My husband had a relationship for over a year with some pretty nurse. He says he only had sex with her twice? To top it off he left pictures of them together for me to find. What should I do? I feel so stupid.
2007-08-29 12:40:39 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him and find someone that loves you and wouldn't dream of letting someone like you go. HE LEFT PICTURES OF THEM FOR YOU TO FIND!!!! What kind of sh*t is that??? Move on!!!
2007-08-29 12:44:46 · answer #1 · answered by California Kush 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends is he sorry? Are you willing to deal with the pain that will follow you for a season? Are you willing to do everything possible on your part to make things right? Oh and he is lying he had sex more than twice he's already been caught he needs to fess up. I will warn you it is a long hard road but your marriage could end up all the better for it. Here is some material that I highly advise for you to get (he must listen and read what is necessary if he won't you biblically have every right to leave him) go to loveandrespect.com and get the cd sets for Love and respect and Cracking the communication Code. You can buy the dvd's if you wish they are a little pricey. Also there is a book I'm not sure of the name but it's part of the Every man's series just tell the book store employee your looking for the Every man's battle series the title has something to do with a broken heart it is to help you heal and find forgiveness which is very possible but also depends on his willingness to change. Good Luck
2007-08-29 19:54:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't feel stupid. Men can be so deceiving at times. I would first of all tell you to forgive him and give him one more chance. But my problem with his story is this. If he only had sex with her twice why is taking pictures of them together. So I would start to question whether it was just sex or if there really were some feelings there as well. Know this though, he is the one who should feel stupid for doing it in the first place.
2007-08-29 19:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lori B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not give him a second chance. He probably wants a divorce, but does not want to be the bad guy, so he left the pictures in a place you'd be sure to find them. You should get a good lawyer and file papers right away. You'll both be better off. If you stay in the marriage, you'll always wonder if he is off having an affair and that is no way to live.
2007-08-29 20:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by General Male Citizen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a min... You feel stupid ? did you know about it ? did you introduce them ? Oh boy... this is why men some can treat us so badly, because we except the the garbage coming out of their mouth! Surely you saw some signs? And if not, why would you stay with someone who treats you so poorly? Leave and go away for a week or at least a weekend. Surround yourself with family or friends that will help you recapture yourself respect. Don't tell hubby nothing. Let him stew. Then come back and do what some of the other people have suggested... Pack his crap in trash bags and sit it out side... Asta-La-Vista-BABY !!!!!!!
2007-08-29 19:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I went through this! Don't waste anymore time, file for divorce (hopefully no children are involved, that made my divorce easy). My husband cheated multiple times, always said he was sorry, finally told myself to wake up!! It was hard at first, but now I am so much better off. You just have to take that first leap and all the rest will fall into place, trust me! You don't deserve to me hurt by him anymore, leave him!
2007-08-29 19:57:17 · answer #6 · answered by Janna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel stupid. You didn't do anything stupid. He did. I say dump the loser and take him for everything you can. He is an imbecile. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You deserve better! Get out and get a good lawyer.
2007-08-29 19:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by nimat33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you fall for that bullshi*, your as lame as he is. You need to put your big girl chonies on, and leave his @ss. You are a great person with a big heart, don't let someone like him ruin you. You will find happiness, but you will have to go it alone for awhile. Keep your head up, and move forward.
2007-08-29 19:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by diablo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get all your money out of joint bank accounts and get to an attorney.
We left pictures so he could get caught. He is selfish
If you want him back get counseling because you are going to need it.
It is going to take a lot of work if you want this to work out. You have not said if he wants to work it out. If he doesn't get to the attorney fast.
Good luck
2007-08-29 20:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by Mighty One 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, if he was with her for over a year, they definitely had sex more than twice...so that's another line of bull he's fed you. Please realize that he will cheat on you again. Drop his a** and go find somebody who deserves you and will truly love you.
Good Luck!
2007-08-29 19:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by smileyc117 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he left the pics for you to find, it could be his chicken $hit way of telling you he wants out. I'd kick his a$$ to the curb and get on with my life.
2007-08-29 19:57:31 · answer #11 · answered by Elt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋