How can I find contentment?

Question

My mind is CONSTANTLY at work. I am in a good relationship with a man who adores me. I have two beautiful children and a really good job. Why am I still so restless?

Anyone else feel like this? What do you do to stop the wheels from constantly turning in your mind and just relax?

Answer 1

I had a really good paying job, a really nice house and a good man that was my husband and I was always "thinking and doing" and busy and thinking. I couldn't figure out why I was so unsettled.
Well, that really good job I had, while it paid good, was not the job I wanted at all...and I was there 18 years. I was very good at my job...but it did not fit my personality at all. After I left there and got a job that was a lot fun, it paid less, but I got into an atmosphere that I loved and everyone saw a great big change in me.
You say you are in a relationship with a man who adores you...not a "husband" that adores you. If you are not married and want that connection and don't have it...that alone can be so unsettling.
Try to make sure you are in a full relationship and a work environment that pulls the best part of you out!! It is possible. I know!!

Answer 2

I feel the same way. I know the things I have should make me happy but I feel like there may be other things that I really want in my life other than what I have. Just because things look like they should be perfect doesn't always mean they are or what we really want. I know that I have some things I regret and maybe that makes me have issues to. Sometimes I look around at my life and wish I could start over and change everything about it. There are a bunch of times that I wish I could go back and do things differently, like going back to school or waiting on doing some things. I think I do things in my life that I maybe shouldn't do and want to go back to the way they used to be. It really drives me crazy. I always wonder if I'm making mistakes or if I should be doing things different. I wish I knew the answer to this too!

Answer 3

Mel, You can't relax...there is always something that needs to be done. Wonderful husband, with two beautiful children and a good job, Count your blessings and know you are not alone. Some will say drugs...but I say time. There will be lots of time to rest after the kids grow up and go off on their own. You and hubby will settle in and grow old together, rocking on the porch talking about how busy you used to be and how you miss it! If your looking for that quick relax fix, lock yourself in the bathroom with a bubbly bath and a glass of wine...time out for Mom!! You will come out refreshed and clean! Two for the price of one!! Enjoy your life, it goes by so quickly!

Answer 4

I have the same problem! I have a beautiful new baby and a man that is willing to lay the world at my feet, but I just feel like I need to do more, be something more....It's not that I'm not happy, because I really am, but I'm restless too and feel like I could do more than just be a great mom and wife.

My mind is constantly searching for activity, for challenges...I think that in my case, I just need something that'll engage and exhaust my mind-like going back to college. Nothing wears you out more than a long study session.

I wish you good luck! Find something challenging and exciting that'll exhaust you so much, you won't want to do anything more than relax!

Answer 5

although you seem happy seeing to the kids, husband , general running of the household and keeping up your job i guess you are feeling there must be more to life than that. I suggest allocating one night a week for a girls night out with a couple of your friends ( your husband can be offered the same to make it fair) . Choose another day of the week ( when you will have some spare time) to pamper yourself and do a diffrent thing each week eg Hair, nails ,massage ect. If you have ever wanted to do things and have not gotten around to doing them ( eg bungee jumping, riding , volenteer work or doing a course on something ) start doing them now.

Answer 6

It sounds like you really need to talk to your physcian. He can refer you to a counselor who can work with you and your physcian and possibly prescribe you something. But you can also try this: FOR ONE DAY -- have someone you trust take the kids. Go get a massage and facial... turn off the cellphone, email, house phone. Put on some soothing music and soak in a bubble bath. If you like mixed drinks, pour yourself one and just unwind! It really sounds like you have too many irons in the fire and you just need some very crucial 'ME TIME'. Good Luck!

Answer 7

I have the exact same problem..... I would find a lover, and that would work for a while but when that falls apart, I am back to squre one... always thinking i'm missing out on something.... but I have everything!.....

So now we have got back together with a couple we knew before we got married, they have kids too now, so we are starting to go out with them (no kids), and we also go away with them on small trips....

Seems to be ok, but i still sometimes feel like I am missing out on things,,, I have to keep telling myself not to think about it too much.....

Answer 8

Because somewhere in there you are not happy. You have the things to make you happy but you aren't.

Happiness comes from within, you need to get some professional help to find out what is going on. If you don't, you will sabotage your life. You are already beginning to do that now, aren't you?

Answer 9

Prayer and meditation. I read a really good book once by Joyce myers called Enjoying where you are on the way to where your going. It really lifted and encouraged me.

Answer 10

you need to take breaks from every day things, learn to be good to yourself. Take time for some personal pleasure