i am a 22 year old muslim guy living in usa and this girl she is 22 as well lives in bangladesh.. we really love each other. and want each other, but unfortunely she got nikah (married) without her will, it was arranged and she couldnt do anything. she and the person who got nikah with, not living together yet. but now after 2 weeks she will have to leave from her house officially and live with that guy. at this point we dont know what to do, want to elope but cant elope , its connected with family respects and more to it. people will get hurt, but we cant live without each other. i love her so much. she is going crazy and i am dying for her. at this point tell me what should we do. oh god guys plzzz help us out. plzzz pllzzz, we r dying guysl
2007-08-29 15:29:51 · 7 answers · asked by ray 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I'm not well versed in muslim tradition....
Seems to me, since you are her man, that it is up to you to have conversation with the accidential husband.
Perhaps he was pushed into an arranged marriage, also, and has someone he is attached to.
You guys need to stop panicking and get strategic. You need to convice the man he should divorce her.
Make sure you can marry her after, though. You can't just get her divorced. You get the divorce so she can marry the right husband.
The ball is in your court, son. Time to introduce yourself.
2007-08-29 15:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too late. You'll never go against her family. They will disown her. You are NOT going to die. Life continues and the sun still comes up tomorrow. Look for someone here in the USA.
2007-08-29 22:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me if you truly love this girl than you will beable to let go and let her go on with own life because this is her custom and you dont want her to chooose between you and her family. My heart goes out to you but their is a lot at risk here.
best of luck
2007-08-29 22:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
culture is culture and she will do what she is suppose to do just tell her you will always love her in your heart and you both have to let each other go.As the story goes It's best to have loved than to never have loved at all.So sorry for you both love can be so cruel at times.
2007-08-29 22:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by mamaw2305 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately she is married to someone else. YOU CAN'T HAVE HER AND SHE CAN'T HAVE YOU. What a messed up culture!!
2007-08-29 22:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
muslim and using god's name in vain?
why not say oh allah?
2007-08-29 22:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her parents about it.. show them your real intentions and how you reallly love the girl... you know, maybe they would listen... just try... there's no harm in trying...
2007-08-29 22:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by YannaLICIOUS Cullen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋