My wife went thru my briefcase and found a receipt for where I took my girlfriend on vacation last December.?

Question

We've been married 4 years now (no kids), and now she's all pronked off cause I took this other woman to Florida. I say she's got no right to be pronked, cause she SNOOPED where she wasn't sposed to. I can't stand snoopers, and I'm seriously thinking about leaving her. What should I do?

I'd really like to hear from some guys, instead of a bunch of women who OBVIOUSLY endorse SNOOPING!

I cant believe how you ppl stand up for a snoop. Put yourself in my shoes. How would you like it if your spose went thru your stuff? And I dont care who you are, you can never hide stuff away from a snoop who is determined to snoop!

She is darned lucky to have me. I make good money and all she can do is wait tables at a truckstop. Maybe if she wasnt working every weekend, I wouldnt have to have a girlfriend!

I just went to bed and the b**ch is STILL giving me crap about this! And you think IM the jerk??????

One last thing, and then Im goin to shut up. My wife had already been to Florida when she was a kid. Her unkle took her w his family to Disney Land. My g/f had NEVER been to Florida before. Not even once! Period.

Answer 1

Well speaking from a wifes prespective. There has to be trust in a relationship-hell the marriage. I think that she feels like she's being lied to and she is....You have given her a reason to snope and when she did she found the answer that she was looking for. I think you should be a man and fess up. If you love her than you should go to counseling and try to make it work but as I see it you have given up and gone to another women so I would think that you both discuss the finances and part.....

You have fallen out of love or something has changed because you are with someone else. It's sad but you need to tell her so she can at least stop looking. You men never know how to hide anything. Not that I'm condoning this but you should have known better. It's you fault you got caught....Shame on you....

Answer 2

Wow, man, you have real issues.

For starters, maybe it was slightly and invasion of your privacy that she was snooping, but can you blame her? What would you do if you thought she was cheating on you? Oh...wait...it seems as though you probably wouldn't notice since you're off with some other girl on the side.

Men like you give all men bad reputations. You are part of the reason why alot of women have trust issues. You know what, there are plenty of amazing men out there that would never betray their girlfriends or wives. There is absolutely no way that you can condone cheating on your wife and then try to gain sympathy by calling her a persistent, nagging, "B*t*h".

She deserves alot better than you are giving her. She should kick you butt out of the house without mercy and give you a few black eyes as well for talking down upon her here. She's your wife you idiot! It doesn't matter that you make good money, you're obviously more interested in attracting other women with it than working to have a good, honest, and stable marriage.

I cannot even believe that you had the guts to post here.

Oh, and by the way. You're not a man. Men treat their WOMAN (notice:singular not plural) with respect.

Answer 3

You need to stop leaving more details, because every time you open your mouth, you just dig your hole a little deeper. Oh, and speaking of holes, I think you are a First Class ******. I have only one question for you. How did you ever convince this woman to marry you in the first place? You give men everywhere a bad name. You even make jerks look good! How could you even convince another woman to go somewhere with you? I don't care if she's ever been to Florida or not. She must be a skank, cause that's all you could attract. If you don't find an answer here, why don't you call Jerry Springer? But you've probably already been on his show, right?

Answer 4

I am going to try my best not to point fingers, as I think others should do but I do understand their anger towards you. i have lived my life far from perfection so to point a finger at you whether I believe you are in the wrong or not.. would be judgemental on my part. Besides Karma will take care of it anyhow. My advice to you. Even if she hadn't snooped hun. It is best that you leave your wife if you wish to remain with your girlfriend or vice versa. I understand you are pissed because she snooped, I mean marriage shouldn't mean that you no longer have "personal things".. but on the other hand. You can not blame her for being upset. Seriously think about it. She obviously snooped because had a gut feeling you were up to something. She loves you and you can't blame her for wanting to find out. You seriously need to get your priorities straight here. Either stay with your wife or stay with the girlfriend. In this life you can not have your cake and eat it too. You need to do some honest soul searching and figure out what your heart wants.. without anger. Are you really mad at the fact that she snooped or the fact that you got caught. Probably a bit of both. Just stop for a moment, breathe and think about this with a rational head. You need to let one go. If you can't commit to one then commit to none and be on your own for awhile. I have been on both sides of the fence in this situation.. neither is fun. But you have to be mature about this. Fact is you have caused a lot of pain here and you need to fix it...and fix yourself. I wish you all the luck in the world. Reese

Answer 5

Snooping is not the issue. You are only worried about that because you had something to hide. If you had no real secrets, you would not really care if she was poking around.

You were cheating on her with big bucks involved before she snooped. You were obviously unhappy with her in some way already and you are grasping at straws to justify yourself.

Buck up and act like a man. Leave her if you want, but stop lying to yourself about what is really going on here.


(Father of 4,married for almost 30 years now.)

Answer 6

All women don't endorse snooping. I think she found what she did not want to find. But that does not flip everything on her either. Both of you were wrong. You for your secret rendezvous and her for being nosy. You are at the root of the problem. You are the one with the infidelity. You actually were even more wrong for keeping your actions a secret in the first place. You are only angry because she found out. You should apologize and so should she and then the two of you need to decide how you are going to handle your problem. Just because you don't have kids don't mean you were any less wrong. Hope you get things straightened out.

Answer 7

I think that if you have full knowledge that your wife was gonna snoop and deliberately left the receipt there to test her, to see if she would snoop into your things since you know she does not trust you. If you are mad because she did exactly what you thought she was going to do maybe you should leave her. Regardless if she is a snoop I still think that you should of not have a girlfriend on the side but on the other hand maybe you should of talked to her, if you are making such good money why is she working full time at a truck stop anyways?? Is that her choice, maybe you both are doing the same thing.

Answer 8

Snooping isn't cool at all. I'll give you that, but why did you still have the receipt?....bad move on your part. If you're going to cheat, be smooth with it. COVER YOUR TRACKS! You asked for it though and if your wife had any common sense, she would be the one to leave you since you have a girlfriend on the side while still MARRIED her. you obviously don't love her. Stop wasting both of your time.

GET SMART AND GROW UP!

Answer 9

Well, I am a man, not a women that would endorse snooping.

You disrespected your wife and your marriage by lying and sneaking around on her along with your cheating and you feel hurt because she snooped and caught you.

Guess what, if you had not given her a reason to snoop she would not have done it. You also gave her the reason to be "pronked off" by cheating on her.

You might want to try honesty or do your wife a favor and hit the road so that she can be with a man that will love and respect her the way she deserves.

You need to grow up. Don't blame your wife for your stupidity.

Answer 10

Your wife is mad?? No stuff! If she needs to snoop then you are the one that needs to be left!! How would you feel if your wife tricked off her income on another man? FL too? Aw man you are a real piece of work!! Did you take her shopping and jet skiing while you all were there? Shame on the other woman and shame on u for being such a insensitive prick. Maybe she will leave you since she found what she was looking for. Hope she keeps a copy of the receipt for divorce court purposes!