2007-08-29 14:02:12 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We were each others first loves a very long time ago. I never married and when he did it about killed me because I was sent an invite. Other family members bring it up and he still lives the house they shared. I love him very much I always have. I guess I just never moved on and it hurts that he moved forward with his life.
2007-08-29 15:17:12 · update #1
You're not the second wife, youre the REAL wife. Wife number one was just practice.
2007-08-29 15:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Girl!
If U are having a problem with that right now, it is the best time, because U are not married yet!
U are the only one that has to get over it!! And just asking the question, means U have doubts about the whole thing, sooooooo......
Step back for a bit and weigh the pro's and con's of what the marriage will be like.....
if U feel this way and tie the knot.....don't think that everything will change or disappear magically once U are married, because "IT" Won't!!
Do U want to end up regretting it?! Do U want to possibly end up hating someone U currently feel LOVE for?!
Take some time and make sure U are Truly OK with everything!!
Ultimately U are the one that has to make the choice, should U stay?! or should U let go?! Feelings are strong to be on the steps of matrimony so....don't rush anything.....honestly, there is a problem and NO One wants to get hurt, U, him or anyone else!
Think about IT!!
Good Luck!!
2007-08-29 14:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by SuasGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it really bothers you and you can't get over it, you will think about it every time you get into a fight and put a wedge between you two. Most probably, it's no big deal for him.
Here's what you do - make sure you really love him and he loves you. If you know in your heart that you two were made for each other and his first marriage was a mistake, make up in your mind that "some men need to do things twice to get things right that some women only need to do once."
I know - I'm the third wife.
2007-08-29 14:16:17 · answer #3 · answered by notjemama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are already worried about this problem even before you have married him...then I would seriously consider talking to someone first. Being the second wife doesn't mean that you are second in his life. He is putting you first by marrying you.
2007-08-29 14:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by bethy4jesus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, if you are already thinking you can't be this man's wife because you are the " I DO ... TAKE 2" individual... you need to rethink the whole marriage thing. It is not whether you are 1st, 2nd or 3rd .. just that you love each other and are willing to work at the marriage to be the LAST wife he has. Good Luck.
2007-08-29 14:08:17 · answer #5 · answered by girlielikesfun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just do....why do you feel that you have to get over being second in the first place? His first wife is out of the picture I assume being that there are no children involved.
2007-08-29 14:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is there to get over? I'm a second wife and I don't see anything bad or wrong with being a second wife.I would like to know what you are actually feeling or thinking about as far as being a second wife is concerned.Please explain.
2007-08-29 14:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it you need to get over? The man had a prior relationship with no children involved. How difficult is that? He moved on in his life with you. I really don't get the issue. Did you have a prior boyfriend or boyfriends? Is he supposed to think he has to deal with that? This is life. Everyone has been with someone and some with more baggage. Get over it and enjoy your relationship.
2007-08-29 14:58:02 · answer #8 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be happy that your his wife for a start you could have ended up like so many other woman with a man that plays games with your hurt and does not want to make any kind of a comittment after being with them for years just enjoy your marrige and stop stressing over the issue you have him thats all that counts .
2007-08-29 14:10:44 · answer #9 · answered by springj_18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time we are in a relationship we learn from it, that first marriage helped in making him the man he is now. He learned his likes and dislikes and therfore you will have it easier because he has already figured alot of stuff out. Besides he made a mistake the first time and mistakes happen
2007-08-29 14:25:44 · answer #10 · answered by James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋