my boyfriend asked me to marry him! now what?

Question

i said yes.
HELP.
IT FREAKS ME OUT.

I am freaked out because i would rather not get up in front of everyone and be married, i think thats scary.

WHAT should i be doing now?

we have been together for about seven years, i dont know it freaks me out, everyone says congratulations, i dont know its just weird.

i just want it to be over with . thats all. i know that he won't do that he wants a big wedding and i dont, and his mother wants to be there, i would much rather her not be. i want like one friend from each of us to be there, and thats it. but no.

Answer 1

you need to relax and smoke some herb....or take a chill pill. You don't have to think about this all right now, sista!
Calm down....everything will be fine.

Answer 2

Now what? Now you get happy and start planning a wedding!

If you are afraid of being in front of a bunch of people to get married, then do a small ceremony with only your close friends and family (and his of course). If you two can afford it, do something small and nice. If you are tight on money, then do something simple, maybe at your house or his, or maybe at a park or something like that, and that’s it!

When my wife and I got married, we didn’t want to do something big, but as days went by, we started to get excited about it, and ended up looking for good deals, and managed to do a nice party for out family and friends and we really had a blast there.

But don’t freak out. You have been with your b/f… I mean, your fiancé for many years, so that is very good as you two should know each other very well. Probably getting married is more like signing a paper and saying “I do” than anything else. It was for me and my wife, with the benefit of a nice party and a week away in our honeymoon 

Just relax, sit down with your fiancé, and plan what you both would like to do. Try to be honest, ask him to be honest too, and try to come up with something you both can enjoy and be happy with. From a simple get together to a big party, the choice is yours.

I would worry more about where we are going to live, how to pay bills, and how to create a new family than the wedding event. Just relax and enjoy it, is your day after all!

Good luck and congratulations!

Answer 3

If you are not totally sure, or are feeling uncomfortable, talk to him. Explain how you are feeling, (if you can't then you really shouldn't be engaged) and ask if a long engagement (more than 12 months, or two years) is a possibility.
That way you have time to either come to terms with the idea, or find out its not truly what you want and end it before taking the final step and getting married. Better a broken engagement, than a broken marriage.

Answer 4

Are you freaked about the permanence of marriage? Take awhile and get used to being engaged. Congratulations! Have a long engagement. Think everything through and be sure of what you're doing b4 you make any other big/expensive decisions.

Answer 5

Well you should really think about it then. Do you really want to get married? Is that really what you want to do? It's not like you guys have to get married next month. You can just continue things the way they were only now your engaged. Just take your time and when you guys are ready to actually do the whole wedding thing, then do it.

Answer 6

Congratulations!

All I say is take it easy. Just be yourself and don't expect too much. It would be a long way to go before your actual wedding and anything could happen in between, unless you're getting married tomorrow.

And before you decide to be serious about it----ask yourself. Did you say yes just because you felt the idea of getting married is thrilling and romantic or are you really mentally and emotionally ready? (You should be mentally and emotionally ready.)

Answer 7

you shouldn't be freaked out. you should be happy. can you see your self spending the rest of your life with him if not you need to think twice about it and tell him. if you just don't feel like your ready yet but you know he is the one you can set your date a year or 2 after. good luck

Answer 8

Well - congrats - I guess !

Does it freak you out in a good or bad way? If its in a bad way, then you really shouldn't have said yes..... You need to really rethink that one.

If its just because you are all giddy and happy and you truely DO want to marry this guy, then just enjoy it.

Best of Luck to you.

Answer 9

What freaks you out? Your boyfriend? Getting married? What?

Answer 10

Then I guess you weren't ready and need to be honest if him before someone gets really hurt. Also you don't have to get married next week you can have a long engagement.....