Marriage & Divorce - 29 August 2007

I've been married for 7 years and my husband is increasingly getting worse. He is 12 years older than me and I never thought that would be an issue, but now, it seems that all he does is either explode in front of our three year old, call me a f'n ***** and other choice names, even in front of our son, threatens to leave or kick me out every other day and is simply evil and full of hate. When he is not doing that, he is sitting in front of the tv and doesn't even play with our son. He has a job and now I've been unemployed because I was laid off and prior to that, I had good jobs. Since I lost my job, it seems that he thrives on being horrible to me and makes me feel like I'm at a dead end. He tells me that I'm worthless and that I'm a horrible mother, which I am not. I am very loving and care about more son more than anything. I just can't take the verbal and emotional abuse anymore. We've been in and out of marriage counseling throughout all our marriage. Should I get out??

2007-08-29 15:42:56 · 33 answers · asked by SoCal007 1

My husband deleted our internet history one night ( I work nights) and the next day I wondered why he did. I asked him if he was looking at porn bc/ my step-dad used to delete his history d/t his porn addiction. So, he said he didn't delete it and that he wasn't looking at porn. Well, that was over a year ago. A couple of weeks ago I asked him if he ever looks at porn and he said yes. So then, I was intrigued bc/ to be honest with you, I thought that he didn't. So I further asked him when the last time he looked at porn was to which he replied (after thinking about it a while) a week and a half ago...I was like, """waaahhh??""" Am I naive or something to think that if he did ever look at porn it would be like once or twice a year. So then I asked him how often he looks at it and he said a couple times a month...oh geez...how have I been with him over 3 years and not even suspected an ounce of that??? Anyways, I'm not even mad. I asked him if he lied about deleting the history

2007-08-29 15:38:53 · 12 answers · asked by christie 5

What exactly is it. I don't mean to sound niave but I really do no know.

Does it mean you you web cams?
or is that you just chat online?

Is this considered cheating?
What is your point of view?
How do you feel about this?

2007-08-29 15:32:05 · 9 answers · asked by Kathy J 3

the "big question". On one knee and the whole bit. It'll be on her 22nd birthday (provided I'm still with her then and she hasn't killed me yet), which is in 2008... But already I feel nervous. Is this natural, even though the question won't come until next year?

Also, is it natural to be thinking to myself, "Dude, she's going to say no... You don't deserve her, man!" and things like that?

And also, anyone have any tips that will make the night special?

2007-08-29 15:30:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am a 22 year old muslim guy living in usa and this girl she is 22 as well lives in bangladesh.. we really love each other. and want each other, but unfortunely she got nikah (married) without her will, it was arranged and she couldnt do anything. she and the person who got nikah with, not living together yet. but now after 2 weeks she will have to leave from her house officially and live with that guy. at this point we dont know what to do, want to elope but cant elope , its connected with family respects and more to it. people will get hurt, but we cant live without each other. i love her so much. she is going crazy and i am dying for her. at this point tell me what should we do. oh god guys plzzz help us out. plzzz pllzzz, we r dying guysl

2007-08-29 15:29:51 · 7 answers · asked by ray 1

2007-08-29 15:29:29 · 18 answers · asked by horse 1

first nite of honeymoon in a really nice suite directly after wedding. both are virgins. after first nite flying directly to Tuscany, Italy for duration of honeymoon. anyway, what is right to do - first nite? embarrassed to ask: do I just start touching him soon as door close or wait until he say it's okay? what does male want? or can I freshen up immediately upon entering hotel room (take a shower) after dancing, sweating, and nerves, etc might feel better if i'm showered before the "deed." VERY nervous -- what is best to do first? thanks.

2007-08-29 15:28:52 · 8 answers · asked by camillabrightside 4

After a series of "significant others" got through with me, I hardly know who I am. Ladies, is this a compulsion common to the gender?

2007-08-29 15:19:39 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

just sad tonight me and my boyfriend are fighting he said he wanted to hit me.he never has and i know he would not it just hurt me i guess......

2007-08-29 15:19:05 · 11 answers · asked by dragonfly 4

Any suggestions? Where go to? What to do?

2007-08-29 15:18:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-29 15:15:25 · 27 answers · asked by QuantumB 3

My husband bought me a mood ring! When I'm happy, it turns GREEN... when I'm p***** off, it leaves a big red mark on his forehead! i deserve a diamond! how can i persuade him>????

2007-08-29 15:14:26 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was online and my dad did not sign out of his email account..I know it was wrong but I looked at his email and found emails he has written to a woman!! He wrote things like he and my mom have not had sex in ten years and he will not divorce her because there is to much money involved and my brother has a learning disability (he is 32 yrs old) it would break his heart....he wrote things in his emails about his love for this woman how much he loves her ect.. I felt sick to my stomach after reading them and wish i haven't..I know my parents have had problems they sleep in separate bedrooms..my mom is always nagging him about money..I always though they slept in separate bedrooms because of his sleep apnea machine (my mom complains about the noise) but according to his email its that way because they just don't sleep togther anymore--I don't know how I am gonna look at my father after reading all this..

2007-08-29 15:11:16 · 32 answers · asked by beaq 1

No Fault divorces are easy as pie to get and the blame falls on neither person. Are irreconcilable differences, which are neither ones fault another piece of the puzzle. Is it the easy way we can attain divorces or is it the decline put on the seriousness of marriage and staying married? Where did soul mates and true love go?

2007-08-29 15:08:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm married and I love my husband. One of his (and many men) dreams or fantasy is to have a threesome with two women.

I am not bi, lesbian or anything to that sort.

We have talked about it and he said that if I let another woman into our bed, he would let me have a threesome with another man. He said i could choose the girl, he wouldn't do anything to her but touch her boobs (I know that isn't a threesome), He would rather watch me and the girl get it on. I'm not too sure about this. I am not comfortable with this situation. He said he wouldn't do anything with her, but I know in the heat of it he might. Do I trust him and say okay lets do it or stick with the constant no answer that i have given him. It makes me nervous.

2007-08-29 15:06:46 · 14 answers · asked by Meg 3

Long story short: I quit a higher paying job to go into daycare to save money and be with our disabled son who was having a hard time in daycares. I am enjoying spending time with him and am going back to school next year for business when he starts school. Hubby is in sales and makes good money now. He has treated me like sh** since he started the job. He calls me names like stupid and bit** all the time. He is never home and insults me when he is. It is like he is arrogant all of a sudden and I hate it. We discussed this plan and he thought it was a great idea for a year. Now I feel so helpless depending on him when he calls me names. Now he wants to sell my car I worked so hard for out from under me and stick me with a 25 yr old clunker!!!!!!!!!!!! I transport our child around in the car!? What do I do here? I almost wanna get a job like I had back and say f you!

2007-08-29 15:04:47 · 21 answers · asked by Samantha 3

My wife and i have been married for 3 years. We have 2 children. I love all three of them with all my heart. The problem is that I was in the military when we got married and when I got out I became a truck driver. Because I know that she hated me being gone so much I got out of that career and found a job closer to home where I can be home every night. I think i found it too late though. She has said that she has turned off her emotions for me and prepared herself for leaving. She has also said that she does not want to be here. I asked for her to give it a few weeks to see if things will work out and she agreed. What can I do to make her love me again? Thanks for the help!

2007-08-29 14:57:52 · 20 answers · asked by racing_82 1

We moved in together about a year ago. When we first moved in she had a few photos of her and one of her ex's displayed. I told her that it bothered me and she disagreed. Eventually she did take them down...

She now has them stored in albums in her closet and it still bothers me.

What is the right thing to do here? Am I being ridiculous? Should she get rid of them?

2007-08-29 14:54:27 · 62 answers · asked by Anonymous

now with him not working he can not pay until he finds a job and right now its really hard for him to find work as an electrition, What can happen to him if he does not pay? He plans on paying as soon as he finds work, but we have been getting court letters for child support because it's been a little over 2 months now any advice would be very helpfull.

2007-08-29 14:52:22 · 12 answers · asked by tinkerbell7629 2

2007-08-29 14:52:10 · 24 answers · asked by Kare Bare! 2

My husband is in the army and he is stationed in south korea, i think he is cheating on me, by things he says and he acts different when i start to talk about certain things. How can I find out if he's cheating on me?

2007-08-29 14:25:37 · 20 answers · asked by rebel_sweetheart2005 2

well, i've been engaged for over a year now, and just a few weeks before the wedding (last week) I found out that my now ex-fiance has been cheating on me for several months. When I confronted him, he became angry, called the wedding off, and has left me to be with her.

I left the state to go home with my mom. I am 5 months pregnant and have been having a difficult pregnancy. The cheating began when I was constantly being hospitalized. And while I Was in the hospital a few weeks ago, he used that opportunity to use our honeymoon money to take this other woman to Mexico.

He has called and claims he wants to be involved in the pregnancy, childbirth classes, and birth of the baby. I don't know whether to believe him or not because he seems to have lied about everything. Should I keep him involved?I 'm about to start childbirth classes and don't know if he should be allowed to come. Moreover, I now live out of state and don't know if him commuting for the classes makes much sense.

2007-08-29 14:08:25 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

I looooove my man; BUT he is lazy. Need i say more? He does work; but he does video games even more. I have to go through extremes to get him to get up and do something constructive. Any advice??

2007-08-29 14:04:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-29 14:02:12 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been seeing a man for several months, however he lives out of state. We are both in the middle of obtaining our divorces and he has told me he wants to be married.
We have very strong emotional ties to each other ... and in contrast to what you may believe ... it is NOT all about the sex. We talk for hours ... about our hopes, dreams, trials, challenges. We accept each others opinions with open hearts.

So what do you think ... move in and test the waters or take the plunge and dive into marriage?

2007-08-29 13:57:51 · 15 answers · asked by girlielikesfun 2

My husband has been in the Army for 5yrs and I want to join. I was wondering how stressful it is on a marriage and if it is worth it. Please only those who are married with both husband and wife in military. (Different branches is fine for an answer.)

2007-08-29 13:51:20 · 11 answers · asked by Nikki 2

2007-08-29 13:51:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

why are all american women shallow,pretencious,thick ruthless gold digging slappers

2007-08-29 13:43:25 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to say, "To be my best friend" but that's too easy. Needless to say, TRUST is the most important, but again, that's vague. I'd like some specifics if you can. My wife and I are contemplating divorce. We can't even agree on counseling issues. Thanks all!!!

2007-08-29 13:23:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Whether it be books, magazines, dvd, vcr, vhs, pc, movies.*

2007-08-29 13:16:42 · 22 answers · asked by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7