Ok my boyfriend is 19 and Im totally in love with him...hes everything i have always wanted in life since i was a little girl. He proposed to me the other night and i said yes...he is working on getting the ring. He left for bootcamp today and he will be gone for nine weeks and we promised to write every chance we get. He tells me that im the most important person in his life and he is sending me a gift that his mother told him to give to the one person he wishes to spen his life with. He is completly ready to wait for me to finish school and is already saving up money so he can buy us a house. Only problem is my parents dont know about it....They wouldnt understand so im just going to continue telling them we are dating...any advice?
2007-09-18 10:42:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How many times have I heard"but they wouldn't understand".Parents have lived a long time longer than you have and I suspect they understand a whole lot more than you give them credit for knowing.
Your boyfriend is going into a job where his life will be in danger and it is typical for them to want to leave a wife or girl behind so they have something to come home to.
It is very young for both of you to get so entangled so soon.
Just take it easy for now and let things unfold slowly so that you can both grow together. It is too easy to grow apart.
2007-09-18 10:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's everything you wanted since you were a little girl... No offense you still are a little girl. Give it time you shouldn't be getting engaged wait a few years. I am 22 years old everything I thought I wanted when I was 15 has done a 360. I am not saying this guy isn't the right one for you but if he really loves you he will wait until you are old enough. Graduate from hs go to college and then think about marriage!
2007-09-18 17:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Pea 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to hear this, but you really are too young. I know it seems like you're totally in love with him and he is everything you have always wanted. You have growing up to do and a lot of changing to do as well. I would consider having a "promise" ring instead of an engagement ring. If you both feel the same in 3 years, go for it.
2007-09-18 17:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jen0408 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IA m not ganna say ur young or anything u sounds really mature girl and not like those teens this days. I was engage when I was 14 . and didn't work our soon I start realizing that I need more from life then just a husband. but now that Ia m 22 Married woman that Love my husband. anyways u need tell Ur parents first because Ur are a minor. and u still under u parents control.
2007-09-18 18:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by I_belong_to_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl live a little. You are just a child. I wish that I could go back you will end up pregnant and he will run off. It 's true been there done all that you have. I know what you are going thru. I hope that you have a head on your shoulders and believe your parents know what is best for you. Take their advice.
2007-09-18 17:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP. LOCK the DOOR. Do not proceed with any of this non-sense.
Here's a quiz:
How long does it take to wash, dry, fold a weeks worth of laundry
How much does a weeks worth of groceries cost
How much is a set of tires for your car.
Have you ever purchased auto, renters or life insurance - explain how it works.
How much, on average, does a month worth of electricity cost?
Name ten things that you can cook (not using a microwave)
Explain conception
Describe, in detail, your household budget.
Which is a better deal? a chance to go to college, develop and broaden your interests, or sit in base housing in Junction City Kansas.
2007-09-18 17:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
at 15, you do not know that he's the guy of your life. but you have already made a decision, so hopefully you can be engaged until 18 or later then get married. and let your parents know. it's better to come out of you and him then someone else.
2007-09-18 18:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHY would a 19 year old date a 15 year old? Did you parents know about the dating?
If you can't tell them you're "engaged", you probably shouldn't be.
2007-09-18 18:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by Wayner 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry sweetie, but if you consider yourself emotionally mature enough to make the decision, at this stage of your life, who you want to spend your life with, then you should be mature enough to face your parents, and tell them.
If not, then I suggest that you hold off with the engagement until you are.
BTW - you still are that little girl.
2007-09-18 17:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being fifteen...you ARE a 'little girl'. Right now you don't think it's possible...but please believe me when I tell you that in 12 / 18 months you will have difficulty remembering his name. Enjoy your youth.....don't squander what CAN be the happiest time of your life in playing at being 'engaged'. "Engaged" is for people who are mature, are ready to be married...and are capable of going ahead WITH marriage in the near future.
2007-09-18 17:58:40 · answer #10 · answered by levatorlux 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋