Are you flattered or upset when you find out someone has a crush on your spouse?

Answer 1

A good amount I have met grew a crush on my wife.

I can’t say that I felt flattered, nor can I say that I was angry.
All I can say I thought was in the lines of acceptance. I have to accept that my wife is a VERY beautiful woman. And it would be impossible to expect myself to be the only one appreciating it.

Unfortunately we don’t own our Spouses, we only love them. And if we are lucky; they love us back.

Answer 2

I am a little of both. I am more upset, because I don't feel that anyone should have a crush on a married man, however flattered because I have obviously made a good choice in a husband. Just get jealous and scared that my husband may let it go to his head..

Answer 3

I would be flattered in knowing that someone likes my man cos it's me he's with and goes home with.

So long as that crush goes no further than a crush,all should be ok. But I would definitely be on my guard for anything untoward happening,especially with the one thats got the crush,some people will stop at nothing to get what they want or cause trouble,regardless of who they hurt.

Answer 4

For me, I would be flattered until they did something stupid, like tried to make a move on him.

I see a lot of responses saying, "As long as my husband/wife doesn't act on it." Um, can someone say trust issues???

Like I said, if someone had a crush on him, go for it. I know he's hot. Actually, one of my best friends has repeatedly told me she finds my husband attractive. The key here, though, is that I trust both of them.

However, if she or anyone else were to try to make a move on him, my husband would then tell whoever to back off because he's married (can you tell I've gone through this before... hell, once when I was sitting next to him!).

I trust my husband, I trust my friend (hell, I told her her boyfriend was hot too.) The key here is TRUST. If you trust your spouse or a friend who has a crush on them, who cares? It's as innocent as a kindergarten crush. Even if you don't know the person who has a crush on your spouse, you should be able to trust them enough to take care of the issue so you can just sit back and laugh it off.

Answer 5

Upset

Answer 6

Depending on the extent of the "crush". If they just their good looking or hot , than i would be flattered. But if they actually would be real open about it or try anything i would get upset and take action. But otherwise, I would love it. I would be ha ha, i get him everynight! lucky me! I have had women have crushes on my husband before and men have had crushes on me before and it does make us feel good. I've even had women have crushes on me before that made my husband jealous and it turns him on. He just knows what a lucky guy he is.

Answer 7

good question. I'd like to think I'd be flattered that someone finds my spouse as attractive as i do. it's affirmation in a way. however, there is that twinge of jealousy. it's the insecurity in me. so, to answer your question, MOSTLY flattered.

Answer 8

I would be upset if that happened to me. I do not think that it is appropiate to tell someone that they have a crush on your spouse. If my husband were to find out that someone had a crush on him and I did not like it then he would let me know that I am jealous. What a jerk!

Answer 9

I'm flattered then suspect. Because I don't want them hanging out with my husband to try something. Of course, I need to trust my husband too.

Answer 10

Flattered if it stays that way. Upset when that "someone" starts flirting or bothering him.