Marriage & Divorce - 28 August 2007

has a theory most women 'want to take care of someone' & he already know she likes him hook, line & sinker.


Man in his 30's wants to bring her home, and purposely leave room a mess, with the hopes that she will clean it. He really does like her, and his this theory.


This a mess that is not a filthy, smelling mess, but more like clothes and random items strewn about EVERYWHERE.

I think that if he were to do a gradual build up of the mess, she'd be more likely to clean it than if she were to walk into a full mess.

What do you think?

2007-08-28 03:51:32 · 11 answers · asked by Reserved 6

How many of u are going to say that looks don't count? Looks are what makes a head turn, isn't it? I'm not anal, but it pis ses me off when people say "it's the inside that counts" then they ask "is he/she cute?" Initial physical attraction is a definite. So what one may find attractive, another may not - but you need to be physically attracted before you feel the chemistry.

2007-08-28 03:43:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been dating my girlfriend for 6 years, and we are now 27. We both love each other so much. She wants to make love with me. I don't want to make love with her just yet. I want to wait until we are 32 until we start a family. and plus, I don't want her to be pregnant at this time. I am planning to marry her soon, maybe at 29 ish. Will this effect my relationship with her? Will she think that I don't find her beautiful or sexy enough to make love? Have you ever been in this situation before? How did you felt when you wanted it but your boyfriend doesn't? Is waiting for marriage bad for the relationship? will she think I don't love her enough for marriage? I am sure she wants to get married since she told me.

2007-08-28 03:43:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

has anyone out there divorced his partner because of the inability to get along with his in-laws?The in-laws are critical, unbearable and self-righteous.

2007-08-28 03:43:17 · 18 answers · asked by noelle12345 1

my sil is my child's godmum. however the relationship between she and me is beyond repair. is it possible to "annul" the relations between her and my child? if yes, how? if not, what should i do? i cant bear the thought of my daughter following her in moral values & character!

2007-08-28 03:40:20 · 7 answers · asked by noelle12345 1

I've been having this problem for 3 years,my husband will not seek help for E.D nor will he show any signs of wanting to fix the problem
any ideas?

2007-08-28 03:39:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

This not a question I like to just "put out there"...

Sex, why am I always the one to initiate? Yes, I have asked and tried talking with her, but I get no response. Is there anything that I can Do to maybe spice up our bedroom talk? Please, any input would be helpful.

2007-08-28 03:37:32 · 13 answers · asked by tata51576 2

I know this guy from last 4 months and i really do love him... But according to almost all astrologers and websites.. I have some bad things in my horoscope and we cannot be a good match. If he gets married to me, he wud suffer health and career problems. I do love him and also scared that I dont end up giving any harm to him. Plz advice

2007-08-28 03:29:15 · 7 answers · asked by Confused 1

Been married 1 month; husband is never home, always going out with friends drinking. He ignores me all the time, making me go to his friends wedding on my 30th birthday after this guy has done several really inappropriate, hurtful things to me. Husband says I never want to go anywhere with him (but I'm not invited by him either). He says "it's my life" when I think it's supposed to be "our life" right? or wrong? am I being selfish and feeling neglected for no reason or should he ALWAYS be out and never with me? I'm very confused and very hurt and am willing to work on this if it is in fact, my doing. There is also a huge amount of affection missing on his part and I don't know what to do. When he said "it's my life" that really hurt me; maybe I'm wrong. What do you think?

2007-08-28 03:25:21 · 22 answers · asked by Jersey Style 5

He keeps reminding about her. What can I do?

2007-08-28 03:22:05 · 34 answers · asked by AJPierzynskis' 4

2007-08-28 03:16:18 · 11 answers · asked by blur8scar 2

Ok I am really confused by what my girlfriend is trying to tell me. She always has told me when we marry she will be %100 faithful. When we marry ? Does that mean she isn't now? I asked her repeadetly if she has cheated on me and she says no she has been faithful and I have no evidence.

I just can't fiqure out why she always says when we marry she will be 100% faithful to me and never cheat? It is like she it telling me she is cheating now, but wont' when we marry. She swears up and down she doesn't cheat, but I just don't understand why she would say that.

2007-08-28 03:15:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Petty. Ive been asking for my belongings for 4 months now and nothing. My wonderful ex boyfriend can't seem to make the time to either A: pack my stuff and set it out his front door. B: let me pack my own belongings. or C: take my stuff to a neutral zone so we can exchange it or leave it at a friends house for me to pick up.
I have brought law officials into it but I don't have proof that those things are indeed, mine...so I can't do small claims court.
But that isn't what is bothering me. What bothers me is WHY he is refusing me what is rightfully mine even though he makes more than the average American per year, is 23 years old and can afford his own stuff!!!. We were each other's first loves and moving in together was a first time for the both of us. Our breakup was about a 10 on the rick tor scale, it wasn't good. Is he trying to hold onto my memory? Is he waiting for the right time? or is he trying to mess with me, knowing that my stuff in his possession is going to eat @ me?

2007-08-28 03:08:30 · 19 answers · asked by ♥Beezy♪ 2

I was unhappily married for a long time. I loved him but we were so different, we divorced. I met a man who I 'm falling for. He's great. he's funny, handsome, smart. We get along great and enjoy each other's company. I wonder though, if all relationships are like that in the beginning? are there any red flags I should watch out for? I know I'm dwelling on this too much but I can't help it. I'm so happy, I feel it's not going to last... sigh

2007-08-28 03:04:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Th trend is ovbious: People are getting married later in life than ever before. People are waiting longer to make a commitment to their partners. There's also an icreading rise of people who just don't want to get married-they may juts have a baby togther whether by choice or not. Back in the older days people would get married right after high school. Although times have changed, what do you think will happen in the next few generations? Will marriage be very rare? If people are waiting so late maybe some people will just never get married, maybe they'll live together, etc. What do you think?

2007-08-28 03:03:58 · 9 answers · asked by FoodFitnessLife 3

A new law under consideration in Virginia would require men to register themselves and the name, address, and phone number of the woman they had sex with outside marriage, each time it happens. Not doing so would block them from any parent right claim should a child result from the action. The woman can still sue for child support or place the child for adoption.

2007-08-28 03:01:32 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

I recently got a new job and I got married 2 years ago and I'm already bored out of my mind. I do the same thing every day and I don't know what else is out there. My wife talks to much and it drives me crazy. She'll ask the same question over and over and I have to answer it each time or she gets upset and says I'm ignoring her. She is sweet as could be and does not know how annoying she is being to me. I should sit her down and talk to her, right? She gets all defensive and we just get in a fight, so its not worth it. I thought the new job would help but I think it's made things worse. This is the vicious circle of my life. I need some wisdom from someone out there. Anyone got any worthy advice for me?

2007-08-28 03:00:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've tried and tried to work things out but he just goes back to his old habits every time?
We’ve been married for almost 8 years now, we have two grade school children and I'm so unhappy! I do love him but I hate his unwillingness to help around the house at all. That's not the bad part...
He has a pill problem... (Xanax, vicodin) he doesn't buy them illegally because they are prescribed to him but he takes too many of them when he gets them and gets a buzz from it.

I take a different nerve pills myself and I've had to hide them from him because he kept taking them. I one day found him in my purse getting them!!! I've told him over and over it's a major problem. His best friend I (that used to have the same problem) has even tried talking to him and he doesn’t think it’s a big deal!!!
Would you leave??
We hardly ever have any affection towards each other but I know we do love each other. I just can't take it though. I don't want my kids to see him like that either.

2007-08-28 02:53:49 · 58 answers · asked by just me 1

I need to put my 8 year old in b4 school daycare at his school which will cost $200 a month. When I got divorced 2 years ago my child support was set for $404 a month not including childcare since I didn't use it. I called up my ex and asked him to split the cost of the daycare and he told me no. Can I take him to court to get help with the daycare? And if so how much does something like that cost?

2007-08-28 02:52:07 · 8 answers · asked by Frankie 2

I have been friends for 6 or 7 months to a woman that moved into our neighborhood recently. Both of us work from home, so we tend to visit throughout the day. A few days ago, we were sitting at my kitchen table, and we were talking about the new shade of lipstick I was applying when she said softly, "let's see how it looks on me". I held it out to her and instead of taking it, she leaned over to me and kissed me full on the mouth. I was in complete shock, butI did kiss her back. She drew back and then started laughing, saying "you should see the look on your face"! I began laughing too and I realized that she was just messing with me, but now I can't get that kiss out of my mind. I'm planning on telling my husband about it but have procrastinated. He's always fantasized about 2 women and I'm sure he would be okay with it. I've also thought about kissing her again. I don't think I would ever take it further than that though. Would you consider this to be cheating on my husband?

2007-08-28 02:50:32 · 32 answers · asked by jc 2

Ok-My wife and I have been married a year now. She has 2 kids from a previous relationship. The sex was great at first-but the minute I said I do, that ended. She must have been sexual before, right? Even our WEDDING night, she only did it out of ritual. All she wanted to do was open the cards and count $. I'm 25, she's 26. The kids were from 2 previous relationships with abusive guys-like pushing 30 years old when she was 18 with the first one. I guess she used to be into dope and have crazy sex with them. I'm the guy working my *** off now, raising the kids, and she would rather leave the room and let me masturbate then have sex with me. I kinda got the raw end of the deal, right? I mean, I'm only 25!!!! Other then sex, I really don't think she cares about me. She yells, calls me horrible names, and every couple days or so-she apologizes. Probably a result of shitty relationships. I know that she isn't cheating. What in hell should I do?

2007-08-28 02:49:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm being harrassed via text. Once a week someone is texting saying that I am messing w/her man and if I don't stop, she is going to f ukc me up at home or work. They know my name, so it's not a wrong number. Of course I am taking this threat serious. I confronted the man I am seeing and he swears he's not with anyone else and is concerned for me too. We think it's my ex-husband (I wouldn't put it past him) but I have no proof. The text actually has a number. I tried texting back but nothing. I tried calling and the phone just rings, no voicemail. I did a reverse lookup, I even paid $30.00 but there is no information on this number how is this possible?? they only told me that it's a cell phone from Verizon Wireless and the town the call is coming from. I 'm so frustrated I don't know what to do. Does anyone have any other suggestions on how I can find out who's threatening me? thanks.

2007-08-28 02:44:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I still want to work on the marriage.
I have two small girls.
If she threatens to throw me out, do I need to leave legally?
Can she call the police?
Should I offer to leave?

2007-08-28 02:42:00 · 38 answers · asked by James B 1

It's been 4 years since she dumped me. I was devastated. In my final contact with her, i told her if she ever needed me, i would be there for her. Out of the blue, she has emailed me saying she needs me & if i am still there for her. She has been telling me all the details about her current bf who she says treats her like crap & that she needs help/advise to get out of the relationship. I am trying to be helpful & supportive by telling her what a jerk this guy is & how she deserves better. She is very depressed & confused about the whole thing & is having a hard time figuring out if she is doing the right thing by leaving him. To make things worse, I recently found out that she has told people about our relationship.That I was abusive to her, that she left me 10 times during the 5 years we lived together & was never in love with me, it was purely lust. When she left me for the last time, I came home one day & she & her belongings were just gone, without a word to me. What should i do?

2007-08-28 02:34:21 · 12 answers · asked by jackmowack 1

time & it's making me feel very insecure. Our sex drives seem to be equally matched. We have sex almost every night with very few exceptions. When we go to bed, he will lay there & hold me but will wait for me to start the foreplay. If I don't he will say "I guess your not in the mood" or something along those lines. I kiss him, I give him oral (everytime) & I'm usually on top. I tell him over & over that I love to be kissed too & I certainly love oral & he knows my favorite position is man on top. What is the deal? Is it because he knows that I love sex so much that he doesn't have to put any effort into it or is he just a selfish lover. Last week I vowed to wait for him to initiate sex & guess what, after 4 days I finally got tired of waiting so I initiated it again. This is our only issue. He is a wonderful man & treats me better than any man ever has. He keeps telling me that he can't keep up with me (he's 44, I'm 40) & worries that I will leave because I'm not sexually satisfied.

2007-08-28 02:31:34 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and i have been married almost 3 yrs this comming month.We met and started dating when i was 19 still in college and he was 22 already graduated from college with plans to go for his masters or start his own business. When we first met he bailed me out of a fake ID situation and then asked for my number so i would feel obligated to give it.Well it turns out we were almost polar opposites personality wise(i'm low key vs.his out going) but had very similar vaules ,goals, and morals.Well now i am 27 yrs married with 2 great kids ages 5.5 and 2 with a loving husband but my best friend does not get why i cant go out with her all the time?Most of our friends are beginning to settle down so you would think she would get it but no?All she can be is angry and vent?

2007-08-28 02:25:56 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mind is CONSTANTLY at work. I am in a good relationship with a man who adores me. I have two beautiful children and a really good job. Why am I still so restless?

Anyone else feel like this? What do you do to stop the wheels from constantly turning in your mind and just relax?

2007-08-28 02:21:37 · 14 answers · asked by Mel 6

Please don't answer " go see a solicitor " as we are doing that but it all takes so long.

My fiance split from his ex 18mths ago after 4 1/2 years of marriage. She has left him sole carer of their 2 kids age 3 & 9 (1 isnt his) and she doesnt see them or pay mantainance. He lives in the marrital home which she only lived in for 4mths and in his sole name as she cannot get credit (she did have her name put on land registry tho after they split), she now lives in council accom with her fella. The settlement is going through mediation but I am now sick with worry. What will she end up entilted to ??? If she gets a share of the house when the youngest is 17 are we able to sell the house in that time and is my name able to be put on the deeds to that house? My fiance bought the house off his dad for 50K less than house is valued so will this be considered as it is early inheritence for my fiance and nothing to do with her. This is getting me down

2007-08-28 02:13:29 · 14 answers · asked by cavviecath 3

My wife has a part time job where she is responsible to buy certain items for our family. She always mismanages her money and ends up getting fined overdraft charges which puts her even more short. She then comes to me to make up the difference and to buy the items for our kids she doesn't have money for anymore.

2007-08-28 02:13:16 · 12 answers · asked by thebuffettour 2

Me and my wife will be married for one year Dec 21, I love her dearly, but i love another women just as much. both are very important to me and in my life. they know about each other and my feelings towards them both. i am afraid that one day they are going to make me choose between them.... it is a choice that i can not make... the other woman stands at myside as my wife and my high priestess in our Wiccan Coven... I am lost and confused on the matter......
I am married to both women, one by state and the other by religion. When i say that i mean that yes i have walkd both down the isle and said our vows, but my wife in my religion. she is only seen as my wife because i am the High Priest of the coven and she is the High Priestess. Both women are important to me However and i would do anything for either of them. my wife (thru the state) has been trying to talk me out of my religion since we met. Both share a strong bond with me. I am not asking for the ok to be with both women.

2007-08-28 02:10:52 · 15 answers · asked by Silver 2