well I have been making him lunch for the past 2 weeks, bcuz hes been telling me that he wants to start taking lunch anyway.. I found out he gave half of his lunch to a co-worker I speak to her on a daily basis u can say were friends not to close but getting there anyway I cant help it but it kinda makes me upset bcuz I make it for him and if he gives half away obviously he still hungry and will eventually buy.. which is the reason why weve started to brown bag it were on a budget.. am I exagerating??? serious answers please.
2007-08-29 11:07:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she was the one that told me... and Im bothered.. I didnt show it w/ her but if I speak 2 him should I wait until he gets home or should I text him?
2007-08-29 11:23:39 · update #1
Ohh come on... he just did that once, maybe she forgot her lunch or it went bad, or... he was just being nice to her. Do you trust your husband? Then don't make a big deal of this. It's just stupid.
Would you eat a whole lunch in front of somebody that works with you and didn't have anything? Or would you share?
I would share!
Don't punish him for being nice. That's just mean.
Forget about it and keep packing him lunch. If he keeps doing this over and over, then talk to him and explain why it bothers you. That's it!
Be happy... enjoy your marriage.... don't ruin it doing stupid things like getting mad for something that's just not worth it.
Hope this helps.
2007-08-29 11:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a daily thing or did he share just this once? Talk to him! If he shared just today there may be reasons - maybe she forgot her lunch and he felt sorry for her or something like that. If this is happening every day, I'd want to know why - especially with another woman! Give him a chance to explain. If he sounds truthful and has a good reason for sharing today, let it go. Otherwise, bring up the issues of the budget and how this appears to be flirting or more. But keep tabs on it for a while and see what he continues to do.
2007-08-29 18:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by Rahrah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are brown bagging to save money then you are right to be upset. If you are becoming friends with her you could always ask her why she has started sharing the lunch you make for YOUR husband with him. Tell her you are doing it in the first place to save money and if he has to share it with her he will be hungry and will end up buying something else to eat which is what you are trying to avoid. If you feel you can, ask why she is not providing her own lunch. Just as a precaution if I was you I would make sure there is nothing developing between them. These things have a way of developing out of nowhere.
2007-08-29 18:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by scottygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. He could have just been full, or felt bad for the woman because she didn't have any lunch. Find out what his explanation is and remind him that you make him lunch to save money and he shouldn't be giving it away...
2007-08-29 18:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by Gingy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset to, not at the fact that he would still be hungry but at the fact that he is sharing his lunch with a WOMAN. Ask him why he is doing this.
2007-08-29 18:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not exagerating. That would highly annoy me. You are in all your right to be upset. To tell you the truth though, I wouldn't know whether it is best to tell him or not. I have a really short temper and I know I would explode. Maybe you have a better way of approaching this.
Good Luck.
2007-08-29 18:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
honesty is the best policy - ask him what is up - tell him that if he cannot eat all that, well then you will just give him a half sandwich. has this 'friend' mentioned why she is taking the food? I would be ticked off too - but I would find out what the deal is
2007-08-29 18:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by s'mores 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The quesiton here is, is he sharing cause he likes her or because he has enough to share.
I'm thinking you make him half the lunch you usually do. If he shares that, it has nothing to do with the amount of food available.
2007-08-29 18:14:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, maybe his coworker doesn't have the money to purchase lunch and doesn't have the means to buy their own food or doesn't have time to prepare their own lunch so your husband being a nice coworker decides to share his food.
2007-08-29 18:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by Calico L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If money is an issue, he needs to eat what lunch you pack for him. If he gives it away, he needs to go hungry.
2007-08-29 18:12:08 · answer #10 · answered by Rocketmaniac 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋