I have been seeing a man for several months, however he lives out of state. We are both in the middle of obtaining our divorces and he has told me he wants to be married.
We have very strong emotional ties to each other ... and in contrast to what you may believe ... it is NOT all about the sex. We talk for hours ... about our hopes, dreams, trials, challenges. We accept each others opinions with open hearts.
So what do you think ... move in and test the waters or take the plunge and dive into marriage?
2007-08-29 13:57:51 · 15 answers · asked by girlielikesfun 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Things happen for other things to happen. This could be the relationship you both should have waited for, but instead, you guys went ahead and did something that was suppose to be for a lifetime. Anyways, that's life. My advice is to take it slow, get to know him a lot better, get on his nerves to see how he deals with it, but remember not to push it too far. No one should marry because the sex is good. When the time comes for true companionship and sex cannot help, what is going to happen? Just take it slow. I will not tell you not to go ahead, because maybe, just maybe this is the real thing.
Blessed.
2007-08-29 14:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jerrylee21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it plenty of time before taking the plunge. I dated my husband a year before we got married. It was definitely not long enough. He ended up cheating on my just short of our 2 year anniversary and we're separated and will be getting divorced. I'm not saying he will cheat on you but what I am saying is it takes a lot longer to truly know a person especially if you're already miles apart. Take your time and don't rush things. I've definitely learned my lesson.
2007-08-29 21:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely test the waters for a few months at least. Surely your first marriages would give you both an indication of what not to do this time round.
2007-08-29 21:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, don't dive into marriage!! You're both going through a divorce. Make sure you guys aren't eachother's rebounds. Make sure the bond and the dreams aren't based on the divorces. Make sure you have other things in common. Wait... give it time...
2007-08-29 21:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into marriage.. One mistake in a life time is enough.. Test the waters.. Watch your relationship if it is growing smoothly or getting stressed. Take your time to make the important decision.
2007-08-29 21:06:47 · answer #5 · answered by AdultMale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just getting out of a marriage...why rush right into another one? Take your time before diving head first into another marriage.
2007-08-29 21:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Jesus, woman... Take some time to get to know yourself post-divorce before you land in another marriage.
2007-08-29 21:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move in , save the divorce money for new furniture if it works out after a year.
2007-08-29 21:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by Glinda W 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh for heaven's sake girl...Run like your hair is on fire!!
Test the waters....You know being married you never know what you get until you live with someone. Good Luck!
2007-08-29 21:07:33 · answer #9 · answered by Cheri >^.^< 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Test it first and see where things go let your heart lead you into the right direction ! But do not rush into anything !!
2007-08-29 22:17:28 · answer #10 · answered by southernlove25 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋