I found pictures and correpondence related to the affair. She went on several trips alone with him and I have no doubts about his intentions. Among other things he always took his wedding ring off. My wife claims that they were just good friends and she just enjoyed going to the places and events he was able to take her to. He is a very successful business man and actually attended our wedding with his( fourth )wife. I know that they have had continued long distance correspndence over the years. I don't suspect my wife of cheating on me with him since we have been together but the thougt of all of this bothers me. The affair occured almost a decade ago and my wife denies any wrong doing and that she just got caugt up in the lifesyle. I love my wife very much, but I can' help but have doubts.
2007-08-29 03:04:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I confronted her with everything I suspected/knew and I am certain she has lied to cover it up. I am not as upset about the relationship as I am with the lies that have followed.
2007-08-29 03:37:28 · update #1
Anything before you, has nothing to do with you.......so absolutely NO reason for it to affect you.
2007-08-29 03:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable to be insecure because of this man's success, but I say let it go dude. Even if she did have an affair with the guy, it was 10 years ago and you didn't even know her then. On the other hand, if you think they keep in touch a little "too" much you may want to worry though. If she was very young when this relationship took place she probably thinks of him as MUCH more than just a friend and there was a lot more to the relationship than she's fessin' up to. If you don't think they're too close now then don't worry yourself over it.
2007-08-29 03:36:51 · answer #2 · answered by b0rnbad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you're an insecure man... Not good, no matter who you deal with, you will always worry about the man before you. Don't you have a past, we all do. She isn't stressing you about your ex, so stop stressing her. Another thing, the more you stress a person or accuse a person of doing something that they are not doing, eventually they will do it. Be a man and love your wife the way she deserve to be loved.
And if he has been married 4 times, there is something clearly wrong with him. Trust me if your wife wanted him, she would be married to him, not you. Remember that....
2007-08-29 04:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by KSR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the past should stay in the past!
why would you not trust your wife because of something she might or might not have done over 10 years ago, before she met you?????
the important thing is that she loves you and married you. she made that commitment. if she wanted to be with him, she would have stayed with him or with the affair.
the point is that there is no use trying to fix something that is not broken... you wife has not betrayed you in anyway, and if she did have an affair with that man, it was in the past and when she was younger and immature... she's a different woman now!
2007-08-29 03:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All this happened before you were together with her so I'd let it go. Prior relationships are always hard to accept regardless of their nature. Just be thankful she isn't seeing anyone now and is dedicated to you. You may be particularly upset about this one because he was able to provide things to your wife that you cannot do as easily. But, it's in the past so my advice is to move on.
If it becomes a bigger issues and, somehow, you cannot let go then it could be a sign that there is something more troubling in your marriage. In that case, I'd recommend marriage counseling.
Good luck.
2007-08-29 03:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by Ken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. How would you like to be punished for something you did 5 years ago? You need to forget it.
What are you doubting? Yourself? There is nothing worse then an insecure boy. This not attractive at all. Be a man.
2007-08-29 03:35:40 · answer #6 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you were not dating what is the problem. I am sure you dated people she is not happy about either. But what you should focus on is the relationship you are in now.
2007-08-29 03:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by LadyRaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then let it go, it's called the past for a reason.
2007-08-29 03:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's the past....let it go. it had nothing to do w/you. as long as things are ok w/you both, don't dwell on it. it was a mistake she made and if it's true, i'm sure she's not proud of it.
2007-08-29 03:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, u cant help but feel a little jelouse and insecure but even if she did wats done is done and theres no point in getting mad about it!
2007-08-29 03:14:05 · answer #10 · answered by andrea1muneca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is the past and like i told another member ,If you don't have trust you don't have much left.You have to have trust!
2007-08-29 03:13:13 · answer #11 · answered by cjett63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋