So i met man A first and then his wife B and introduced them both to my friends. Man A fell inlove with friend C and now A&B are getting divorced. A&C want me to keep anything i know (ie them getting apt together) from Wife B-but i hang out with chat with B on a regular basis-I dont like to lie but when wife B asks me questions that i do know the answer to-i lie and say i dont know. granted i've only known Wife B a year or so, we have become close-I just dont want to be involved and Man A, Wife B, and friend C both tell me things they dont want the other party to know-so im stuck in the middle, wich is crappy for them to do....am i not being a good frined to Wife B by lying to her about direct questions?!
2007-08-29 03:06:10 · 11 answers · asked by DeeRaye 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah, don't get sucked into the trap of lying for any reason. It'll never be appreciated once it's discovered, and it'll backfire on you every damned time, count on it. What you should tell friend B is that "I'm not comfortable speaking on any of these matters, please don't ask me", and leave it at that. Likewise warn those other two emotional cripples that you don't want to be privy to anything going on with them other than the fact that they're alive and well. And stick to that arrangement, that way you won't in anyway betray any of your friends, nor will you inadvertently let them drag you into anything you don't want to be a part of. This is a messy situation and you will get some on you if you're not careful, so try to heed my advice. It is truly the best way open to you right now.
2007-08-29 03:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Try Stupid and Happy That way you are not lying to anyone
2. Tell Man A and Friend C TOO MUCH INFO! you don't want and can't handle all the details
3. Wife B and you are friends. Be supportive and don't say anything!
2007-08-29 10:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by hard2fool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not being a good friend at all. You are partially to blame for A&B's divorce because
1. you're enabling A to cheat on his wife B and not telling B the truth when confronted with "questions".
2. you're covering up for the cheating C (slut and homewrecker)
3. you're lying to all 3 of them and still you claim to be their friend.
Doesn't matter who you were friends with first. You're being two-faced now to all of them. You claim to not want to get involved but you are no matter how you try to lie yourself out of it. You put yourself in the middle when you introduced them. Good luck with trying to fix the mess now....
2007-08-29 10:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yes you are in a very tough situation but in this situation the truth is the only way out.You didn't put yourself in the situation but you will have to be honest and get your self out of this mess.Tell who ever that you will not be in the middle and you will be friends with whomever you please.Tell all involved that what's happening is their mess and to leave you out of it.Don't lie for anyone and when asked a question tell whoever asks you to go to the person and ask for them selves.
2007-08-29 10:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being a good friend by not getting in the middle of what would just hurt her. Lying however isn't being a good friend. All you can do is tell her you don't want to get into the middle of it and she should talk to A or C.
2007-08-29 10:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just stop talking to all 3 of them...
but if you don't want too, then tell A&C that they need to stop getting you involved. you don't want to know any more info about their life together... and tell B that you don't want to be involved and you don't really know anything.
the truth is that you will probably end up loosing someone's friendship... Does A&C know that you still talk to B? Does B know that you know about A&C? Does B know that A&C are together?
unfortunately, you are in the middle and are the one that's going to end up loosing... Good luck!!!
2007-08-29 10:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you've got too much time on your hands!
Second, Stay Out Of Grown Folks Business!!!!!
2007-08-29 10:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by M. Rod 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think Margaret Atwood wrote just the story for you.
http://users.ipfw.edu/ruflethe/endings.htm
2007-08-29 10:11:33 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am going to A-B-See my way out of this question because keeping all these letters strait is too damn confusing this early in the morning..........
2007-08-29 10:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in reality we can tolerate more dimentions - u just stopped with three - a,b,c. so try to give more details like upto x or y or z then we can give you a better answer.
2007-08-29 10:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋