we have been best friends my entire life and I'm getting married in early October. I want him to be the best man but I hope he doesn't say anything of an inappropriate nature.
2007-08-29 12:30:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he has Tourette's you know that there is a chance that he will say something innapropriate, specially because he will be under stress
My question to you is, are you prepared to forgive whatever he says just like you have in the past and have your best friend be there for you or are you going to judge him for something that he cannot control and have a "normal" best man?
2007-08-29 12:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Navyexwife 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As you know (but apparently not everyone here does) Tourettes can't be controlled. Not sure the drugs work either. (Cousin will know if they do for him.) The odds are "fair" he will have an outburst or two since he'll be under stress. But here's the deal. Pretty much everyone will know about him before hand and hopefully have some compassion here. He's a human being and has real feelings so I think it would be wrong to exclude him. You really need to talk this over with your future wife. If she is against it, then you have a problem. What you tell her is you are a very loyal person and your cousin has always been very kind to you so you are returning the favor. If she's worried about a videotape of the wedding being "ruined," advise her just about anything can likely be edited out later. If this still doesn't fly, try to make him an usher. That way he still has a part and feels like you haven't abandoned him. His self esteem has been taking a battering all his life. A wedding is a celebration of love more than anything, I think.
Kent in SD
(I used to work with Tourette's people as an
occupational therapist.)
2007-08-29 13:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by duckgrabber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the kind of question that gives me back some faith in the human race. Of course you can and i think you deserve a lot of credit for wanting him in your wedding. If he says something inappropriate it can be explained to those who do not understand later. He's your best friend, let him be your best man, it's your wedding.
2007-08-29 12:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not. It is YOUR wedding.As long as your bride 2 be is ok with it. If you can talk to him about the Tourettes ask him how he'd feel about being up at the alter and being your best man. Maybe he will say he'd rather not because of his disease. If he wants to do it then I'd have him do it.
2007-08-29 12:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by Desiderata 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister has Tourette's also. It would crush her if I excluded her from my wedding because of it. It's your wedding, who cares what others might think. As you know with Tourette's they cannot predict nor keep in these things. I hope you include him and just roll with the punches. Weddings never go perfect anyway.
2007-08-29 12:44:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is YOUR wedding, you get to choose who gets to be part of the wedding party. I think it would be a great idea if he was best man...and if he does say something "inappropriate" laugh it off, if he IS your best friend what he says because of his illness doesn't matter, what matters is his presence.
2007-08-29 16:49:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 09:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding, so don't ask us who should be Best Man.
If he is your best friend, though, he *deserves* to be Best Man.
Aren't there medications that can help alleviate the symptoms of Tourette's?
2007-08-29 12:49:21 · answer #8 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter. It's a family event and most will know about his condition in advance. I think it's a great suggestion and could actually wind up to be a great day for all!!!!
2007-08-29 12:40:18 · answer #9 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he's your best friend it really shouldn't matter what others think. if you want him to be your best man than have him be there for you.
2007-08-29 12:36:03 · answer #10 · answered by wannabhppy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋