Is it normal to have bad fights with your bf/gf after you've been together for years? Please tell me how you argue if you've been in a long relationship
2007-09-18 12:26:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How do we argue?? We yell back and forth then one of us will storm out of the house. We have been married 37 years.
Hope this helps.
2007-09-18 16:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by I love winter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship has its perpetual arguments. It doesn't matter how good a relationship is, you are going to find yourself fighting over the housework (or whatever) every three weeks for as long as the relationship lasts. That's just how it is because there is no such person as Mr or Miss Perfect-in every-way.
The important part is about how you fight. No screaming, no hitting, no personal insults and don't drag up past arguments unless really relevent. You both have to remember that you are on the same team, even if you aren't agreeing on some topic or other. There isn't any such thing as win-lose in a relationship. Unless you are both winning, you are both losing.
2007-09-18 19:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Statistically speaking if two people are not married within the first two years being together then odds are against the two of you of ever getting married. I'm not saying you won't but statistics say other wise. After two years the honeymoon is over then comes all the nasty little habits that get on your nerves.That little piece of paper means a lot and without it there is nothing to keep you two together. If you two are fighting over little things now what's to keep him there with you,you better decide if you two want to stay together and if so you better make an afford at getting along.
2007-09-18 19:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone argues, it's HOW you argue that's important. when you are bf/gf you don't seem to look at the issues as seriously as if you were married- and you begin to doubt the person you married or try to understand the issue and resolve them. when only dating, you argue and try to be right or win. take a moment to reflect really hard on the reality of the issues because they won't go away with marriage and you two may not be right for each other. compatibility is just as important as love between each other and without both a relationship has a hard time lasting.
2007-09-18 19:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its completely normal. Its kind of a phase. You guys are going to be fine. Ive been in a 2 month relationship, and yes, I did have lots of arguements. About all types of things. In the end, we stook together. We're not together anymore, though. Lol. I hope you have a great relationship!
2007-09-18 19:33:48 · answer #5 · answered by Munchkin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Win your argument thr the sofest way. Keep listening while your husband say anythings until his angers have been voiced out and calm down. This is the hardest way to keep silent and only to listening but your intention is to calm him. When he was finished and see him calmed down, try to talk in a sweet manner that your intention is not bad but to make him more happy.
That's the time you will ask his time to listen to you now this time because you have heard all his words.
The fighting will make you control and settle down diferrences..
2007-09-19 00:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋