I was just curious on people's opinions because nowadays it seems that people fall out of love, cheat, or just do stupid things in a marriage. People divorce even after 5, 10, 15 years of marriage still. Do you think love doesn't last nowadays?
2007-08-29 08:42:49 · 10 answers · asked by Txgirl23 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A marriage is not an easy relationship to maintain, and the people that divorce are not willing to work at it. You begin to become so comfortable with each other that sometimes you get in a rut. You have to handle this situation properly, and that's where people have trouble.
A couple's sex life is diminishing, and instead of talking and trying new things, the husband or wife tries a new person instead. Instead of telling your spouse that something drives you crazy, you let it happen until it does drive you crazy. Communication: that's the whole problem.
After the "newness" wears off, people feel love in a different way, and often don't understand that. No, it's not ever going to be the same burning passion you first had...but it's just as great. People need to realize that.
2007-08-29 08:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things that have a beginning, typically have an ending.
Think about the days when divorce was rare. Back then, women typically didn't work outside the home, so if a couple did have issues and decide they were no longer a good match, where was that woman going to go? How would she support her kids (assuming she probably had some)? What jobs skills would she have had? Options were slim...a lot of people look back and think how rosy things were and marriages lasted a lifetime, but how many of those were truly happy marriages? Chances are MANY would've ended if those women had the same opportunities as women do today, and the same level of independece. They were basically trapped...today, we are not. People don't typically feel "stuck" in a marriage...conversely I think many also (nowadays) throw in the towel too easily because they can.
Love lasts as long as it lasts...it doesn't have to last until you die to have been a wonderful experience.
2007-08-29 15:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not necessarily.
It has more to do with the level of intensity. A couple who have been married for 10+ years are NOT going to be going at each other like newlyweds.
Also, you have to look at the reasons WHY those people divorce. Problems like abuse (alcohol, drugs, physical, etc), money problems, infidelity, and many other things all play a part in determining whether or not a relationship is strong enough to last.
Some marriages are a disaster from the get go and should NOT even have happened.
2007-08-29 15:45:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. I am more in love with my husband now than I was 10 years ago when we married. I don't think love "wears out" or that it has anything to do with the culture we live in. I think it works when you keep your priorities straight and work on the relationship. Communication is so important because people do change over time. You both just have to change together.
2007-08-29 15:48:03 · answer #4 · answered by RLW 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one falls out of love. The love goes away only when couples stop working at keeping it alive. Love is a verb, or an action word, meaning it takes constant work.
Look at couples who have been married 50 and 60 years. That's quite common as well. They know what's up.
2007-08-29 15:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I don't think people take it seriously enough anymore. I also think people should really really know the person they are with before they make a lifelong commitment. Marriage takes work and people aren't willing to work anymore. I think in some respects you lose the passionate love for someone but not the heartfelt love you should have for your spouse.
2007-08-29 15:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
true love never goes away it is always there but there are sometimes where the couple gets Bord of always doing the same thing and they beside to spice things up by doing something stupid but after they get caught they regret ever second of there mistake
2007-08-29 21:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by mr floppy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u are right , in this fast paced life people only seem to be capable of loving themselves . Why only marriages , even they cannot maintain relations with their parents for life.
2007-08-29 15:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by smashingdelite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes work. And some people dont want to do that work. It'll last if you make it.
2007-08-29 15:54:45 · answer #9 · answered by ~Jen~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to work on it and keep it alive
2007-08-29 15:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋