So many times, when I have been happy, or excited etc, he says something cold, or rude, or inapproriate, and then I'm not happy anymore. For about the last 5 or so years, I've noticed it to the point where I hid my enthusiasm from him, hid what made me happy, or misdirect so he says cold, mean stuff about something else, but can't say stuff about what I am really happy about. Recently, i finally started to get mad at him for it. Feeling stupid for being happy in front of him. So he gets angry with me for being mad at him. Says I should just let role off, not take him seriously, give him the benefit of the doubt etc.
I finally asked him if he there something about me being happy, that bothered him, and told him what I noticed. He said "no", and that he does want me to be happy.
I'd be easy to blow him off, if he was a coworker, a clerk in the store, etc, but he is my husband. I've put distance between us to avoid the mess, and once I relax.., he does it again!
2007-08-29
08:49:46
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