How do you choose between two women whom you love dearly?

Question

Me and my wife will be married for one year Dec 21, I love her dearly, but i love another women just as much. both are very important to me and in my life. they know about each other and my feelings towards them both. i am afraid that one day they are going to make me choose between them.... it is a choice that i can not make... the other woman stands at myside as my wife and my high priestess in our Wiccan Coven... I am lost and confused on the matter......
I am married to both women, one by state and the other by religion. When i say that i mean that yes i have walkd both down the isle and said our vows, but my wife in my religion. she is only seen as my wife because i am the High Priest of the coven and she is the High Priestess. Both women are important to me However and i would do anything for either of them. my wife (thru the state) has been trying to talk me out of my religion since we met. Both share a strong bond with me. I am not asking for the ok to be with both women.

do don't judge my religion harshly... even my coven scorns me for my lack of decision in my personal life....

thank you all for your opinions... most are saying to stay with the one i spoke my vows to... i spoke vows to both of them... One made the comment to think of it as if both were in a burning building and i only have time to save one... I would still try to save both or go down with the building tring....

Answer 1

Don't expect much support here, dude. People on this board are trapped in tradition and what they personally think is moral, having no respect for anyone else's set of views.

If the relationships are in the open and both women are okay with it, then you are indeed living every man's dream. Why mess with it?

Answer 2

What was the purpose of marrying outside of your religion? Sounds like you want it all without compromise and you expect them to follow you. You can't have both unless both are willing, and if they are not willing to merge to a poly family, then you need to decide what is more important to you.

Why you married someone who does not agree to your religion when you know how important that is to your religion makes me wonder how much of a believer you are. I think you need to start with that.

Answer 3

okay, im thinkin that your wife is the most IMPORTANT woman in your life....the other woman, well, you didnt say " i do" to her now did u? those vows on your wedding day was a PROMISE to your wife...if u love them both "just as much" then what are you doing? stay w/ your wife? theres no problems then.... u need to get rid of that other woman, as hard as it may be, but you will be glad u did. as far as your religion goes, im not going to judge YOU, but i will say something about the religion and what u are doing.but if u tell all of us not to judge u about it, u obviously must be convicted that its wrong anyway... your religion is evil...theres nothing good about it truthfully.i dont understand Wiccan or whatever its called, all i know is that whatever your "god" is that you worship and let control your life isnt really there. its a worldly, man made/derived religion, and this is why your life is messed up. the only REAL god out there is Jesus Christ. once you realize that he created you, died for your sins, and loves you and wants a relationship with you, you'll see that life is GOOD, and worth living for. good luck, and i hope you see whats right.

Answer 4

Stop this nonsense ,religion has nothing to do with this.You are just another selfish bum who is taking advantage of two woman who were foolish enough to fall in love with you.You are not going to make any decisions because you like it this way.I hope there are no children involved.High priest,what a joke.

Answer 5

Very strange..........VERY!

You will probably be forced to choose. While some women may have been "OK" with this situation early on, as they became closer to you, they want you all to themselves. WOmen are like that, they do not like to share.

You will have to make a choice I am thinking, by reading what you wrote, or risk losing both women.

Answer 6

Please choose to stay with whomever you married/took you vows with first. For she is the woman that you promised yourself to first. Leave the other woman!
It is so wrong for you to be pulling them both along. I don't even know how both of them can know this matter and both choose to stay by your side.

Answer 7

I say you don't choose between them....you walk away from both since having both is creating such havoc in your life and you can make a decision between the two.

Answer 8

you're able to desire to stay with Anne. You and Ellen could desire to have on no account gotten that close. you will see a great number of captivating human beings on your lifetime yet you won't be in a position to react to all of us which you notice. whether you chanced on her pleasing, you're able to desire to've left it as that. in keeping with hazard Anne could not supply you suggestion because of the fact she did not be responsive to what to assert. a minimum of she listened. in case you adore her, do not shrink to rubble. it extremely is often going to look like all element is great with a sparkling guy or woman because of the fact that's the way it consistently starts off. carry on with what you be responsive to. administration your self. You and Anne can stay mutually and be in a courting. a marvelous style of human beings won't be in a position to assert that. you have already got something completed. i've got confidence which you're in lust with Ellen and love Anne. there is going to be a marvelous style of Ellens passing by your life, you purely could desire to love Anne adequate to bypass away the probabilities of yet another women folk on the place of work door in the past you bypass residing house to her. you will unfastened the two considered one of them in case you do not come to a decision quickly. i desire you do the surprising element and choose Anne. you won't be in a position to probable love Ellen merely as plenty and you and Anne have been mutually longer. That appropriate there could desire to tell you that is not love.

Answer 9

Wow. You lead a complicated life. How do you have time for a job? Your life is so intense it makes ME tired just reading about it.

Answer 10

in my opinion, you don't love either of them... if a building was on fire, and each woman was inside, one on one side and one on the other, and you knew you only had time to save one of the ladies before the building collapsed, who would you choose??? who would you try to save first??? hmmm...