i cheated on my wife when we were seperated and we got back together and she cheated on me after four months w

Question

what do i do we were seoerated when i got home from iraq for 4 months and we got back together she found out i slept with 2 women but we were seperated now four months later i went to korea and a week into it she tells me she slept with a nother man but jus to get back at me shu i forgiv and forget

Answer 1

You did it when you were seperated,she did it while u2 were together... I would leave just seems unhealthy to me.

Answer 2

The fact that she cheated on you can be to get back at you because you not only broke her heart but you did not have the decency to tell her that you cheated on her as if it was no big deal. Women's reasoning works alot different than men's. Remember, being seperated still does not give you the right to cheat on your wife. Seperated means "thinking things over" not"cheating on eachother to get a kick out of it" You are not divorced. If you were divorced, no problem, do what you want but you still have a bond with your wife. But think of it this way... would she have cheated on you if she thought you were faithful to her while you were away in Iraq? I don't think so!!!... the fact that she only cheated after she found out that you did means that she still loves you and that she was in shock and very very angry and humiliated and that is why she cheated on you. My advice to you: You cheated first but you are mad that she cheated on you. So you are actually saying that what you did is nothing but what she did is major and you dont know if you shoud forgive and forget. What's good for the goose is good for the gander SO it is going to take a while to get over it but she must also recover from your blooper so START FRESH and get to know eachother again and YES forgive and forget.... and work on a better relationship . Remember, relationships takes effort from both sides. It is not a joyride in the moonlight. Its HARD WORK!!!

Answer 3

hey man, you must be in the merchant marines like I am, if so, you are lucky to still have a wife at all. I suggest you have a talk with her, and clarify matters. If im gone shipping, well, people get lonely, if im home and she's doing the guy in the next cubicle while Im washing dishes waiting for her to get out of work, that is a totally different thing. Since you were the first to transgress, i guess fairs fair, but perhaps you should both get tested for std's when you get back.

Answer 4

Sounds like you guys are going to be playing the "you did it, now I do it" Its very immature if you ask me, but it's never going to stop. She should have been the bigger person and not strayed and slept with another man. It really shows character when you forgive a cheating spouse and then go on with your lives. But she did not do this. You made a mistake and she acted like a 12 yr old. Not a good situation.

Answer 5

Seems like you both did wrong. I'm sure you sleeping with anyone women while you were still married to her was very hurtful to her. She forgave you but just wanted you to know how it felt. I bet you didn't like it, did you? She forgave you so you should forgive her. Talk to her and let her know what you want each to forgive the other and move forward in your relationship with promises never do that again. Next time, be faithful to her wife when you are away.

Answer 6

No way man.. I mean forgiving and forgetting doesn't really come into the picture here, you are in a relationship that doesn not have a foundation of trust. I would move on, find something better. If you were committed to her it probably would never have happened in the first place, and vice versa.

Answer 7

I cannot understand how two people who love each other could behave as you do.Instead of getting back at each other why don't you take the time to sit down and talk these things out.There is no question in my mind that one of you will cheat again.But if this relationship makes you happy than good luck.

Answer 8

You both need a good spanking,,, why are you two together?
Is it that easy to forgive and forget or maybe you or her needs to HAVE A SLEEP OFF see who gets the last f#ck in before the next one does

Answer 9

Separated or not, when you had sex with another women, it violated the bond you two shared. This is why she went out and had sex with another man (at least she said she did).

You have to forgive her and then you should come to some sort of agreement that neither of you should be fooling around with other people.

If you can't pull yourself to forgive and forget, then separate permanently.

Answer 10

Kick her azz to the curb! I wouldn't consider it cheating if you were split up! If she done it while you were actually together she will do it again in the future. Then again if you feel what you did was cheating then you need to look at as if- 2 wrongs don't make it right but it does make it even!

Answer 11

two wrongs don't make a right.... if people would remember that then life would be so much simpler.

if you love your wife and she loves you, and both of you want to commit to your marriage... you both need to see a marriage counselor. both of you need to stop this selfishness and immaturity and be serious.

cheating is cheating even if you are separated because of your lifestyle. you both knew that you would be out of town every so often because of your job... and still decided to take vows and get married. there is no excuse for cheating.

if you don't want to make it work and be committed, then part ways with out the hurt and betrayal of cheating.