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I recently got a new job and I got married 2 years ago and I'm already bored out of my mind. I do the same thing every day and I don't know what else is out there. My wife talks to much and it drives me crazy. She'll ask the same question over and over and I have to answer it each time or she gets upset and says I'm ignoring her. She is sweet as could be and does not know how annoying she is being to me. I should sit her down and talk to her, right? She gets all defensive and we just get in a fight, so its not worth it. I thought the new job would help but I think it's made things worse. This is the vicious circle of my life. I need some wisdom from someone out there. Anyone got any worthy advice for me?

Answer 1

Welcome to the world of being an adult.

Fun and excitement aren't going to come knocking at your door, you have to go out and find it.

You need to do 2 things, first of all start taking pleasures out of the little things in life, I know that sounds corny, but seriously appreciate the small stuff, sometimes thats all you get in life. 2nd find something you like to do for fun, and something you like to do for you. It could be going for a walk, joining a bowling team, drawing, reading, anything besides the normal routine of life.

As far as your marriage goes, you need to make fun time for just the two of you. Life, marriage all that only becomes a rut if you let it. There are a million things out there that you can do to mix it up a little. As far as her talking to much she probably feels that your falling in a rut, and is trying to reconnect with you to bring you out of it.

Slow down and have some fun.

Answer 2

Ha, ha. I have some sites on my profile that should clear up the matter. Email me with any questions. I have one tip. If you develop good intuition you will find that she is several levels in for most, I'd say four or five and then you will find her and life very interesting indeed. You have to be in the present and very, very observant. You will see all you have been missing. You don't even know your own depth. Go within, or go without. Also life is actually changing by the second and we can see it if we are alert, awake and can deal. The mind can go at warp speed and life can happen as fast as a Mario Bros. game and you have the controller. If you fall asleep in the middle you don't get the ending, just a fight. Men think too big, in a way and miss all the details. If they thought bigger they'd see both.

Answer 3

If your life is boring, then make some small changes. I didn't see kids listed, so, here are some thoughts. Rent movies for a Friday night with your wife, ones you both will enjoy. Take her out on the town and have fun, go to dinner or movies, miniature golf, or whatever! Have some fun. As for the same question, I can't help you there other than maybe ask her why she continuously asks the same one. Maybe she is looking for further explanation?

Answer 4

Find something, an activity or hobby, that you and your wife have a common interest in.

I've been married for almost 8 years, and it's been a rewarding experience for me. We've had our ups and downs of course, times when we've both been bored with our daily lives or our relationships, but we've persevered and moved forward together.

For us, it was finding a good church to attend. If that's not your thing, I encourage you to work to discover what that "thing" is.

Your spouse will be the closest thing to heaven on earth that you'll ever know. This life is about building relationships.

Put more energy into yours with your wife. You'll reap the benefits in countless ways.

Take care. Persevere.

Answer 5

Beat is right it's in your hands to break the cycle and do different things with your wife. And get rid of the routine.

Answer 6

I am with you. I will be reading your answers to find something for me. Thanks for asking that question.