I'm married and I love my husband. One of his (and many men) dreams or fantasy is to have a threesome with two women.
I am not bi, lesbian or anything to that sort.
We have talked about it and he said that if I let another woman into our bed, he would let me have a threesome with another man. He said i could choose the girl, he wouldn't do anything to her but touch her boobs (I know that isn't a threesome), He would rather watch me and the girl get it on. I'm not too sure about this. I am not comfortable with this situation. He said he wouldn't do anything with her, but I know in the heat of it he might. Do I trust him and say okay lets do it or stick with the constant no answer that i have given him. It makes me nervous.
2007-08-29 15:06:46 · 14 answers · asked by Meg 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think deep down in your heart you already know the answer, which is no. A person should never have to compromise their morals or beliefs in a good marriage. By inviting a third party in your bed you are inviting chaos, confusion and misery in your marriage and you are giving your husband a greenlight to commit adultery. What your husband is asking of you is offensive, selfish and he ought to be ashamed of himself. Personally, I think you deserve a man who is going to love you, cherish you and give you the respect you deserve. I personally know a couple of guys whose wives participated with them in threesomes and coincidentally, both of the marriages ended in divorce. To make a long story short, your husband is being a selfish, perverted, jackass, and he doesn't care about you or anyone else, only himself. The bible states that "He who finds a wife finds a good thing." Your husband has a good thing in you and doesn't appreciate. It may be time for you to move on with your wife and find someone who does. I will keep you prayers and pray you do the right thing. Peace and God bless.
2007-08-29 15:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once you walk down this path you have no return. Allowing anyone else into your marriage is a kiss of death. Fantasies are great but always should be left to just that. You are already uncomfortable with the particulars and this is exactly what should stop you right now. Do not let this happen and explain it all to your husband why you are not comfortable with this fantasy. This isn't just about what could happen with you and some other woman. Why does he want to see you do something you don't want to do? And why does he think that if that happens it should be all right that you get to do it with another man? I think your husband is a bit screwed up and the two of you need to spend some time talking about why he wants to put you both through some swinging situation that will wind up badly for both of you.
2007-08-29 15:20:40 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't, personally. It may be true that that's a fantasy for many men, but in my opinion it should stay in fantasyland. Many couples have learned that trying something like this only causes them problems. Letting someone else into your bed and your marriage is never a good idea, in my opinion. I would suggest the two of you explore some ways to spice up your own lovemaking.
2007-08-29 15:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by writer272002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT!!!! You should never do anything you are uncomfortable with. Also, I don't think you should have a threesome with someone you really love. Once you let that other person into you're private relationship it causes too many problems.
2007-08-29 15:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by mamaof3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want to live the swinger lifestyle dont do it. The odds are against you keeping your man to yourself. If you can take on the swinger lifestyle then lay down some simple rules and have fun! He is lieing when he says he will only do this or that...in the heat of it, he WILL do
2007-08-29 15:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by inkgddss 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is absurd why on earth would you even consider that I tell you my husband would have a frying pan upside his head. Girl I tell you what all this foolishness spells trouble as in adultry why don't you suggest this..... that he read Every man's battle instead.
2007-08-29 15:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would your husband want to do another women and i don't know but if your trying to spice up your sex life do it hopefully your still young.
2007-08-29 15:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by Mac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not comfortable with it dont do it,simple as that.besides,if you arent bi or lesbian,why on earth would you want to do another woman?
2007-08-29 15:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your not into it and you should try to see where he is coming from in this constant asking.
2007-08-29 15:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by skip_holden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do this just for him, you will hold it against him for the rest of your relationship.
Tell him he is enough for you, and you are not interested in sharing, or being shared.
2007-08-29 15:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by kelannde 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋