I want to say, "To be my best friend" but that's too easy. Needless to say, TRUST is the most important, but again, that's vague. I'd like some specifics if you can. My wife and I are contemplating divorce. We can't even agree on counseling issues. Thanks all!!!
2007-08-29 13:23:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've only been married 2 months but something I've learned is to listen. Be open and straight forward. But most importantly... admit when you're wrong. Even if you don't feel that you're wrong then you have to agree to disagree. Be willing to sacrafise on some things just to keep an argument from happening.
Try and trade shoes. Stand where she's standing. However you treat her, however you talk to her, whatever you do to her... imagine it happening to you. How do you want to be treated. How do you want to be talked to. Have her do the same thing. Communicate. "For better or for worse". If absolutely necessary, take some time apart. Maybe stay in a hotel for a few nights just to give you each time to think. Start dating again. Start over. Re-get to know her. What did you fall in love with when you first met her? Is it still there? Find something else to fall in love with. Don't rush it, take time. You don't want to add the pressure of having to figure it out now. You have time. Just hold her and love her.
2007-08-29 13:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I realized I wanted to marry my husband was when everything in my life revolved around him. If something funny happened at work, I needed to tell him. If I had a bad day, I knew he would make it better. He was constantly in my thoughts. I would think of ways to please him, a meal he would love to eat etc..After many years together I still feel the same way only it is deeper and stronger. I know him inside and out. There will always be things about him that annoy me, (ok, things I hate) but I cannot see my life without him. It is give and take. Some days your wife needs to be there for you in ways you like (watching sports) and some days you just need to go shopping with her. Take divorce out of your mind as an option and you will find many more options open up for you.
2007-08-29 13:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by howdesdoit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect, trust, love, friendship all the good stuff in life pretty much is what you should expect from your spouse. its hard..hopefully you are not just jumping at the divorce cuz its easier than working on your problems. try thinking back to when you two were happy, dating, before you got married...
2007-08-29 13:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by Andrea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want us to tell you what you should expect from your wife? Are you kidding me? You really have to start making an effort or you will be divorced.
2007-08-29 13:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATION. learn how to communicate. Communication will help everything. Learn to LISTEN. learn each others love languages (pick up the book called The 5 Love Languages). But biggest thing is communication.... If you can't properly and effectively communicate with each other- you have nothing.
2007-08-29 13:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by Amy Clark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you have respect, the rest should be automatic. it's hard to come up with just a few issues to talk about but the longer you talk, the more that comes out. start with respect and take it from there. good luck.
2007-08-29 14:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should expect the same things that YOU are willing to give in your marriage.
2007-08-29 16:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reliable, stable, & loyal.
2007-08-29 13:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by Ski Freedom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋