Marriage & Divorce - 29 August 2007

Hello board, My wife and I are having a debate We have 4 children ages 11, 10, 9 and 3 we are both 40 but we are also a blended family only together for the last 6 years We have one child that is ADHD and we both work full time, She works 40 hour work week 8-5. I work a compressed 3 day 4 day rotation 12 hours night shift. Our sex life has dwindled to once a week and it’s no romance just sex get if over with so wife can go to sleep. I asked her if she loves me or if she is in love with me, she says she is in love with me. She says our love life is normal for the above info, I want he all the time and she barley has time for me. She is involved in the PTA and she has card making class once a month. I watch kids for these time. We try to have a date night every other week. So some input from any one in our same boat,. Thanks

2007-08-29 12:54:40 · 11 answers · asked by Chastain T 1

i REALLY need someone to talk too! if anyone can give me some advice, i would really appreciate it. you can feel free to im me sometime also.

2007-08-29 12:50:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for about 6 years , I have a 10 year old from a previous relationship. Wll I have a daughter who is 2 and Iam pregnant again. I work nights about 4 nighs a wek ad am home durinthe day. I do all of the cooking ,cleaning, bill paying, dr.'s appts and so on. I dont mind doing them but I need anight out with him or maybe just to go to a book store or to a movie. Well he works urin the day and by th time he comes home the kids are in bed and I am at work from 5pm ti 3am and up at 5 everymorning cuz thats when my daughter wakes up. He goes out 2 nights a week by himself and I want to make him undestand that I need time away too. Bt he just says I am nagging and that I should be happy with what I have. How do I make him understand that not only having 2 kids and one more on te way takes its toll too and I need to get out othe than to go to work?! Help! Serious inquires only please!! Thanks in advance.

2007-08-29 12:41:46 · 17 answers · asked by littlemama 2

husand and wife become one in heaven. is there a way you can be married spiritually even though u werent physically married by law? because i love this girl and we are in love and we want to get married but what happens if the world ends before we get married? is there anyway we can be spiritually married with god?

2007-08-29 12:41:02 · 6 answers · asked by Skater4Life 1

My husband had a relationship for over a year with some pretty nurse. He says he only had sex with her twice? To top it off he left pictures of them together for me to find. What should I do? I feel so stupid.

2007-08-29 12:40:39 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I lost a Brother on a motorcycle and I dont want to do this, He had the motorcycle when we got married and I had nothing to say about that. He thinks I am being silly, but I am really scared to ride it! I dont want to hurt his feelings but I dont think that he is considering mine! Do you think I should go with him or let him go alone?

2007-08-29 12:38:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Let's say you initiated the divorce. You had an affair, you got pregnant and had an abortion because you didn't know if it was your husband's. Then you are trying to trash him in court like it was all his fault. Then it's been 4 months since you left him and you're still angry. Why in the world would you still be angry at him? Considering the fact that you told him before the **** hit the fan that you would be devistated if he left you! Now also consider that your husband found all this out and has had no contact with you for those very reasons. Why would you be mad at him!?

2007-08-29 12:37:37 · 9 answers · asked by survivor 1

we have been best friends my entire life and I'm getting married in early October. I want him to be the best man but I hope he doesn't say anything of an inappropriate nature.

2007-08-29 12:30:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My friend finalized her divorce 3 weeks ago. The day after it was final, she had a co worker move into her apartment and had her son start calling him Daddy. Now she says they are getting married at year's end. This is CLEARLY a rebound to me, and her family. As a friend of the famliy, how can I convince her that she needs time to heal from her failed marriage before making another mistake. She has stopped going to church and is kicking her mom out for someone she hardly knows, and I want to be there as a friend, but fear she will shut me out too. Any advice on how to get through to her before she says "I DO?"

2007-08-29 12:24:29 · 13 answers · asked by That guy 1

We've been married 4 years now (no kids), and now she's all pronked off cause I took this other woman to Florida. I say she's got no right to be pronked, cause she SNOOPED where she wasn't sposed to. I can't stand snoopers, and I'm seriously thinking about leaving her. What should I do?

2007-08-29 12:22:01 · 78 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a single father and I have custody of my two kids and I hate sharing pizza with them. We ordered two medium-size pizzas last time and thanks to them, I only got five slices. When I was single I use to order medium-size pizzas all for myself. I suppose I love my kids and all, but I just hate having to share with them. What am I supposed to do?

2007-08-29 12:14:46 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

The issue is state supported individuals. I need precedence to show a DHHS enforcement officer. Please, if you know of a person, for instance one shot several times by police "accidentally", possibly in more than coincidental support of a "policeman's daughter's" divorce / case of shooting of her estranged 'husband' for the insurance money, please if you know of a person "let off the hook" for child support because of bullet wounds, and post traumatic stress disorder, and Stockholm Syndrome, and Cap-grass Syndrome leading to a loss of employ-ability, especially given the automatic loss of ability to privately employ himself due to business license right forfeiture for failure to pay child support and the issue of imputed wages of over $30,000 after being plugged by cops through the head and shot in the heart by the ex's contract killer!

2007-08-29 11:52:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-29 11:45:41 · 51 answers · asked by phillip h 1

I have been married for 15 years I was married at 18 and came from a slighty disfuntional surroundings (as most of us have, lol). My Husband works as a truck driver and is gone at least more then half the year it seems...but when I look at what we have I think "well wheres all the money your making at"?I stopped going to school to take care of our 2 children.And work a low paying job.I KNOW for a FACT he's cheated at least 2 times, so I thought If I did the same he would feel like he made me feel.StUPID! Instead I feel like a dirty whore.I want to go back to school so I can provide for our children.But because of his abusive behaviors towards me(not kids) I 'm afraid he will know I am trying to move on.He wont let me have any freinds and my family is pissed off with me for marrying him in the first place.I try and be strong for my children but because of lack of support I feel like I'm drowning and alone, you can call me a stupid loser .But I am human, not a rock...I need help

2007-08-29 11:44:37 · 20 answers · asked by Jordan! 2

A female friend was talking about going shopping out of state, and her coworker told her of some great places to find some deals. She impulsively said she would love to go, and made plans to go this up coming weekend. She is a married woman, and the guy is single. Her husband seems to be very accomodating when it comes to her friendships with other males. But I think he really doesn't like it. Should the married woman really be planning trips with guys she barely knows ? I don't know much about the guy, but I am concerned that her behaviour is not normal. When I talk to her sometimes she tells me that she is bored with her life.

2007-08-29 11:42:47 · 13 answers · asked by Ultra 2

the man is apparently bisexual and engages in polyamorous relations. The mother and father are divorced and the mother has relocated to where there is no familial support. Furthermore she is a doctoral student who studies educational psychology. The mother is financially supported only through child support from the father, financial aid and student loans.

2007-08-29 11:40:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-29 11:33:39 · 15 answers · asked by ? 1

I have been married for 14 years. I admit that I did the most horrible thing and want my husband to try to forgive me. I feel like my life will be over if he doesnt. I know that many of you will say that it is unforgivable, but if anybody can suggest what I can possibly do to fix my marriage, please do. It was a horrible mistake, I just did not know how to stop it. I realize that I have hurt him terribly and would like to fix it. Please help

2007-08-29 11:32:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am married for 14 years. I admit that I did the most horrible thing and want my husband to try to forgive me. I feel like my life will be over if he doesnt. I know that many of you will say that it is unforgivable, but if anybody can suggest what I can possibly do to fix my marriage, please do. It was a horrible mistake, I just did not know how to stop it. I realize that I have hurt him terribly and would like to fix it. Please help

2007-08-29 11:30:24 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend and I have been together 5 years now. Had a smooth first 3 years. Fourth year we split for 3 months due to his partying and unfaithfulness and my lack of understanding for his need to party . Here we are, going on our 5th year and he is having second thoughts of why he acts the way he does. He tells me I would be a perfect wife. And honestly, I would be. Its like I'm his wife already. We have lived together 3 years now. Have a car and split expenses. I have never pushed marriage, ever. In the last year BOTH of us talked of it. He asked questions of what rings I like...there was evidence and he was about to ask me. BUT didn't. He chickened out. I dont know what his problem is. You would think after 5 years he would be head over heels with me, just as I am for him. We are still in college and have goals, BOTH talk of our goals as a couple, together in the end. He has what he wants...sex, home, a loving companian. I'm scared to be hurt and scared of waiting for the unkown.

2007-08-29 11:26:30 · 13 answers · asked by WINO86 1

He devotes most of his free time to helping out with the church's youth group, but won't do anything with his own teenage son. Never has done anything with any of his children. I think it is because he gets lots of attention there and has no responsibility for them outside of church.

2007-08-29 11:23:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

my friends husband works out of town and is only home on weekends..most of the time he doesnt even come home...he doesnt call her but maybe once or twice a week and she has found #s in his vehicle...he doesnt want her to come and visit him while he is at work, but all the other wifes of his co-workers do? What do you say to your best friend when you think the man she married may be a fraud?

2007-08-29 11:22:01 · 12 answers · asked by Mindy S 3

I recently read where a woman can now be tested if she's been unfaithful by sweat glands!

I also read that it's a viable test is over 99.80% accurate of the time for a period of 6 months, and is admissible in almost every court of law!

I read this because the JUDGE who stripped me of visitation rights informed me she could not stop me from having sex, but could prevent me from seeing my son who I hurt with horrid behavior in a sexual manner.

I was also told if I agreed to accept testing I could have supervised visitation rights!

HAS ANYONE HEARD OF THIS TEST?
IS IT AS ACCEPTED IN CALIFORNIA?

MY LAWYER SAYS IT , BECAUSE THE JUDGE IS NOT PREVENTING ME FROM HAVING SEX JUST PROTECTING MY SON WHO NOW HAS POST TRUMATIC STRESS AFTER A STUPID JOKE THAT WENT WRONG!
Here have a read: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070827222051AArhpXd
Or this one: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AsyNNXajjD7SjvSlPaEJ59zsy6IX?qid=20070826225830AAZhZlH

2007-08-29 11:17:40 · 5 answers · asked by April Snow 1

Coming from a Hispanic country, women legally don't have to change their name when they get married, but people could start calling you Mrs. Husband's last name informally and that's ok by me. When you have kids, specifically in PR, your kids must have husbands last name followed by mom's last name so your kids would be Maria Smith Peters for example. When we moved to the states I am "Mrs. Peters" officially, but then when they meet my husband and/or kids, they get all confused and when I explained they just don't understand why I would "do that to my kids". I never had a mental issue with this when I was a child. Why do people make it such an issue. I find myself explaining myself all the time. Could we just be?

2007-08-29 11:13:01 · 24 answers · asked by lasm97 3

well I have been making him lunch for the past 2 weeks, bcuz hes been telling me that he wants to start taking lunch anyway.. I found out he gave half of his lunch to a co-worker I speak to her on a daily basis u can say were friends not to close but getting there anyway I cant help it but it kinda makes me upset bcuz I make it for him and if he gives half away obviously he still hungry and will eventually buy.. which is the reason why weve started to brown bag it were on a budget.. am I exagerating??? serious answers please.

2007-08-29 11:07:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

He is verbal, and mentally abusive, i need out asap i cant handle this anymore, we spent 3 weeks appart for holidays and i realize i need out he is so crule do i write him a note and leave till he reads it or do i stay and listen to the verbal and mental abuse? please, i dont know how to get out :(

2007-08-29 11:07:03 · 16 answers · asked by 12121212 3

My husband and i have been seperated for about 6 months now. we have a 5 yr old son. the relationship was unhealthy and tons of arguing and overall he was a bad husband. i cant decide what to do in means of sep or div? i dont miss him and i dont really want him back right now either. i love getting my individuality back and finding out more about me! .I can also see that he has not changed and not sure( almost positive) he never will. I am just not sure what to do from here?

2007-08-29 11:02:41 · 11 answers · asked by calimom42 1

I close friend of mine asked me the other day a Q about rebound relationships. And in answering, I realized I wanted to hear what you thought it was. So, what do you think a "rebound relationship" is?

2007-08-29 11:01:31 · 9 answers · asked by Wildflower 6

i got merrid on the 10th of this month after the docters told me that jeremy only had a few days to live. He pasted away on the 15th 5 days after we got merrid HOW do i cope with this i am having a hard time with this i hve no heath inscuren to see a dr and i dont have the money plz help me its been 2 weeks to sence my husband past away how do i deal with this

2007-08-29 10:59:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

i said yes.
HELP.
IT FREAKS ME OUT.

2007-08-29 10:57:50 · 23 answers · asked by serrsly 3