my friends husband works out of town and is only home on weekends..most of the time he doesnt even come home...he doesnt call her but maybe once or twice a week and she has found #s in his vehicle...he doesnt want her to come and visit him while he is at work, but all the other wifes of his co-workers do? What do you say to your best friend when you think the man she married may be a fraud?
2007-08-29 11:22:01 · 12 answers · asked by Mindy S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't say anything for fear of being made to look like the bad guy. What you do is simply wait until she finds out the truth on her own and then be there for her when she needs a friend.
2007-08-29 11:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
This is a very difficult one to deal with. No matter how good friends you are if your friend is in love with her husband there's nothing you would be able to say that would change how she feels. If you know for sure that he is cheating then yes you should tell her but its how you go about doing it thats important. Don't accuse him say things like i think i saw him with a woman last week etc or tell her how you wouldn't like being treated the way he treats her and that its not right etc. Let her make up her own mind just guide her and give her advise.
Best wishes
idai
2007-08-29 18:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by idai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don’t get into that problem. Is their private life.
As a friend, you can give her some advice, but be very careful as your friendship could end if things go wrong.
Just let her know is weird the way he acts, and that if you were her you would keep an eye open. Then just change subjects, unless she keeps on talking about it, then you follow up, otherwise, give her the hint and now let her take actions.
If she ask for help, then help her, otherwise, just offer once, that’s it.
2007-08-29 18:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't say a word. Get proof even if you have to hire a detective with your own money. Or find out the info on that show cheaters and maybe get them to do it. Once you find out for sure then tell her don't put her through that unless you know for sure. It's sweet of you to care you could even drive over there and snoop yourself maybe rent a car and go under cover don't forget a video camera.
2007-08-29 20:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you say nothing. She has to already have that idea, if my husband was not coming home during the only time he is in town there is something wrong and if he didnt call every night come on.
2007-08-29 18:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she knows perfectly well what type of man she's married to. Why embarrass her further by pointing it out? She has her reasons to be married to this guy; let her live her life the way she sees fit. There's no reason to point out the obvious; if she wants your opinion, she will ask for it.
2007-08-29 18:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you are her friend, she is the one responsible for deciding whether or not her husband is cheating. If you tell her that you suspect he is, then even if he isn't she will have doubts...and it isn't your place to put those doubts in her.
2007-08-29 18:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say "you think" that he isn't faithful! Do you want to ruin your friends marriage on something that you "only think"? How dare you say something that negative without any concrete evidence!
2007-08-29 18:32:58 · answer #8 · answered by K M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't ask you for your opinion ,don't say anything.If things are that obvious than she probably knows.This is her problem and until she wants your help keep your opinion to yourself.
2007-08-29 18:44:38 · answer #9 · answered by Julius C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't accuse him of anything unless you have proof. That would just be causing trouble.
2007-08-29 18:28:45 · answer #10 · answered by rebelyellniki 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋