Why Do People Give Cheaters A Second Chance When They Dont Derserve It One Bit!!?

Question

Okay lets take a husband for example since they are the BEST examples okay, he cheats like 4 to 15 times on his wife, the wife finally founds out and is furious but she whines and says "but I love you so much and I can’t let you go, please done cheat again!” the husband says “ I wont I promise” but he cheats again and again, once a cheater always a cheater

Don’t you people get it, people who cheat don’t have respect and do love you, what if the husband has unprotected sex all the freaken time with 69 different women then has the nerve to come home and have sex with you putting you in danger of getting STD’s that you have to suffer for the rest of your miserable life, is that love! I don’t think so. Why would you give them a second chance?

For one, they took marriage vows
While they were cheating they had a clear head about it
While they were cheating they were thinking about their spouse
And lastly they don’t care.

So what's the deal? All cheaters should be marked so that everybody can be warned

correction: DONT love you

Answer 1

We could put a flaming S on their foreheads.
Shave their heads, have a court rule they have to keep their heads shaved so they can't grow bangs to cover it up.
I know this is not a laughing matter, every time he sticks his penis in another woman he's not alone, he's all so sleeping with ever partner she has ever slept with. Scary business.
My first husband slept with every woman who I thought were friends, I was 20 He 40. I've never thought about this, but I guess I slept with these women to
Think twice ladies, and gentlemen, can you ever trust that person again.
God bless

Answer 2

I am so sorry you were cheated on.

I agree that it is the worst thing that can happen in a marriage, you are terrible violated.
Some of the women will just take it because they do not have enough respect for themselves and they do not think they could make it without the husband.

This is sad but we can't give every woman guts to stand up for themselves and kick him to the curb!

I would say the best I could suggest if the wife stays would be NOT to have sex with her spouse until several aids tests were neg and then only if she wants to, of course.

Many many years ago, my 1st hubby cheated on me.

I got a knock at the door at 3 am. It was a man standing there with a shotgun in his hand.
Don't ask me why I answered the door in the 1st place, I went on gut instinct.

Anyhow, he said, I am just letting you know before I go over to my house and blow my wife and your husband away.

I very calmly said, don't waste your bullets and your life for them. They deserve each other, let them rot together.

Too bad things didn't work out, he was really cute but I was too busy getting away from the hubby, lock stock and barrel, I moved everything out the next day!

Good luck

Answer 3

a cheater like your talking about is bad real bad but people who cheat should be a second or third chance but not more than that. A cheating husband is a good example but when you look at other kinds of cheaters you got to think why the cheated. But no matter what the reason i support the three strikes and you out.

Answer 4

To be quite honest..NONE of us are deserving of God's mercy and love based upon our actions...everyone who is alive has screwed up enough to find themselves on the wrong side of the tracks...

I believe in forgive and forget...it isn't that I am ok with their actions...it is because I know that people are human and they do screw up..as much on the men's side as the women's.,..I DON'T think once a cheater always...

I think that when that happens, it depends on the demeanor of the person...

is he/she feeling bad...for being CAUGHT? or for what they have done? look there is NO way that this problem goes away with a SORRY...that is the least of the things that ought to be done..but..I am soooo imperfect myself that I would forgive them for what they have done. I do NOT want to live with that burden of hate and anger on my conscience and I DON'T want them to live knowing that I cannot forgive them..

AS LONG AS THEY ARE SINCERE..it will be harder for them to forgive themselves. I don't want them to worry about my forgiveness...it WOULD hurt, because i put faith and confidence in that person...but when I got married, it was for better or worse and I assumed that responsibility when the vows were pronounced. Yes , to some it is a deal breaker..a breaking of vows..but I feel that more often than not..I have had my own discrepancies that may not have been cheating...but were probably not good either...

i don't believe that people just trip over the sexual organs of another person..there is a reason as to why they did what they did...I would try to find that reason and rectify that on my side at least...if they do it again...then that is different. if they do it repeatedly then they were not sorrowful for what they have done.

Answer 5

People cheat because there is something missing from their relationship (i.e. attention, affection, etc.). My friend is a cheater, and he does it because his wife neglects him in so many ways, as well as he feels resentment. Once they got married, she stopped working, and has not held a job for more than 2 months at a time. They have been married over 10 years, and have a 6 year old daughter, so basically it's "cheaper to keep her." I think he should leave her, but he just doesn't have the balls I guess.

Answer 6

Wel li do think people deserve a second chance and we are human and make mistakes some mistakes are just bigger than others..i believe that the "first time shame on him/her second time shame on you" then i would leave i dont think i would be able to stay the first time it happened but the second time it is your fault cuz you stayed with them and you knew that they did it before not all people that cheat do it again the majority yes but not all and it is okay to give someone a second chance but if they do it again you need to leave

Answer 7

Once you can forgive. But if they cheat again show them the door. I think with woman they think they can change the guy. The person that cheats he/she have no respect for his/her partner or themselves. People have to look at what attracted them to their partner in the first place, perhaps go back and do stuff what they both like doing in the earlier time in their relationship.

Answer 8

people stay with cheaters for many reasons they may have low self esteem, may not be independent and dependent on that person, afraid of being alone, think that the person will change, be cheating back and believe its fair, blame the cause of the affair on the other individual and so their loved one was innocent and did nothing it was the other who had jumped all over them in sex, or they may have children and stay for the sake of th children...all these excuses are used but all are not legitimate reasons for staying with a cheater people need to gain power of themselves and learn to love themselves and realize they deserve respect...

Answer 9

If he cheats 15 times he deserves the door, without a doubt, but what of the man who cheats the once? Or the wife for that matter? Is everyone required to kick them to the curb, because of the one lapse in judgment? Is no-one worthy of a second chance? Of making amends and getting it right?
And are all relationships equal, in fulfilling the needs of those in it?
I don't condone cheating, and I have never cheated, or ever wanted to, but that doesn't mean that I don't understand how some are tempted, for what ever reason, to stray.
A habitual cheater does deserve nothing less than a divorce, but we aren't living the lives of their partners, so who are you to sit in judgment of their actions?

Answer 10

in your example you mentioned cheating over and over...the men keep cheating because they keep being taken back. yes a person deserves a second chance but once they do it again they should know that they are not going to change. They cheat because they can get away with it.

i do agree with you, they should be marked.

and you do make a point love is not giving your wife and std.