the man is apparently bisexual and engages in polyamorous relations. The mother and father are divorced and the mother has relocated to where there is no familial support. Furthermore she is a doctoral student who studies educational psychology. The mother is financially supported only through child support from the father, financial aid and student loans.
2007-08-29 11:40:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the man is bisexual and engages in polyamorous relations. The mother has decided to also engage in polyamorous relationships but has always maintianed monogamous relations thus far. Is a child that's exposed to such sexual deviance, at this early age, being abused or exploited or neglected here? Aren't societal norms the standard by which children are taught right from wrong? (Keeping in mind that our society accepts monogamy as the norm in relationships) I take no hard stance on this right now and am wondering how people will respond to this. Thank you for pondering.
2007-08-29 12:48:58 · update #1
My question would be, why was the mother having sex where the child could witness? Why wasn't she in her bedroom with the door locked? And the MOTHER is NOT financially supported through the child support, that is for THE CHILD only. If mom want's support mom needs to get her butt out of that bed and get a job.
2007-08-29 17:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, calling the mother and partner deviant, and implying that she is a support junkie sure isn't going to help the kid. At 6 years old, the child needs to believe the Mom isn't bad, so being all disapproving about her lifestyle is far more damaging than the quick moment of confusion at seeing something he/she didn't understand. Mom needs to ask the kid what he/she saw, and explain in simple terms, no graphic details, that mommy and friend were having some private cuddling just for grown ups. Then she should buy a lock for the bedroom door. Also, your implication that the situation may descend into child abuse seems completely unsupported, except by your plainly evident desire to paint the man with the "evil" brush. Certainly, polyamory doesn't seem like a very healthy life, but as adults it's their choice, and has little bearing on their parenting skills.
2007-08-30 18:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends upon the child in question and what the adults were doing at the time.
All the extra information about the mother and father is irrelevant.
2007-08-29 18:47:56 · answer #3 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not sex with another man but sex without restraint!
I lost my son because I chose to be salty an course when my son flipped out on me and when I was getting fingered!
It lead to violance and more problems then it's worth!
2007-08-29 18:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by April Snow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sure we could of answered the question without ur financials..answer 2 ur ?-depends on how u reacted when ur child came in..ur child is only 6 yrs old-he knows something is going on but hes not sure what..ask ur child what is his/her interpertation..dont say to much but make sure u say the right thing..dont stress..buy a lock..good luck..
2007-08-29 19:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by resolucion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kids walk in on sex all the time - it isn't like she was planning it, and chose to let the kid watch. It's more embarassing for the adults than it is the kids.
As much as you'd like to make it a big deal, it isn't.
2007-08-29 18:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The child is scarred for life. S/he either becomes very sexually promiscuous or asexual. Therapy is needed ASAP to reverse some of the damage.
2007-08-29 18:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by your_dear_old_mother 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i dont know let me ask my niece
2007-08-29 22:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by mtnhotte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋