs before I heard those words "I want a divorce." I was devastated, the night before we made love. He always treated me with respect and never a day went by without saying "I love you." to one another. But still he left and yes it was for another woman. I feel your pain, I hope I can help by saying you need to move on and do things for yourself, for you see the quicker you do this the better you will feel. You have to know this is his problem not yours. Always remember the best revenge.....live well.
2007-09-18 07:12:57 · answer #11 · answered by lucidwillow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋