Say you were in a bad relationship, and felt yourself drifting more and more towards just getting out. This person played you, and you stayed, but you discovered your self worth and realized you CAN be happy by yourself. You were already headed on the way out. In the meantime, you meet someone, and kind of become attached to them. An amazing person with an incredible sense of thought and conversation, and sensuality. You know they most likely won't ever get out of what they're in, even though they are unhappy too, and not getting what they deserved? Do you just chalk it up as "oh well....it was nice conversation?" (This would NOT entail cheating on a current spouse..that would have ended first) What woud you do? Nothing?
2007-09-18 11:39:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think if you're just now feeling confident in yourself, and have come to the realization that you don't actually NEED anybody to be happy, then I would hold off on the new relationship.
Work on you and let that settle in for a bit.
2007-09-18 11:53:43 · answer #1 · answered by MoonGoddess 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any thought of if he leaves her and she leaves her's and then maybe they can do this or that is still a form of cheating , it's called emotional cheating , if you can not possibly save the relationship's you are in and they are that bad then go what ever the cost , nobody should stay in an abusive or empty marriage where they are ignored or treated like trash , but trying to justify your words with it would not entail cheating on a current spouse because you would have ended it 1st , ummm who you tryna convince ?, us ? or yourself?.
Get your thought's , money and kid's if there are any together and go and steer clear of any new relationship for at least 4 month's so that you can re-discover who you are and who your kid's are before committing to something else.And dont go near the other man/woman.
Good luck.
2007-09-18 19:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the other person was in a relationship - however bad they said it was - and you were also in a bad relationship, why not end both before taking up with each other?
Too many people seem to feel that they are "entitled" to try on the new relationship BEFORE finishing the old, but that just leaves one hell of a mess.
Try being adult about this and instead of "drifting towards getting out" do it. Finish the relationship.
And if the other person is "most likely won't ever get out of what they are in" then leave them to it. And let me tell you that if that's their attitude, then they are getting what they deserve.
Its too easy to drift into these non-committal relationships because both parties are tied up somewhere else, but its not fair on the person, or their partners, who are more often than not, left in ignorance.
2007-09-18 18:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have discovered your self worth, you would realize that to really value yourself, you would let that 'someone' know that you are cutting off ties unless they care to end their committed relationship and until and unless they do, consider the friendship OVER. That is the meaning of true self worth, to know that you are worth enough to not have to sit by and put up with being 'the other woman' (or man). Also, to value yourself, you should only be content doing what you know is the right thing, don't you want to be able to hold your head up every morning, and look in the mirror each morning and know that you are a decent, good person?
2007-09-18 19:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moongoddess has a good point. Spending time on your own is a very important thing. It brings out our independence, confidence and strength and does more than simply show us we can survive, but teaches us we can thrive without the help of anyone else. The strong we are as a person the more we can expect and demand from someone we choose to be with. Who knows maybe this other guy is just the tip of the ice burg of great guys you will now be ready to meet with your new confidence.
2007-09-18 19:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the other option? Getting tangled up in a web of fantasy, desperation and unrealistic expectations? I would "chalk it up" and go play with someone who might be more available.
2007-09-18 18:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
leave ur husband first of all,because relation without love is like a deadbody in your soulder.Get rid of the sick relation.Then u r free to do what ever u want.Get a real partner.U deserve.
I could not do it but i want u dont suffer like me.
2007-09-18 19:18:10 · answer #7 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you do? If you have morals and won't cheat and they won't leave their current situation, then all you can say is have a nice life and go on with yours.
2007-09-18 18:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋