How many of u are going to say that looks don't count? Looks are what makes a head turn, isn't it? I'm not anal, but it pis ses me off when people say "it's the inside that counts" then they ask "is he/she cute?" Initial physical attraction is a definite. So what one may find attractive, another may not - but you need to be physically attracted before you feel the chemistry.
2007-08-28 03:43:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry It is whats on the inside!! Some of us aren't shallow when it comes to how people look. Looks fade in time but, their heart doesn't......
2007-08-28 03:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes Sweetie!
That's not the case with people ALL the time.
There are people that speak over the Internet and phone
and fall for each other sight unseen.
But I DO agree with the statement.
Usually we see something we like
then we become interested in knowing more.
But what I think most people try to say is..say
you work in a office with about 30 people.
Men and females. Everybody is average looking
and some are more than average with the usual
attitudes. But there is this one man that's not the most
handsome person in the office but one of the sweetest, smartest
man you ever met. What happens then?
You know this man but he's not all that good looking, is that going to stop you from asking him out?
2007-08-28 10:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lady T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the most part you are correct, but not completely. Let me tell you a story. I met my soon-to-be ex husband when I was 18. He is not a good looking man. He is extremely skinny, his hair feels like straw, he walks with a limp...I could go on and on. To get to the point, he has no attractive physical attributes. I was attracted to his because he had a good personality, a big heart, and a great sense of humor. So in conclusion, yes physical attraction is usually the first step, but not 100% of the time.
2007-08-28 14:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by Nutmuffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say this: when you accidentally call some one and its the wrong number, the person sounds hot, you know u would try to initiate a conversation. i do believe that its the inside that matters. of course it depends on the vibe that u transmit.
if your really insecure that's what u give out to people, that u are the ugly duckling.
but if you show Ur self as being secure, feeling sexy, talkative, professional, etc.
thin and pretty = selfish
thin, pretty, and wealthy = insecure
knowing that a fat chick with personality will eventually take Ur man = priceless
lesson" looks aren't everything, he can be the most handsome guy in the world, but the fact would be that he would be dead inside"
2007-08-28 11:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good to have physical attraction, but in the long run it is the emotional attraction that determines if a relationship is going to work.
And, all the "is he/she cute?" is typically asked by teenagers and immature 20 somethings.
I do believe looks do start relationships in most cases but not all. Plus, if you trying to meet someone you probably want the best of both worlds, someone with a pretty face and great personality.
2007-08-28 10:49:07 · answer #5 · answered by jbahhh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Agreed. There are a few circumstances, though, where a romance can develop from a friendship. Then looks really aren't the number one factor, the person is.
I had a friend that thought her husband wasn't attractive when they first met, (she called him a geek) but they worked together and over time she got to know him and they ended up married with 2 kids. They've been together 11 years now, but if they hadn't worked together, they wouldn't have gotten together.
2007-08-28 11:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make a good point, but I'm not sure what your question is and what it has to do with Marriage and Divorce.
Sure, there should be some physical attraction, but the personality and character should count for much more.
2007-08-28 10:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely looks count. But it isn't always the same look that turns all the heads. There is something about a person that is comfortable in his/her own skin that shines through. And none of us find all the same things attractive.
2007-08-28 11:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by Brent 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, no.
I wasn't physically attracted to my spouse when I met him. However, mentally I was very turned on. I continued to see him and chemistry happened because of the way he treated me and his intelligence.
My best relationships before him where with men I was not physically attracted to and in one case I never became physically attracted (but was on every other level).
2007-08-28 10:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of anyone disagreeing with that. Of course it shouldn't be all that matters, but you HAVE to be attracted to someone, if not at the beginning then eventually.
2007-08-28 10:49:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋