What should you do if your wife almost never wants sex?

Question

I feel like I'm the only one interested in our love life. She gets mad if I ask about it.

Answer 1

Sex is a normal part of life and marriage. It is an essential part. Try talking it out. Was she abused? There may be underlying issues.

I'd suggest that the next time she does want it, take your time and make it the best shes ever had. If that doesn't work you can either live with no sex or find a new wife.

Answer 2

Are you married to my wife too?

But we believe it's becaseu of recent stressers and medication. She's getting off the pill in a couple months, we'll see if anything changes. Hopefully part of the stress will go away with what we talked about the other day.

All remains to be seen. Oh and the wine, dine, romance thing, I do this all the time, and not just to get sex, and yet still she seems to have no interest. And if I mention it, seh gets angry and says stuff like "that's all you think about" "nothing is ever enough" (meaning the once a month should be enough for me).

help this guy out, and e-mail me too with specific info if you could, thanks.

Answer 3

Are you giving her wham bam thank you ma'am sex or are you doing it right? If you try to seduce her the right way, maybe she'll be more receptive. Sex to women is more about emotions that the physical so you'll have to treat her as though she's important to you. Write her love notes, call her during the day to see how she's doing, bring her flowers, kiss her neck, help around the house, rub her back or feet, things like that. And do those things always, not just when you want sex or she'll catch on real fast. Make sure yor'e taking care of her needs in the bedroom first too.

Answer 4

Find out why she feels this way. I can say that some medications will make you feel this way. Is she taking any meds? Has this been going on for awhile? She gets mad because she doesn't know why this is happening and she has no answer for you. She could start by talking with her doctor about it and go from there. Maybe she needs counseling or counseling for the two of you. Good luck.

Answer 5

Coming from a lady, most of the time its like we arent in the mood. You should talk to your wife and tell her how you feel. Ask her why isnt she into having adult relationship with you? if i was you, you should try to set the mood for her. Like example you could put candles around the house and when she comes in you could just make your move. Another thing you could play dress up. You could pretend you are a fireman, or something else. Its different for women to sexually active. I guess its just cause of our homones. Any how, just try the candle thing. Have it set before she comes home, then before she comes into the house lite up all the candles. Plus have a nice bath with rose pedels ready for her or you could have the rose pedels leading to the bedroom and on top of the bed. Set the mood for her. I hope this works for you and good luck.

Answer 6

I have no explanation for why women act like this. I don't think anyone should have sex if they do not want to, but at the same time I just wonder- why would you deny your husband sex? I think it may be a power thing for some women.

Answer 7

You need to talk to her about it--and TOUGH if she gets mad!
As a couple, you have a duty to fulfill each other's needs, and that is a part of her duty to you.

On the other hand, maybe you just aren't a very good lover....so if you work on that, she will want it more.

Answer 8

Talk to her about it and come upfront and ask her why.Its probily a personal reason but tell her how you feel and a good and understanding wife would understand.

Answer 9

Use your hand, it's much safer that way. NO! STD'S, then have a long talk with your wife about the lack of sex.

Answer 10

When women don't want sex its because they are not getting something they need from you. Find out why she's unhappy and your sex life will maybe get better.