i recently broke up with my wife and i really love her. should i fight for her and send her flowers and write her a poem to try to let her know im sorry?
2007-08-29 08:34:19 · 70 answers · asked by notaglumguy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just be yourself and learn from what you did to her in the past and approve communication now for the better
2007-08-29 08:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No to the first question, yes to the second question. In other words, give it your best try, but also give her the time and freedom to make her own choices. Rather than flowers or a poem, if you have the opportunity, talk to her face to face. Sit her down, hold her hand, look her in the eyes, and tell her all that is in your heart. Then put the decision in her hands and let her know you will be standing by waiting her decision. Then, totally and completely back off, and wait. Know that you too have free choice. If you get tired of waiting, you are free to move on. Yes to love, no to control and power. May the Blessings Be.
2007-08-29 10:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try, but you have to remember that there are things and people in life that you can't control and have to know when to let go.
The fact that you are apart says that she may need some space and time to think the situation over in her mind, but it is worth letting her know that you still care about her and are willing to try to change the facts that led to you and her being apart.
It may not be too late, but don't push too much and just be your self, After all, you are the one she said yes to once upon a time. Things never are the same, but don't stop trying or give up too easy! Best of luck to you two!!!
2007-08-29 09:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by Knarf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All costs? No, not at the cost of health, prison, self-respect.
Flowers and a poem wouldn't cut it for me. Does your wife put a lot of important on those things?
Either way, you need to figure out what the issue is and how you will avoid having it arise again so that you break up again. Just doing better doesn't help; you need to do something, maybe several things, differently.
2007-08-29 08:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't hurt to try to make a marriage work. Do what you can to try to win her back. The most important thing is communication. You both need to sit down and talk about what happen, and what you can do to make things better in your marriage, and apply the actions that you talked about.
But remember, if she's still pissed at you, then don't be overbearing, give her some time to cool off then try.Divorce is the easy way out, and a marriage is worth the work!
Good Luck! Hope it works for you,
2007-08-29 08:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by ~Jen~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm
If your wife is no longer in love with you, all the flowers, chocolates and poems in the world won't win her back.
If she is indicating that a reconciliation is possible, then by all means go for it.
If she tells you she wants to move on, then if you really love her you need to let her do that.
2007-08-29 08:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by candy'sroom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her than definetely fight for her love again. Let her know you are totallyu sorry and regret whatever it was that u did. Let her know how miserable u are without her and how much u need her. Let her know u r willing to do anything to gain her love and trust back again. Even if it means counseling. Send balloons-flowers-candy- a teddy bear! But most of all let her know your heart belongs to her and you will always love her and will do anything to win her back! Good luck to u
2007-08-29 08:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone that much you should move heaven and earth to get her. At the same time, I don't know why you broke up (hoping its not an affair!) cos the reason she's gone could be crutial, if you see what I mean. If you've broken her trust, you'll have a lot of work to do x x x
2007-08-30 08:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by I-Love-My-Boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go after her. You dont want to spend your life wondering if you could have been together.
You know her best, but maybe flowers and poems arent the best way to go about it? Unless you know shed like that. What about a really heartfelt letter? It doesnt have the cliche of a poem, but she can know how you really feel.
2007-08-29 08:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by itskungfu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on your situation. Not knowing your situation, I will say to an extent this could be true. One analogy that is beautiful is the freeing of the dove. If you set it free and it doesn't return, it was never meant to be. If it comes back then it is true love. Or something along this line. Hope for the best.
2007-08-29 08:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by B-DIDDLES 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you broke it off with her, of course you should do what ever it takes. Don't tell me you broke it off because you couldnt handle her telling you how she felt or how upset she is with you about something you did. so did you choose the easy way out and just brake it off with her?????
If it was something she did, give her chance because you know if you love some one not everything is going to beperfect in the marriage.
But if theres repeats of her mistakes I can not really say much because really I do not know how this came about. But goodluck and I hope it works out for the best and just listen to what ever she has to say to you no matter if you do not want to hear her talk so much, because at the end every woman wants her husband to just hear what she has to say and not him to just twist her words around ........ If its something where you cheated just listen
2007-08-29 08:46:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋