Marriage & Divorce - 29 August 2007

I recently took my ex back to court to collect past due child support. We came to an agreement in a conference room at the court house, outside the presence of a judge. My attorney wrote the details of the agreement on a court minute. There were nine items addressed. My ex and I along with our three attorneys signed the agreement. It was presented to a judge who signed it and had it filed with the court clerk.

My ex is adhering to seven of the nine items, but now says he changed his mind about how future child support will be calculated as listed on the court minute.

We do not have a typed Agreement, as my ex refused to sign it, stating that he had changed his mind. The handwritten one is the only thing that has been filed.

Is the handwritten Agreement enforceable in court? It has been >30 days and nothing else has been filed in our case. If it is enforceable, do I have to hire an attorney to file a "Motion to Enforce Settlement Agreement" or what options do I have?

2007-08-29 03:30:34 · 7 answers · asked by Why 2

thinks of you? I can't help thinking about him all the time. I wonder if I'm being obsessive. I think how handsome he is, our conversations, how he looks at me, our lovemaking. It's such a good feeling. I want to ask him what he thinks, but I know guys are not into this kind of thing. So guys, what is it about your girl that you think (other than s ex) when you are not w/her?

2007-08-29 03:29:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

How often do you 'pleasure yourself'?

Why do you feel the need to do this when you have a gf/wife who gives you sex?

2007-08-29 03:28:56 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

He put the ball in my court when she wanted to play "junior girls football" after school - I thought it was a great idea, healthy exercise instead of TV. With her agreement I volunteered to help out, and I ususally bring her home up to the eyes in mud and grass. He now criticises me for turning her into a tomboy.

When she asked him if she could have her ears pierced, he said in front of me "Thats a girl thing. Ask your Mum-she might be ok with it or she might make you wait til you're older". I took this as him saying he didn't object, and after making sure she knew what she gettng herself into I agreed. He asked me later why the hell I had given her permission when she is too young to be 'dressing up'.

I don't even know if the issues he brings up are issues with him it all sometimes, or if he is just trying to make himself look 'big' by making me look 'small'. He refuses to have a level chat about this and i'm real p155ed about it- bigtime. How the hell do we get this sorted out?

2007-08-29 03:26:51 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I live in the U.K and my husband died. How do I go about legally being known by my maiden name. Who do I need to inform?

2007-08-29 03:24:26 · 8 answers · asked by Weedy 1

My husband and I are starting marriage counseling today, this afternoon. Right now I am so frustrated with him (as I am everyday) but literally almost feel as though I hate him at this point in time. I really want the counseling to work because it is our last resort before divorce. I REALLY do not want to go into the session and seem like I'm "attacking" him and listing all of the things I dislike about him because I believe that will cause more problems once we leave. Any suggestions on how I can approach the counseling session so that I do not appear to be attacking him?

2007-08-29 03:20:53 · 11 answers · asked by allie s 1

I didn't have a very good attorney ($13,000 should have been enough for fair results though.) I want to modify child support since I'm not (nor ever have) made $15.00 an hour. But, I also want to receive all the items listed in the Agreement that he "Doesn't know where they are now" and refuses to give to me. He has also broken some of the court orders such as; drinking when children are in his custody, children are not attending counseling as required, and will not remove my name from the phone bill or a dump trailer that is in my name. Any suggestions?

2007-08-29 03:20:25 · 3 answers · asked by RENETTE 1

If you haven't read that question I would go back and read it.... The short story if that I caught my mother inlaw haveing breakfast with my hubbys ex. This is a person that he dated WAY before me, but this person broke into her house and did all kinds of bad things to that family. The main reason I can't beleive that she was having breakfast with the EX is because besides this girl breaking into her house....she has also threathed to kidnap my daughter (stateing to the police that this child was ment to be hers). She even went as far as to get a job at the day care that we placed my daughter in, until we place a protection order on her and they fired her. She has sent text messages and harrassed me to no end, she seems to think that I am the reasonthat he wouldn't go back to her. The fact is that she is nuts and that is the reason. I have police reports so WHY oh who would my mother in law go behind my back to even talk to this person who wants to hurt her grand baby

2007-08-29 03:18:43 · 12 answers · asked by Brandi 5

I'm planning my "escape"...looking for a job, stashing away a few bucks here and there, getting "my ducks in a row" before I tell him we are over. In the mean time, I am pretending that I am happy and love him. I think I am doing a good job at it, but I wonder if he can tell by my body language or if I give off signals and am not even aware I am doing it. I dont like doing this or going through these charades, and dont feel bad for him, he had an affair and I am not able to get over it, so I am letting him go and I just have to prepare for it. Do you think he can tell, do you think he knows what my plans are, or is it possible that as long as I am a damn good actress, he'll be clueless?

2007-08-29 03:14:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-29 03:12:05 · 8 answers · asked by Ryan D 2

Especially when both are working. I work all day, come home, cook, do the dishes, I do the laundry, clean the bathroom, vaccume, etc... There are times when he tries to help out, but for example, if he helps with laundry, it gets washed and put in the dryer, but in the dryer it stays to get wrinkled until I discover it there. I enjoy cooking so I really don't mind that. My fiance's main chore is taking out the trash once a week (to which he forgot this morning) He works nights so he is home all day, and I realize he has to sleep too, but he doesn't sleep from the time he gets home until he goes to work again... are all men lazy? And how can I encourage him to help out more and have a little pride in our house without sounding like I am picking on him????

2007-08-29 03:06:12 · 31 answers · asked by ~Lizzy~ 3

So i met man A first and then his wife B and introduced them both to my friends. Man A fell inlove with friend C and now A&B are getting divorced. A&C want me to keep anything i know (ie them getting apt together) from Wife B-but i hang out with chat with B on a regular basis-I dont like to lie but when wife B asks me questions that i do know the answer to-i lie and say i dont know. granted i've only known Wife B a year or so, we have become close-I just dont want to be involved and Man A, Wife B, and friend C both tell me things they dont want the other party to know-so im stuck in the middle, wich is crappy for them to do....am i not being a good frined to Wife B by lying to her about direct questions?!

2007-08-29 03:06:10 · 11 answers · asked by DeeRaye 3

I found pictures and correpondence related to the affair. She went on several trips alone with him and I have no doubts about his intentions. Among other things he always took his wedding ring off. My wife claims that they were just good friends and she just enjoyed going to the places and events he was able to take her to. He is a very successful business man and actually attended our wedding with his( fourth )wife. I know that they have had continued long distance correspndence over the years. I don't suspect my wife of cheating on me with him since we have been together but the thougt of all of this bothers me. The affair occured almost a decade ago and my wife denies any wrong doing and that she just got caugt up in the lifesyle. I love my wife very much, but I can' help but have doubts.

2007-08-29 03:04:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

given that they're 14 years apart. do u think thats gross or age shouldnt matter as the two love each other?

also michael douglas and catherine zeta jones as another example.

2007-08-29 03:04:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

we would like to get married here in us...... she tells me that it is a long wait for tourist visa... but that she can get a work visa with little trouble... any thoughts on how to proceed with this? thanking you in advance....... al

2007-08-29 03:00:05 · 4 answers · asked by rustyrx72003 2

2007-08-29 02:59:33 · 14 answers · asked by Ryan D 2

it all started with i got with her why she was pregnant with a nother mans child and i married her and took that child in as one of my own, i got deployed to iraq and durin that time frame we argued all the time and we ended up seperating i got back oct of 06 and she did not want to come back to my base or be with me at all and she wanted a divorce well in the time we were apart i slept with 2 women and i regret it to this day and we got back together in mar 07 5 months later i stoped messin with the women 2 monts prior to that well she found out what i did and never forgiven me for it it is now aug i got deployed again and i am overseas and a week with me bein over here she slept with a nother man for revenge i guess but now im stuck we now have 2 kids together my mind tells me to leave her but my heart tells me 2 try and work it out what should i do

2007-08-29 02:54:22 · 28 answers · asked by Alexander H 2

I am 31 years old and have been sexually active for 6 years. I have never had an orgasm and I am beginning to go out of my mind with stress. I have been married three years and my husband has no clue that I fake orgasms. I am jealous of my friends who talk about what having an orgasm feels like. Please someone..somebody help me. Can I take some drug? I have tried relaxing and just enjoying the moment, I have even mentally prepared myself..nothing works! I cant tell my husband I dont enjoy sex at all. He comes in all of 5 minutes and I just roll over depressed!!!!!

2007-08-29 02:44:04 · 27 answers · asked by Samara 1

if you are married but seperated is it classed as cheating if you are with someone else before you get a devorce

2007-08-29 02:35:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

what do i do we were seoerated when i got home from iraq for 4 months and we got back together she found out i slept with 2 women but we were seperated now four months later i went to korea and a week into it she tells me she slept with a nother man but jus to get back at me shu i forgiv and forget

2007-08-29 02:25:12 · 22 answers · asked by Alexander H 2

After all the reading I have done on this board I feel more insecure about my marriage that I ever have. Is it just me or do some others feel that way? Especially after reading about all the affairs that are going on.

2007-08-29 02:20:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Whenever I tell her that we should stop using AC, unplug the comp during the day, or do anything, she just says, 'well, hon, believe it or not we are doing much more than the average american to save the environment. We recycle, we live in a small house...' Then she peters off. She just won't listen.

2007-08-29 02:02:56 · 9 answers · asked by Dinosaur 3

How long did it take? Mine is uncontested with two kids(I didn't even seek child support cuz I know the sorry bastard won't pay and has no job) and no property I filed in May and it is now August and this freakin attorney won't set a court date. The spouse has not responded to anything therefore he has forfeited by default. All she has to do is set a date so that I can sign the papers and she has not. I am very polite and professional with her. How can I proceed to make her set a phucking date arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggggggghhh! I'm frustrated and can't sleep at night because I have done everything asked as far as obtaining the needed info. So it's up to her and she is not doing her gottdamn job.

2007-08-29 02:01:10 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I really need more guy time. How can I get my wife to let me go out with friends, to a bar or whatever? We always go together. But, I'd like to leave her home with the kids and go out drinking once in awhile. She freaks every time I bring it up. Oh-I married into kids, so I figure, that once a month or something I should be able to. I mean-guys do that to their wives when they are their own kids, right? Geez. Only once in awhile, not every other day. But how? Also-Lately I've been telling her I'm running errands or whatever just to get in a game of pool once a week...it's really sad.

2007-08-29 02:01:07 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-29 01:50:30 · 7 answers · asked by Ashley 2

2007-08-29 01:49:43 · 6 answers · asked by Marianna 1

I am geting married at 6:00 pm and to save time after the wedding , we would like to take our picture before the weddding to save time after that way we can go right into the reception.

2007-08-29 01:43:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for about 10 years, and my husband was my first. But over the years, the desire to love him has diminished. I am not attracted to him, I find him, at times, repugnant. I love him, he is a wonderful father and a wonderful person. I told him how I felt, and he insist that we work on our marriage, I cheated and he forgave me. I do not want to be with him and i do not want to continue abusing him. How can I make him understand that he deserves better?

2007-08-29 01:16:07 · 28 answers · asked by loveanonymity 2

Your husband's socks around the house, urine on the toilet, empty pop bottles left on the table?? Is it possible to be married and not live together because I have be thinking about it??? Tired of having to ask him to clean behind himself

2007-08-29 00:22:22 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-29 00:09:15 · 23 answers · asked by Crazy in Love 1