A female friend was talking about going shopping out of state, and her coworker told her of some great places to find some deals. She impulsively said she would love to go, and made plans to go this up coming weekend. She is a married woman, and the guy is single. Her husband seems to be very accomodating when it comes to her friendships with other males. But I think he really doesn't like it. Should the married woman really be planning trips with guys she barely knows ? I don't know much about the guy, but I am concerned that her behaviour is not normal. When I talk to her sometimes she tells me that she is bored with her life.
2007-08-29 11:42:47 · 13 answers · asked by Ultra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think that it is ok....I truly believe that when you are married you need to set firm boundaries in place between male/female friendships that might interfere in your marriage.
Even though I agree with you, it technically isn't really your business. If her husband hasn't put his foot down about it, it is really his problem and he's going to have to deal with the consequences on his own.
2007-08-29 11:54:30 · answer #1 · answered by meglet628 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not like it and I do not think that it is appropriate for the married man to take a personal lunch with one coworker. This is exactly how on the job affairs can get started. A married man goes to work to support his family and not there to connect to another female over lunch. They could start out with the main meal and end up having their desert in a hotel room. I am sorry but you do not mix bussiness with pleasure sweetie because it's only possible that someone may be asking for trouble and that is a NO!
2016-04-02 06:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are truly friends and just want to take off shopping and her husband is ok with it, and she is telling him where she is and who she is going with ...why not! I have many male friends. My husband knows them very well also. I do not make it a habit of making plans with them without my husband being there. A couple of times, in a matter of 20 years, near the holidays, I went shopping with a couple of my friends without my husband to help them out shopping for gifts. If the intentions are really just two friends wanting to go shopping , then what's the big deal?
If people talk, so what. They will anyway!
2007-08-29 11:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For my own personal standards, I think it is very inappropriate. My life is with my husband. I wouldn't want to put myself in a situation that would even possibly compromise that. Even if it was okay, I think it looks bad to others, and that is enough to make me stop and say no. It might be okay if the husband came as well, but other than that... in my own opinion... I think it's OUT OF THE QUESTION. A big no no. (Even if the co-worker was married.)
2007-08-29 11:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No she should not. When you are married you should not be doing things with other males. If you have male friends it would be in a group setting with your spouse there.
2007-08-29 13:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's none of your business what is happening in this woman's marriage.
You can assume all you want that he doesn't like it, but you don't live with him.
Keep your nose in your own business and stop poking around where you don't belong.
2007-08-29 12:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by Crazymom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going out of state with a male co-worker for shopping? erm...right. Whatever.
hint: they won't really be shopping
2007-08-29 11:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's like i heard a pastor say once , Don't put yourself where temptation is Run the other way
2007-08-29 11:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by pearlsoutherngirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should mind your own business.
Is her life and at least she is doing something to change it and how about you?
Just minding other peoples business?
Go get a life!
2007-08-29 12:01:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she should invite another female friend or two along so it wouldn't look bad.
2007-08-29 11:48:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋