My sister and I have not spoken in about two years. My husband and I had major problems, he was cheating, abusive, smoking marijuana, but had stopped all of those things. I used to talk to my sister for years as she was more that a sister, a good friend about my problems with him, and any other issues I had. My husband and I had separated then got back together and he had totally cleaned up his act. When we got back together and weren't having any problems, my sister then called the department of children and families and made up a 100% lie stating my husband threw a chair at me and was doing drugs. He took a drug test and passed, however we went through a 1-1/2 year battle with DCF including having to go to counseling, having our child taken away for two days (she was given back to us because the charges were false), it has just been a nightmare. We recently moved about 45 minutes away from her and I am wondering if I should call her. She still admits no wrong doing in this?
2007-09-18 07:23:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I understand your anger towards her. What she did to you and your family was wrong. However, if you keep holding it against her and not speaking to her it will only continue to bother and upset you. Forgive and forget not for her but for you and your peace of mind. You will feel much better if you forgive her and accept it. Best of luck.
2007-09-18 07:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what she or your husband have done in the past, make peace with your sister. She is your blood and feuds between family members can ruin a lifetime of friendship. Don't allow one event to ruin a potentially wonderful sibling relationship. My brother and I went through the same thing. I forgave him for wronging me. We have moved past this and now our relationship is better than before. I felt foolish and regretful I let it drag on as long as I did. Don't make the same mistake I did.
2007-09-18 15:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by standup149 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! If you are even thinking about calling her, your a bigger person than me. Cause I would never ever talk to someone again, if they pulled that on me, relative or not! This is a hard one honey!
If you think you can look past what she has done and want to get your relationship back with her, then call her. But think long and hard about it... Plus I think I would talk about it with your husband as well, cause this would affect him too. Either way. Good luck to you and I wish you the best!
2007-09-18 07:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your sister was trying to find a way to get your husband out of your life....after all you said that he was cheating, abusive, and smoked marijuana....ALL GOOD QUALITIES IN A MAN DON'T YOU THINK??? Seriously....he cleaned up his act to get you back....men rarely change for long...especially one that is abusive.....his true colors will emerge again....you can count on it...and do you want your sister to be there for you? You should reconcile with her...she is your sister and even though she did lie...you confided in her about your pathetic husband and she loves you and didn't want to see you hurt anymore.
2007-09-18 07:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tricky one. She is your sister and we are supposed to forgive but then again that was pretty wrong what she did to you. I would probably cut ties with her because if she did it once ya never know what she may do next time.
2007-09-18 08:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by must<3dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only apoligize plan and straightforward. and confirm you install there you should no longer have performed it infront of the youngsters. i have been given in a strive against with my brother pretty a lot 10yrs in the past and we havnt spoken provided that formerly the strive against we were so close. Now neither persons has the currige to make the first flow...i believe like i lost my brother continually. dont enable that take position to you adult men, sallow your delight and only call her.
2016-10-20 01:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your mother is living go to her with the problem and talk to your pastor for help on this question it sounds all mixed up with drugs noone should be ondrugs when they have children anyway it not fair to them they should be first in your life
2007-09-18 07:35:43 · answer #7 · answered by gram 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My younger sister pulled that crap on my older sister. It caused all sorts of crap in the family.
I would let her stew until she comes to you. However, I would pick on her for doing it.
2007-09-18 07:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel in your heart. But please use caution in all things. If it's not workable between you, then dont continue the relationship. We pick our friends. Our family comes naturally. But that does not always make it right.
2007-09-18 07:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people may not agree but I would not talk to her until she admits doing something wrong.
2007-09-18 07:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋