2007-08-28 03:16:18 · 11 answers · asked by blur8scar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Who did it? Was it valid? Di you deserve it?
If it's a boss, because you made the same mistake 6 million times or did something really wrong... Or your parents, because you really screwed up, or is it a friend just to be mean. Depends on what it is!
2007-08-28 03:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by Down to earth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no "must"...they deal with it as they choose. If the criticism is valid, then take that information and work with it, and try not to concentrate so much on the harsh delivery. If the criticism isn't valid, then I'd politely correct the other person but thank them for their concern.
2007-08-28 10:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at the criticism objectively, if there is truth, make a decision on what to do to improve on yourself, if it's not true, let it go. You can always state "Please talk to me with more respect", or "I'm not comfortable with the way you're speaking to me" if the person won't stop the harsh criticism, walk away. No one deserves that kind of abuse. Realize it's the other person that has the problem - not you.
2007-08-28 10:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be strong enough to simply take it and shrug it off as someone being an ignoramous or just being a hater on you. Realize that no matter how nice you are to people there will always be those that will want to pee all over you. Not in a fun sexual way either. Lots of individuals get self-gratification from either watching someone suffer or making them suffer. It's a sadistic thing which I wish people kept in their bedrooms but i imagine it comes form being in a culture with such hypocritical views of things.
2007-08-28 10:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends what kind of criticism. If you are in a marriage and it is not loving or worth continuing, then get a divorce. Harsh criticism is something that I think maybe can't be forgotten or forgiven. Just plain mean. Right?
2007-08-28 10:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on who is dishing and how tactful there are being. If its a spouse, they can be brutal. Then again, it may be them that opens your eyes.
As for handling and dealing with it. You can be the bigger person and bite your tongue, truly think about it and maybe make the change or changes mentioned. Or, you could just tell them to go screw themselves. LOL
2007-08-28 10:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to read about abuse. Borderline personality disorder is a good start, the most common personality disorder in America. You can't fight it if you don't understand it.
2007-08-28 10:20:39 · answer #7 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use it as a learning tool. Take the positive from it and leave the rest behind.
2007-08-28 10:19:46 · answer #8 · answered by comeundone4162 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take a good look at his own behavior and fix it ... he must not wear rose colored glasses....
2007-08-28 10:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to put up with this, walk away.
2007-08-28 10:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋