does telling husband, all the mean things his family doing to me is nagging?

Question

when things happen like 3-5 times a week and i tell each and everything rightaway and expect some responce. I DO NOT make him resolve things coz dats unfair i knw except when big things arises.

We have debates and fights over the way he act practically e.g if really horrible things happening and he goes to some particular member of family and keep laughing and pretend nothing happens.

Even when couple of his family members will say chat with him all the time and im sitting there but wont ever give me importance. e.g his brother's wife would be all so nice to our baby and even do drama of love and will only keep pleasing my hubby and ignore me all together.

He knws it but still will engage in chit chats with her and never ignore her back just like her husband (my bro-in-law) does to me.

when we have fights over such stuff as why he chatted with her, how come it becomes nagging which has to be stopped by me.

Answer 1

Do not come between your husband and his family. He will not like you complaining to him about them all the time. I know it's not fair but you really must stop NOW. Try to develop friendships away from his family and invite those friends to your home to entertain them. You could start by inviting your neighbours to dinner or a BBQ. Your husband will see that you can enjoy their company just fine and after a while he will realise, all by himself, that you are not to blame for any problems with his family. Good luck..

Answer 2

Its his way of controlling you, and you let him, simply said, your willing to bow down to his wishes or else it would never go like that nor got that far. What you can do about, stop nagging, really you've made your bed here, this is YOUR MAN, so your forced to deal with him and his families bs. I mean you could tell him how he is pretty much just making light of the fact that the family doesn't take ANY extra consideration for you. But I think the families behavoir is actually a symptom of how your hubbie there treats them, and also treats you with them. So really this is all his fault I'm afraid so of course he is going to do everything he can to keep you from getting to that realization. So stop naggin and just get with his program, its not hard just simple accept that you have no greater place in his life then the women he married.....